How do you handle being in the middle?

Question

My sister used to casually date this guy (who happens to be my b.f.'s best friend) Mostly they were just friends. Enter guys girlfriend now. Her and my sis are now rivals. When my sis calls the guy his g.f. freaks out then the 2 girls get into some wierd *** argument. And i land in the middle. I try not to say anything. Just listen sympithetically. But I am sick to death of this twisted triangle.

Answer 1

Wow two wrongs not making anything right. Ether way, seems that your b.f.'s best friend "guy" wasn't being to clever about who he pick for his girlfriend. Usually a good idea if your going to have relationships like that (his close relationship to your sister for instance), too make sure that your girlfirends is secure enough to handle it. If not its a pretty good warning sign that she well be more possive then compassionate. On top of that your sister should be a little bit more understand of her ex-lovers situation enough to find away to reach him that wouldn't cause waves. Which isn't a good way to handle ex-lover relationships anyways it shows that she isn't being very compassinate ether. Takes two to fight you should know you've been standing right in the middle of them. Which is sweet but it would seem you b.f. should step up to the plate and explain to his best friend that he can be a lot more compassinate about his new girlfirends insecurities and try to not throw the old relationship in the her face. Our just get rid of her all together because it doesn't seem she holds close ties to anyone in the circle, which might be why she is fighting so hard to keep him on her side. Ether way step out of it and let the ones invovled take care of it, its not your fault your sister can't be smarter about going around her, or him about his relationship with the new girl.