They got into it a few months backs and he moved out....but now he is back. My daughter doesnt like this, so now she isnt speaking to me and she slamming doors, she dont want my granddaughter around me. I keep my granddaughter while she goes to work ....and she threating to move out. So what should i do.
2007-03-18 07:57:26 · 14 answers · asked by ? 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
If your boyfriend can't support himself, you shouldn't give him the time of day. If your daughter can't keep her own place and arrange daycare, you should give her two weeks to do so. You're being used by everyone else in this situation, and they are using emotional blackmail against you. If you look to your granddaughter as being the one who needs and loves you, guess again. She will learn to use you, too. The only way out of this is to take your own life in hand, stop begging for approval from others, and suck up the losses.
2007-03-18 08:50:54 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
She should be out anyway. It's your home, and you choose your relationships. You have been grateful enough to babysit your granddaughter while your daughter is working. Does your daughter compensate you for any of that? It could be some sort of trade. Seriously, ask her to find her own place. If you've been good to your granddaughter, then I think you have nothing to worry about with your relationship with the child. Those threats tell me you are worried of being separated from her. You have to let go of it, and not allow your daughter's manipulation and threats to keep you from living your life with a man you choose to be with. Sorry if this sounds so harsh, but your daughter is an adult, yet not acting like one. You are not the child. Stand up for yourself and stop enablling her. If she resents you from this, and she probably will, just know that it's not your responsiblity. Don't give in to it. You need to be free, and I think that's what you want. Otherwise she will continue to treat you this way. It's a choice of yours.
2007-03-18 15:31:11 · answer #2 · answered by sweeta : 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is just my opinion, but I don't think you should have a live-in boyfriend while you have a granddaughter living there. That is sending her a message that it's okay to co-habitate with men without the benefit of marriage. And if your daughter doesn't like the guy, there must be something wrong with him. If he has abused your daughter or her child, she has a right to ask for him to go for their safety. I'd think you'd want your daughter and grandbaby safe and happy myself. Men are a dime a dozen, you know. Your daughter is your own flesh and blood.
Now, it is your house and your life. If you love your boyfriend more than your daughter and granddaughter, make them move out and get their own place. If you love your daughter and granddaughter more, tell the guy to move out and just date him away from the house.
2007-03-18 15:14:02 · answer #3 · answered by Wiser1 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why doesn't she like him? Did he try to molest her? Is he taking your money? Is he taking advantage of you? Was he outof line with the grandchild? What is her problem? Here is what you do:
1. determine why she does not like him
2. Try to figure out a way to make sure the situation will not recurr.
3. Never put anybody above your own child. She wants to be loved by hermom -- just because she is grown does not mean she doesnt need you.
WORK IT OUT!!!!!! gOOD LUCK -K-
2007-03-18 15:03:35 · answer #4 · answered by kbama 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it's your house, your rules. If she is threatening to move out, it's high time she did. Unless she is helping you pay bills or something that has been arranged.You are entitled to have your own freedom and life.Before you "fly off" tho, find out WHY she doesn't like him and why doesn't she want your grandaughter around him, has he tried to "hit on her"Sounds like a crazy situation, good luck in sorting it all out.
2007-03-18 15:04:32 · answer #5 · answered by little lu-lu 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let her move out!
She is taking advantage of you as it is---let her see how tough it will be without your help.......she will be begging you to let her come back in 6 months or less.
Maybe that will teach her to respect her mother's choices, and not be so immature!
2007-03-18 15:01:31 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like your daughter likes to control things. Tell her it's your business and if she wants to move, God Bless her.
2007-03-18 15:02:57 · answer #7 · answered by Nort 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell her your door opens and closes and she's free to move out anytime she wants. But it doesn't stop there, she can find herself another babysitter.
2007-03-18 15:16:13 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
he shouldn't be living with you in my opinion, mabey she needs you for now, to get on her feet. give her a 2 or 3 year deal, by then she should have made plans to save and get her own place, and you can feel more free. but it takes time to save up, and why can't he get his own place? he's not 21 with a baby.
2007-03-18 15:01:25 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Confusing situation. Just move her out if she acts smart. Your life matters to you
2007-03-18 15:01:21 · answer #10 · answered by MafiaGal 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋