would you let your 13 year old do this?

Question

would you let your 13 year old girls stay outside with her guy friends and her girl pals. you check up on her every 20 mins or so.

my 13 year old was saying that wat would she be doing out there. but the boys that r her friends she likes. now i had my daughter at 15 so i k no wat she could be doing but she says"what am i gonna do that out in my back yard with my friends watching" is that a clue?

Answer 1

defintely keep checking on her. but maybe every half hour or so. make it discreet, like bring out sodas or chips or something.

it's good that you care, not enough parents do.

Answer 2

Of course the simple answer is no.

But I do agree she's not that likely to try a stunt in a backyard, even if hormones get the best of both, it's still taking a big chance. Even thou I feel like the devil's advocate, if pregnancy is what she's so determinedly after, she'll likely achieve this regardless of prohibition other than she'll hide from you and become sneaky about it.
Given these options, openness is still the better choice.

I suppose a short lesson on the effects and consequences of a pregnancy at this time may be all that you can do, perhaps let her know that the guy she would want to spend the rest of her life with likely won't fall from the sky so easy, but whether this will change anything is quite another story.

Not a whole lot you can do once they get a certain age, they get rebellious and want to take shortcuts and you can see the disaster coming, but what can you do when experience teaches us things are unlikely to change anytime soon?

Perhaps this mindset could've been prevented from way earlier, perhaps not, I do not know. But I do know if she's acting a certain way now, it's likely as much a matter of letting her mess up, if such is to be it's not because you approve, but be a good parent by being there to pick up the pieces.

To conclude, I wish you both the best of luck and lets hope nothing happens.

Answer 3

No way, Jose! A 13-year-old is WAY too young to be playing those games. And you are fooling yourself if you think that she's "just talking"....you had her at15. Don't be naive. Do you want to be a grandma at 30???

No. I think that 14 is old enough to have SUPERVISED boy-girl parties, with parents in house, if not in the room. 16 is old enough to start group dating (which is what she's talking about here.)

Why do we grow our kids up so fast? It's not right! These poor kids have the rest of their lives to be adults, do adult things, make adult decisions and have adult problems. It's unfair to saddle them with this at so tender an age. Don't YOU wish that you'd have been able to finish growing up before you were thrown into the adult world?

Answer 4

I'm not sure I understand. Do you mean like overnight in a tent or something...if that's the case then no way.
But if she just wants to hang out with her buddies in your backyard I don't see any harm. You will be checking up on her and her girl friends will be there too so it should be okay.

Answer 5

Yes, I would. You need to give her some space and privacy as she grows up, but I agree, you are right to keep checking on her. There's nothing at all wrong with that. That way she knows that even though you're not "there" with her you could pop up at any time.

Answer 6

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Answer 7

I wouldnt allow my daughter to have a boyfriend at 13

Answer 8

before she goes out i think u should talk 2 her and tell her that ur trusting her enough 2 go out and that she will have 2 call u not u call her its more of her have a responsiblity try it and if she doesnt do it u shouldnt let her out o her own

Answer 9

Yes I would. Just keep checking on them.

Answer 10

Sounds responsible to me. It is your job to know what your kids are doing and they aren't about to tell you everything so letting her know you have an eye on her will let her know you care.