After a one night stand?

Question

I went home with a guy from work on Friday night, stayed for a little while the next day and then went home – he asked for my number before I left.

I had text messages from him today arranging for me to go to his, I asked if he'd like to go for a drink instead but he had no cash so arranged to go and watch a film at his.

Later on he sent me a text message to say he had to cancel as he had to go visit his mother, and that he's see me at work (on Wednesday).

I'm paranoid because I hadn't planned to go out on Friday let alone sleep with anyone – you know, I had hairy legs and all the rest, but he didn't seem to mind.

Do you think he is interested, not interested, just interested in sex?

Do you think I have anything to worry about when I see him at work?

So one night stand shouldn't be worried about, I wouldn't say no if he was interested in it being more or just sleeping together again, nor do I have anything to be embarrassed about I suppose.

Pipe Grampa, you are right, if I was not a whore I would not be pondering this question. I like being a whore, as you imply, as I know what I want and I am sexually confident. Consider this; would you be leaving such answers if you had enough respect for women to be having a happy sex life yourself?

Don't worry I am going to act cool, I'm just paranoid as his two friends were also after me that night, I'm just worried about what he thought and the possibility of his telling the others I was a mess or something – he's a little strange, but a sweety so I don't think he's a jerk like that.

On the plus side though he wanted me to stay the following day and he did text me when he could have easily not – I'd have liked it if he had asked me over on Monday or Tuesday night though.
:o/

Answer 1

Relax! There is no need to drive yourself crazy. There is nothing to analyze. Just be cool and keep doing your own thing as usual. He was a one-time fck, ok. A fck buddy or ONS does NOT get the 'benefit' of your extra time, emotions, analyzing, etc. Nothing.
When you get to work, just smile, look him straight in the eye, and politely say 'hi' and keep moving. Don't avoid him but don't give off any more signs that you are insecure about that night. Just act like you did before the two of you had sex.

Don't be so available. Don't answer his text messages too much. If you were in the middle of doing something or had plans already, keep them. If you get an email from him at work, take care of your work tasks first. Get back to him after you take care of your business. If that takes a day or so, fine.

Don't make this more than it is. If he wants more, he'll let you know. It's not about him being in control either.

Don't let anyone tell you that YOU were 'easy', a whore, etc.
He was a whore, too. And wasn't it exciting doing something outside of your element! It was about two adults who had a fun night and moving on.

Answer 2

Relax, and ignore that granpa guy, he's an idiot. You took a chance and you had fun, whether or not anything might happen afterwards or it being awkward in work you can't say at this stage. The most important thing to do is not to be paranoid, not to let silly ideas bounce around in your head. Just play it cool and be yourself, one of you may unintentionally make it awkward because you work together but that will pass after a little while. You've nothing to worry about, all is fair in love and war. If something developes then great but if not then that's life! Fair play to you, just don't make the mistake of fretting because that'll only cause problems and increase any possible awkwardness! That's why people generally refrain from sleepng with people they work with! Just chill and go with the flow, don't sit by your phone waiting for him to call because then you'll resent him for not calling exactly when you expect him to. Just forget about it for now and play it out!

Answer 3

Yes he is interested, unplanned sex is great, a natural lady is marvelous once in a while, you can relax with him now and the grooming will be a treat not a chore. He was honest and said he had no cash, and he went to his mothers for a Sunday roast i bet. Sounds like you have met a real honest man, go with the flow baby and let the romance begin. Lucky You

Answer 4

sure, yet except there is an trustworthy pastime in the guy who is going added than intercourse...a 2nd evening stand is often never as sturdy because of the fact the 1st while each and every thing replace into exciting and new! in case you loved the guy till now hand besides the fact that if, the 2nd evening might nicely be greater effective, the third evening much greater effective......on till concerning the a hundredth evening or so, then it gets old.

Answer 5

Well it is the week before pay day so maybe he was skint but its seems a bit suspect that he doesnt want to wait a week and then take you out somewhere.

Ask him on wednesday to clear the air but dont act like you want to have his kids or anything

Answer 6

I would play cool and text him late on to see if he had a nice time at his mothers. Then when see what he says back to you. At work play cool like nothing has happened and maybe it will all work out in the end.

He might be a bloke that feels he has to see his mother as its mothers day and he might have forgotten about it earlier like men do.

Good luck

Answer 7

I dont think you have got anything to worry about as he was the one that texted you to arrange a meet today.
i think he realised that it was Mothers day and should spoend the day with her.
Why couldn't he see you monday or tuesday though?

I'd be casual and not too heavy.
Now go shave your legs gorl *LOL*

Answer 8

Perhaps he did have to go to his grandmothers, he might have gotten a phone call from family. Also try not to stew on what happened, you guy's hung out, slept together, and if more happens more will happen.

I have learned to just let things be if it was meant to be it will happen. No sense working yourself up over it.

Answer 9

I woudn't worry about it. He sounds interested cause he text you. He probabyl did jsut have to go and see his mum. Stop thinking about it. See how it goes ask if you can go out another night instead. Keep chatting!!

Answer 10

Just act cool! Don't be nervous around him. If he weren't interested, he wouldn't have tried contacting you after. And if it is just sex he's interested in, well, you just found yourself a sex buddy!!