Lately, I've been having strong, seemigly animalistic desires (sexual). I had a period where I was having this strong fantasy that I really wanted to be a hypnotized slave to a hot and controlling in a seductive way woman. I didn't know how to kill this desire, so I had it fulfilled by an "enchantress" (I won't give the details of what she made me do, since I'll get reported for posting adult content) and it felt SOOOOOO GOOD!!! Well, a while after that, the urge died (thank god) and a new, worse one took its place (I can't give many details of this one, because it's even dirtier). Is this normal? How do I stop this filth?
I did ask something similar to this a long time ago. Someone told me that these are normal feelings and I shouldn't feel bad (I should even act on them to satisfy myself as long as nobody gets hurt). Is this good advice?
2007-03-18 07:48:36 · 15 answers · asked by Steady As She Goes 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
NO, I don't look at porn (you can believe this if you want or not).
2007-03-18 08:09:45 · update #1
I also deconverted from Christianity some time ago (for the people bringing religion into this).
2007-03-18 08:32:12 · update #2
I tried to find you some research on this, but was unable, so you'll just have to trust my memory:)
What I remember from Psych class in college... sexual desires are one thing, and sexual obsessions are another.
If you can enjoy sex (normal sex), even though you have these desires of which you are afraid to speak, then I'm pretty sure they're just desires and you're pretty normal.
However, if you are unable to enjoy "normal" sex because you are so focused on this desire, than I'm pretty sure that is an obsession, and I would recommend that you seek professional help. Conselors deal with this type of thing all the time.
Either way, don't feel badly about yourself. People have both desires and obsessions. There are a lot of individuals in the world who would be concidered sexual deviants. You just need to come to terms with what your desires are so that you no longer feel poorly about yourself.
2007-03-18 07:59:05 · answer #1 · answered by All Things Zen 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i really dont think its anything bad. People have different fantasies, if you dont like them then try to find a way to get that off your mind, like go do something else. I agree with that advice, but if you truly dont like that you should be having these desires, then you should do something about it. Maybe you can talk to a sex therapist or something. Or just have it fulfilled again since last time it went away when it was. But i think it would be hard for
you to find the woman of your dreams, you would have to have a kinky as woman..
2007-03-18 14:54:47 · answer #2 · answered by Yhpargotohp 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well since it's illegal and considered immoral (I'm not saying it is) it's best to just fantasize at this time until you find someone in which to act out your fantasies with you. Good luck on that. Meanwhile read some of the stuff that Marquis De Sade wrote. It is normal to be passionate of your desires. Just be smart about it.
2007-03-18 14:55:32 · answer #3 · answered by madbaldscotsman 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is not normal. The person that told you it was normal lied because you are hurting yourself. You are not an animal you posses qualities that are far from an animal. You are seeking your own desires for ungodly things. Don't become an animalistic man not having spirituality. You can stop this by building up yourself on your most holy faith, and praying.
2007-03-18 15:26:38 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes and no way I say this because I have been there.There are plenty of way's to please yourself, and plenty of toy's to do it with, but you have to learn how to controll your mind once you done that you will the baddest person you no in a good way,sex is a very special thing once you master it and you can some people never do, but it can be done if you love yourself. Keep God in your life you will be all right.
2007-03-18 15:06:20 · answer #5 · answered by she devill 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't know what you did so, I cannot comment. What might seem strange to you though, might be quite common. I think Yahoo should have an adult content section where questions like these could be siphoned off to, but then how would we know who is who?
2007-03-18 14:53:14 · answer #6 · answered by Anthony F 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
go to church and seek a priest that does not have the same fantasies as you and seek counciling from god,,I'am not a catholic but believe that you need help before this gets out of control..Thats what this is all about self control,,use it NOW
2007-03-18 14:53:27 · answer #7 · answered by lisadivirgilio 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stop looking at porn
2007-03-18 14:54:11 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need a therapist, a person that can counsel you. You should contact your local mental health clinic.
2007-03-18 14:55:48 · answer #9 · answered by cireengineering 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Really it's not filth it just your manly desires calling don't worry it's just a phase !!
2007-03-18 14:54:48 · answer #10 · answered by Elena 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋