Have been with my boyfriend for a year now and I mentioned the other day about me moving out hoping that he may say "oh maybe we can move in together soon then" but he never all he said was that he would prob live with his parents for the next 10 years or more he's only 20 and im 24 but I couldn't believe that he said that it was kinda upsetting in a way and is now making me think do we have a future together?
2007-03-18 08:20:02 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Most 20-year-old men aren't as mature as women of 20 and he's been honest enough to tell you how he sees things at present. He probably feels that he's got lots of living to do before he settles into a real partnership relationship. He may well change his mind in a few years, but he may not. The question you have to ask yourself is, are you prepared to wait for another 10 years! If you feel that perhaps you're more serious about the relationship than he is, perhaps you should have a serious talk with him, when each of you can be honest with one another. Might end in tears, but at least you will know where you stand.
2007-03-18 08:33:10 · answer #1 · answered by uknative 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well well well...He's only 20 years old! You're 24, more mature, more experience in life. He doesn't know what he wants yet, he's prolly still searching for what he really wants. What you need is a man with a nice career, someone who will like you and need you as a person and a guy who will appreciate you for who you are. If he says he's going to be living with his parents for a while, don't you think that he doesn't care about you?! Obviously if he really cared, then he would've said something like you wanted. Just dump him and move on to bigger and better things, TRUST ME...IT'LL WORK OUT IN THE END! :-)
2007-03-18 08:25:19 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's still a young lad and need's to live his life to the full before he thinks of settling down.
It doesn't mean you dont have a future together, dont put 2 and 2 together and come up with 5 but dont put pressure on him either, when he's ready to set up home with you he will.
Just enjoy the relationship you've got and dont read between the lines every time he answers your questions.
2007-03-18 10:16:04 · answer #3 · answered by The Original Highbury Gal 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If a woman had said that when I was 20 I would have gone running to a dentist to have all my teeth pulled out first. He may, or may not love you...that is between the two of you....but he does need to start doing things for himself....we like our "hotel" life...the real world is horrible.
2007-03-18 08:26:59 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No wonder; he's far too young. If you did manage to tie him down at this age you would only live to regret it anyway. Find someone a little older than you or wait 10 years until he is ready - after all he has been totally honest about his intentions.
2007-03-18 08:28:49 · answer #5 · answered by freddy the newf 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He's a guy and thats the problem with commitment, he probably hasnt thought like you have. There is nothing wrog with you but men dont seem to think in the same way
2007-03-18 08:32:39 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you are more mature then your boyfriend he obviously doesn't want to settle down yet and he is still young with his whole life ahead of him, if he cant offer you the commitment you want maybe you should call it a day and look for some your own age or older who is ready to settle down
2007-03-18 22:53:11 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Move out without inviting him to share a place with you. He has a problem cutting himself loose from his mother's umbilical cord.
2007-03-18 08:26:26 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
maybe he's scared or threatened that because your older, your the one wearing the trousers in the relationship
2007-03-18 08:23:02 · answer #9 · answered by 18/M/Scotland 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, he told you where he stands.
2007-03-18 08:38:07 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋