Well i am twenty-one years old and I have been with my boyfriend for four years. Within our 1st year of dating i became pregnant and we both decided that we wern't ready for a child so we decided to go with adoption rather then having an abortion.So during the next year our realationship was extremly rocky because both of our familes didn't understand why were still 2gether since we decided to give the baby up for adoption. But we knew that we loved eachother and we would just stick it out. So then during the next year my boyfriend began going out with his friends all the time, so i decided that i would go out to, so we both ended up cheating on eachother during that period of time, we both completley regret and we both blame it on eachother. we say we love eachother but i honestly think the truth is that we are both just used to eachother. So now i am to the point where i want to end it but im just scared that i will be making a mistake?! Well I would love any and all comments.Thanks
2007-03-18 07:18:20 · 10 answers · asked by Ashlee 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Everybody indeed is scared to commit mistakes. And indeed it's really difficult to let go of something/someone you've had for years. I think you have to pray for God's wisdom on this that He will help you weigh things out. You have to also to ask yourself if you still have feelings for him, if you still love him. You could have reached the stage that excitement and mystery is gone! that's why you're thinking of letting go........try to imagine life in the future without him? try to listen carefully to what your heart says....coz if it still beats for him maybe you both just need to work on few things, come to an agreement to rekindle the raging love, and start the excitement again...like going back to courtship stage, bring back the flowers, chocolates, movies and dinner for two. Think a hundred of times, coz when you finally decide to let go.....it's not always that you are given second chance. What if it was your last chance? you might grieve forever for a lost love.....
2007-03-18 07:32:23 · answer #1 · answered by marguerite 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
CHEATING IS JUST THAT CHEATING. The answer is why did you both cheat. I have been on both sides and I can tell you that either way the person doesn't feel good in the end.
If you love him then he is not giving you the attention that you need or you your self can't get over giving up the baby. So maybe it's your way of letting go. How ever you look at it cheating is a way a person lets go of a relationship they don't really want. Maybe you want the friendship, but not the relationship. I hate to say this but you are very young and have a lot more life to experience so live it.
2007-03-18 14:27:29 · answer #2 · answered by 1HPYGAL 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well in all honesty nothin but time can help i got hurt a while back by an ex girl friend and it hurt for a while juss try to do things youve always wanted 2 do to try to keep you mind off it my email is joshleecarter@yahoo.com if you have any more qeustions sorry bout your situation and it very well may be that yall are used to each other and are scared of wats next but trust me hun if your not happy a relationship espesailly after cheating goes nowhere but down.
2007-03-18 14:26:05 · answer #3 · answered by JOSHUA C 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't let strangers decide on how to live your life. You are now 21 and an adult. You made the chose about your baby. You now need to decide what to do about your life. If you make a mistake try to learn from it. Don't just sit around make up your mind and let things fall where they may. If your wrong your wrong, but at least you have control on your life. GROW UP!!
2007-03-18 14:25:50 · answer #4 · answered by rastus7742 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's def. not a mistake to end it. If you feel like you're just comfortable, than you probably are. I was in a relationship where I was comfortable and once I ended it I realized how terrible he was to me. If you could cheat on each other, you don't truly love each other.
Good choice on the adoption thing, though.
2007-03-18 14:22:16 · answer #5 · answered by Lyssepoo 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
i think that if you both love each other as much as you did when you were pregnant, you should stay together. but if your relationship is dwindling down slowly your better off just to separate. if you don't you would just get married and most likely get a divorce, but who listens to 14 year olds these dayz
2007-03-18 14:22:46 · answer #6 · answered by wind it up 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You seem like you have no hang -ups,you are free with yourself,so be in the moment and take yourself the way you want to go ,dont hold back....only keep financialy secure and have a blast!!!!!
2007-03-18 14:27:59 · answer #7 · answered by i am 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The decision not to take responsibility and raise your child was a clear indication of a lack of intellect. Perhaps the break up will prevent any further unwanted children being brought into this world by your wretched womb.
2007-03-18 14:22:41 · answer #8 · answered by Pipe Grampa 2 · 0⤊ 3⤋
well you could just say your sorry for everything and go from there
2007-03-18 14:22:49 · answer #9 · answered by soccerstar101 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
" FIND ANOTHER ONE " works every time!!!!!
2007-03-18 14:23:12 · answer #10 · answered by Billie R 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋