I am in my 30's and was married for 15 years. My ex husband and I just went our separate ways, we didnt fight or get crazy or jealous. It was an amicable divorce. Now I have been with this man for 2 years and he has deceived me alot. Now I am very insecure and I accuse him of being interested in other women. I am totally losing it. I dont know if he has cheated, but if he hasnt he sure makes it look like he has. Like he even lied about going to his friends house, he said he never left our house, but he did. He doesnt pay his share of the rent. Borrows money and doesnt pay it back. I break up with him but keep getting back together with him because I miss him so much. Now he is starting to get borderline physically violent. I have never been abused in my life. Why am I doing this to myself? I am totally losing control and am acting in ways I never have before. I have always been very calm and never swear or yell, but now it happens all the time. Please help me.
2007-03-18 07:07:59 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
The guy I am with now is not my ex husband. He is a different man.
2007-03-18 07:14:26 · update #1
This is a very very bad relationship. If you are being honest with yourself (and us), this guy is no good. Absolutely nothing good will come of staying with him. You need to go cold turkey on this one. Leave and never look back.
2007-03-18 07:12:40 · answer #1 · answered by mark 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, It has been my experience, that must people that are jealous and accuse others of things like such, is because they them selves are capable of or have done them things. I'm not saying that you how ever. There are people that will play with you that way.
You must take a good look within. If it is you that you fear "referring to the above statement", then you are driving him away. This will make a person violent.
If it is him that is driving you crazy, NO MATTER how much you miss him... Go your own way, as you did in your previous relation ship. He will never change and will probably hurt you Physically and emotionally.
Take your now Free time and enroll in school. Become a Professional if not one already. Your study time will keep your thoughts becoming better. Instead of waisting your precious mind with a no pay back cheating Looser..
Don't loose control, get a hold of yourself. Take a deep breath and Handle it.;)
Your write great, which tells me you are Intelligent and intellectual. Do something with it. Hope this helps. Will.
2007-03-18 07:30:41 · answer #2 · answered by Will M 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The relationship is not healthy for you, ask yourself what you love about this man and then what you don't like about him. if the bad out weights the good, remove him out of you life fast. Don't go out of the world backwards, leave one relationship to get into another worse then the one before? You have to love yourself, and don't tolerate nonsense or drama in you life. He is changing the nice sweet person that you were people should not change you, drugs usually do .
2007-03-18 07:19:50 · answer #3 · answered by kind1 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you need to get away from him as soon as you can. you two are divorced, there is no reason why you should be loaning him monet and things like that. obviously he does not love and respect you or else he would not be borderlining on physical violence and the other things that he does to you. there are so many women out there who are victims of domestic violence everyday. do not allow yourself to become on of those statistics. you need to stand up for yourself, say he is not worth putting myself through this for and move on. any retaliation from him because of that should be dealt with quick and firm legal action. get a protection order against him. you deserve better and by not doing anything about it, you are only allowing yourself to be done this way. please listen to me, i know what i am saying. he is not going to get any better but worse over time. it is time you do what is best for you and it is to get away from him and find someone who is going to treat you with love and respect. it is a travesty that 15 years is down the toilet but you need to cut your strings that attach you to him. it is not healthy for you. feel free to contact me if you need further advice. my email is ctaylor_2003@yahoo.com and my instant message name is ctaylor_2003. if you do not have yahoo messenger, you can download it for free at www.messenger.yahoo.com take care and good luck.
2007-03-18 07:12:36 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you have to cut him loose. he can't pay his way. man were you going with one sided love. you will go nuts if you stay with him. 30's not bad at all you can find a good man . looks like you grabed the first one that came along. now you know. good luck
2007-03-18 07:23:28 · answer #5 · answered by freeman3905@sbcglobal.net 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2007-03-18 07:13:20 · answer #6 · answered by tuff luv 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋