The Art of Seduction?

Question

Despite my best attempts, I have been unable attract the romantic interests of a woman in over three years and never had much success with women prior to this.

I have tried every strategy I can imagine, from attempting to mold myself into what women claim to desire, to "being myself", to attempting to make it appear as though I'm "not trying". Additionally, I have made every attempt to put myself in a position to meet someone, including volunteering at a charitable organization, hitting the bar/club scene, and switching churches to one with girls who are my age, all to no avail.

I have often seen other men walk up to a woman in a bar/club, begin talking to her, immediately cause her to “light up” and begin to smile and laugh, and then walk out with her at the end of the evening. On the other hand, when I attempt to approach a woman, I am usually ignored.

I will turn 24 in less then a week and worry that the best years of my life are passing me by and that, if I don’t learn how to attract the interests of women soon, I will loose my opportunity do so.

I was wondering if any of you could provide me with advice on how to attract the interests of women, specifically;

1.) Where to best meet women?

2.) What day of the week to go to these locations?

3.) What should I wear?

4.) What alterations should I make to my physical appearance?

5.) Which women should I approach?

6.) How can I captivate a woman’s interest?

7.) How can I convince her to either A.) give me her phone number so that we may begin a romantic friendship or B.) take me to bed with her.

I would like to thank you in advance for any assistance you can provide in this matter.

Answer 1

The "art of seduction" is as simple as saying hello.
Man, you got me confused in one sentence they're women. And, in another sentence they're girls. So, it begins with what you are looking for.
Seems like you need to lighten up. You seem exceptionally hard on yourself. Having a woman doesn't make you whole. You need to be a whole-rounded person when you get the right one.
Use this time to improve your mind and pursue the accumulation of wealth.
Truth is "Money is an aphrodisiac."
You possess strength, perseverance, and drive.
Turn your attention to gaining the best life for yourself that you can. Look at this holistically--you are in a training and development phase--use it!
Acquire the means to accumulate wealth!
Go for something BIG!
Be in it to win it! And, Ms. Right will come into your life.
Everyone can give you advice and it may not effect you situation. When you are passionately achieving the goals you establish. Women will be in the mix.
If its girls you want then you may find futility, however, women--seasoned and mature will take you to school. Get an older lover. Be with the best of everything. Be the best that you can.
Women outnumber us---there's no way you'll continue to strike out. Keep stepp'in up to the plate!

Answer 2

There are many good places, one of which may turn out to be a club where you can dance and find many single women. The best day is of course either Friday night or Saturday. You should wear some good shoes, a one-coloured shirt, and some matching accessories. Talk to her with an interest about something interesting (HER) in the beginning... prove her that you listen to her. If it works then go for it, ask for a phone number or something. If she will hang out with you longer then offer a date next week or even the next day? Try to be relaxed. :-) should work. Try to be nice and all but not too nice in order not to be classified as a "friend".

Answer 3

The easy answer is that women are shallow. Don't let all that sentimental, love is deeper than looks sap fool you. They like or fall for what turns them on. A hunk wouldn't have to say a word and still get most women. Of course they will now deny it. Liars.

Answer 4

The most important thing to remember is to relax - women want to feel comfortable around you. It's understandable to feel nervous around a girl you fancy, especially if you're not too comfortable around women, but showing this will make her feel uncomfortable and make her feel as though she would be wasting her time if she were to continue this further.
By relaxing you are showing you are confident, without taking yourself to seriously. Remember, if you were to make yourself look silly (I'm sure you won't!) she's not the only women out there, there will always be someone else!

Hope it all goes well, Love Naomi xx

Answer 5

This answer is not going to be what you want to hear, but we will go for what we want. If you don't match that girl's interest, than you won't get her.

I think you should find people who are intrested in the same things you are. And go to places you would normally go. You can meet people in the craziest places.

Answer 6

if you get someone on the way,seduction follows you the other way.dont think much to spoil that

Answer 7

The Ten Most Dangerous Mistakes YOU Probably
Make With Women
And What To Do About It...

Here Are The Top Ten Reasons Why Men Fail With WomenAnd How To Make Sure YOU Avoid Every One Of These Deadly Common Mistakes...

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-By David DeAngelo, Author Of Double Your Dating

MISTAKE #1: Being
Too Much Of A Nice Guy

Have you ever noticed that the really attractive women never seem to be attracted "nice" guys?

Of course you have.

Just like me, I'm sure you've had attractive female friends that always seemed to date "jerks"... but for some reason they were never romantically interested in YOU.

What's going on here?

It's actually very simple...

Women don't base their choices of men on how "nice" a guy is. They choose the men they do because they feel a powerful GUT LEVEL ATTRACTION for them.

And guess what?

Being nice doesn't make a woman FEEL that powerful ATTRACTION.

And being NICE doesn't make a woman CHOOSE you.

I realize that this doesn't make a lot of logical sense, and it's hard to ACCEPT... but GET OVER IT.

Until you accept this FACT and begin to act on it, you'll NEVER have the success with women that you want.

MISTAKE #2: Trying To
Convince Her To Like You"

What do most guys do when they meet a woman that they REALLY like... but she's just not interested?

Right! They try to "convince" the woman to feel differently.

Well, I have news for you... YOU WILL NEVER CHANGE HOW A WOMAN "FEELS" WHEN IT COMES TO ATTRACTION!

Never, ever, EVER.

You cannot CONVINCE a woman to feel differently about you with "logic and reasoning".

Think about it.

If a woman doesn't "feel it" for you, how in the world do you expect to change that FEELING by being "reasonable" with her?

But we all do it.

When a woman just isn't interested, we beg, plead, chase, and do our best to change her mind.

Bad idea. One that will never work.

MISTAKE #3: Looking To Her
For Approval Or Permission

In our desire to please women (which we mistakenly think will make them like us), us guys are always doing things to get a woman's "approval" or "permission".

Another HORRIBLE idea.

Women are NEVER attracted to the types of men who kiss up to them... EVER.

Don't get me wrong here.

You don't have to treat women BADLY for them to like you.

But if you think that treating a woman well means "always getting her approval and permission for things", think again.

You will never succeed by looking for approval. Women actually get ANNOYED at men who seek their approval.

Doubt me? Just ask any attractive woman if Wussy guys who chase her around and want her approval annoy her...

MISTAKE #4: Trying To Buy Her Affection With Food And Gifts

How many times have you taken a woman out to a nice dinner, bought her gifts and flowers, and had her REJECT you for someone who didn't treat her even HALF as well as you did?

If you're like me, then you've had it happen a LOT.

Well guess what?

It's only NATURAL when this happens...

That's right, I said NATURAL.

When you do these things, you send a clear message:

"I don't think you'll like me for who I am, so I'm going to try to buy your attention and affection".

Your good intentions usually come across to women as over-compensation for insecurity, and weak attempts at manipulation. That's right, I said that women see this as MANIPULATION.



MISTAKE #5: Sharing
How You Feel Too Early In
The Relationship With Her

Another huge and unfortunate mistake that most men make with women is sharing how they "feel" too early on.

Attractive women are rare.

And they get a LOT of attention from men.

Most men don't realize this, but attractive women are being approached in one way or another ALL THE

An attractive woman is often approached several times a DAY by men who are interested. This translate into dozens of times per week, and often HUNDREDS of times per month.

And guess what?

Attractive women have usually dated a LOT of men.

That's right. They have EXPERIENCE.

They know what to expect.

And one thing that turns an attractive women off and sends her running away faster than just about anything is a guy who starts saying "You know, I really, REALLY like you" after one or two dates.

This signals to the woman that you're just like all the other guys who fall for her too fast... and can't control themselves.

Don't do it. Lean back. Relax.

There's a much better way...

MISTAKE #6: Not Getting How Attraction Works For Women

Women are VERY different from men when it comes to ATTRACTION.

You need to accept this fact, and deal with it.

When a man sees a beautiful, young, sexy woman, he INSTANTLY feels a sexual attraction.

But does the same apply for women?

Do women feel sexual attraction to men based mostly on looks? Or is something else going on?

Well, after studying this topic for over five full years now, I can tell you that women usually have their "attraction mechanisms" triggered by things OTHER than looks.

Have you ever noticed that you see a lot more average and unattractive men with beautiful women than the other way around?

Think about it.

Women are more attracted to certain qualities in men... and they're attracted to the way a man makes them FEEL than they are to looks alone.

If you know how to use your body language and communication correctly, you can make women feel the same kind of powerful sexual attraction to you that YOU feel when you see a hot, sexy young woman.

But it's not an accident. You have to LEARN how to do this.

And ANY guy can learn how...

MISTAKE #7: Thinking That It
Takes Money And Looks

One of the most common mistakes that guys make is giving up before they've even gotten started... because they think that attractive women are only interested in men who have looks and money... or guys who are a certain height... or guys who are a certain age.

And sure, there are some women who are only interested in these things.

But MOST women are far more interested in a man's personality than his wallet or his looks.

There are personality traits that attract women like a magnet...

And if you learn what they are and how to use them, YOU can be one of these guys.

YOU DO NOT have to "settle" for a woman just because you aren't rich, tall, or handsome.

Let me say this again: If you know how to use your body language and communication correctly, you can make women feel the same kind of powerful sexual attraction to you that YOU feel when you see a hot, sexy young woman.

MISTAKE #8: Giving Away
All Of Your Power To Women

Earlier I mentioned that it's a mistake to look to a woman for approval or permission.

Well, another similar tactic that a lot of guys use is GIVING AWAY THEIR POWER to women.

Said differently, guys try to get women to like them by doing whatever the woman wants.

Another bad idea...

Women are NEVER attracted to men that they can walk all over... Women aren't attracted to Wussies!

MISTAKE #9: Not Knowing
EXACTLY What To Do In Each
Type Of Situation With Women

Now I'm going to blow your mind...

A woman ALWAYS knows what you're thinking.

Women are approximately TEN TIMES better than men at reading body language. That's ten TIMES.

I know, it might be hard to believe. But for example, if you're out on a date with a woman, and you want to kiss her, she knows it.

And if you don't know exactly what to do and exactly HOW to kiss her, and you just sit there looking at her and getting nervous, she won't help!

And this goes for ALL aspects of women and dating...

Approaching a woman, getting her number, asking her out, kissing her, getting physical... everything.

If you don't know what to do in each situation, you will probably screw it up... and LOSE EVERYTHING.

And you KNOW it.

It is VITALLY important that you know EXACTLY how to go from one step to the next with a woman... from the first meeting, all the way to the bedroom.

MISTAKE #10: Not Getting HELP

This is the biggest mistake of all.

This is the mistake that keeps most men from EVER having the kind of success with women that they truly want.

I know, guys don't like to make themselves look weak or helpless. We don't like to ask for help.

Hey, I've been there myself.

Let me tell you a little about me and how I figured out how to be successful with women...

About five years ago I became fed up with the fact that I didn't know how to approach, meet, and get dates with women that I was attracted to.

It frustrated the hell out of me.

One night I was out with a friend, and I saw a woman I wanted to ask out, but I just couldn't get up the nerve to do it. I can still remember that night... right on the spot I made the decision to do whatever it took to learn how to be successful with women and dating.

Well, after a lot of hard work and trying all kinds of crazy things, I finally figured it all out.

I can now approach just about any woman and get her number almost instantly. I've dated models, I've dated actresses, and I've dated nice, normal, regular girls as well.

It has been a very rewarding experience. I no longer feel that sick, insecure feeling... like I don't know how to meet women... and I might wind up alone.

I know that anytime, anywhere, I can go out and meet attractive women