i have been talkin with this lady at work who i think is wonderful i have seen a pic of her and she looked great everyone tells me the pic does not do justice but without the pic when i talk with her she is amazing we have traded pics and talk at work at lot through email joking and flirting and on the phone work related mostly. she keeps on asking me about al my women and i dont have anyone in paticular right now. me and my coworker who is sorta friends with her said she is hinting for you too ask her out and i never did afraid i will mess the friendship up but want to go to the next level. everyone hints to me to ask her out and when i email her about it i dont ask her directly but give her hints and she changes the subject i can not read her what to do? please help
2007-03-18
07:51:26
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➔ Singles & Dating
she lives 200 miles away and she gave me her number but when i tried to call she did not answear or return my call or email me back the next day
2007-03-18
07:58:21 ·
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I would say just ask her out to a nice lunch, or for coffee. Be casual about it & then there will be no real expectations. It will give you a better chance to "feel things out" and try to read her signals more closely! It's probably best to do those in person, anyway! Then, after the "pseudo" date, you can decide wether or not to perhaps go on a few more casual outtings or up the ante' & move up to a nice dinner!
Either way, it seems that most definately that she likes you in SOME fashion, and you'll have a great new friend to add to your roster, even if things don't move up romantically! Best of luck! Be yourself!
2007-03-18 08:05:17
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answered by Spiral_Dancer 3
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She's as nervous as you are. She might be changing the subject as something of a pre-emptive strike. Maybe she's worried you won't ask her out and she changes the subject as a means of controlling the conversation. If you're not asking fast enough, she's going to keep from getting disappointed by preventing you from asking..whether you were or not.
Gather some courage and go up and ask her or call her but elimnate the small talk. Be up front about her. Tell her how much you enjoy her company and would like to see her away from work. DON"T GIVE HER A CHANCE TO CHANGE THE SUBJECT...YOU control the conversation by not relinquishing any of yours.
Get in there and ask away...don't hesistate...don't mince words...don't make small talk
Good luck,
Laurie
2007-03-18 14:58:50
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answered by I am Laurie 3
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Beating around the bush will never help her know how you feel.Tell her otherwise she will assume that you are not interested in her.She is trying to telling you.Be firm and if you don't ask then she will move on.If you don't want her to move on then tell her that you want to go out to the movies with her.Take it slow and you won't be disappointed.Let her know that you want to take things slow too.She will appreciate it a lot.
2007-03-18 15:00:47
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answered by jany50002002 3
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A woman admires a man who sees her as an equal.
Learn to be a charming gentleman and truly interested in her life.
Be aloof.
Let her know that she is in charge of the level of intimacy.
Take charge with the entertainment.
Discover her interests and be sure to include hers with yours when thinking of dates.
2007-03-18 15:00:27
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answered by The Rabbi 5
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Oh, look if you don't play it cool, I guarantee you she will think you are desperate. Don't say anything, just do, ask her out and you will know quickly if she likes you. Women don't want to hear allot of mushy talk, they want you to take control of the situation, if you cant even ask her out she will think you are weak. Same goes, if you don't make the first move (physically).
2007-03-18 14:59:43
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answered by Anonymous
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just say you dont want to mess up the friendship you have on a connection of some sort
but ask her anyway
if you know she wants you to ask then it is worth it
if she says no then something is wrong (just ask if you can be friends still)
2007-03-18 14:57:33
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answered by ♥ Jess ♥ I dream, I wish, I love 3
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You are not ready for a relationship, if you cannot figure out how to take it to the next level.
2007-03-18 14:56:02
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answered by Anthony F 6
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Ask her out already!!! Women want that! Be assertive!! Otherwise opportunity is just gonna pass you by.....
2007-03-18 14:54:22
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answered by HuskersRock 2
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go for it. she probably just thinks your too shy and wont do it. it sounds like she will defiantly go out with you. and if not things may be akward for like a week or too...but if you dint and she and everyone else thinks you should....then it will probably be akward for much longer.
go for it!
good luck!
2007-03-18 14:58:02
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answered by rosie 2
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talk to her in person and just ask her to the movies or something.
best of luck.
2007-03-18 14:54:40
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answered by runningballerina 4
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