ok, heres how it went: we were @ the dance friday and all week hes been wondering if i really love him, then he read something i wrote for him and then erased. so he wants to know. it said i love you but i wont tell him. he figures out thats what it said and wants me to say it. he comes behind me, rest his chin on my shoulder and wraps his arm around me and says, plz say it. i say then he whispers ilove you too very quickly, then lets go and says now was that so hard.
i cant figure out if he means it or if he just wanted me to feel better.
tthe facts: we've been together for 1 month 2 weeks
we're both 14
plz dont say ur too young, too immature or anything like that plz. i dont want to read it so just dont write it. thx for ur help
2007-03-18 07:03:04 · 16 answers · asked by R ♥ I ♥ P ♥ Casey Calvert 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Sorry to hear that others tend to put you down for your feelings! When anyone says that, it points to them being the ones immature!
OK, in case you don't know this, which is all in the learning process, the way you can tell a guy means what he says, and I always say this........ it's in his "Body Language!"
The fact that "your" guy "leaned" towards you putting his chin on your shoulder, says "everything" right there! 1 good sign!
The fact also that he read what you wrote, helped
"pave" the way for him to say "I love you" back!
Deep down, people don't say those words unless they really mean it and the proof is in the way it is said, as I described above. Eye contact is another "clue".
I want to add that it is a sweet way to go about telling someone you love them in the way your Friend told you!
Blessings with your future!
2007-03-18 07:21:04 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Even though you don't want to hear it..you are young but certainly not immature. You're following your heart and he is too. Most adults don't do that because they've had such bad experience and want to protect themselves at all costs. When you're young you give without fear and reservation because you don't have a past to make you fearful and wary.
The problem is that with young love things can change so quickly..in a moment actually. It's okay to have these feelings but don't let them consume you. Be smart and take note of how he treats you..how he shows you he loves you. Take your time to really get to know each other and develop a friendship above all else. In six weeks how much do you know about him? To tell him you love him you should know an awful lot about him already including his family, friends, life goals, faults, daydreams, secrets, hobbies, favorite foods..and more. If you love him you'd be willing to sacrifice yourself for him, you'd give him your all without expecting anything in return..that's love not just the emotions alone.
2007-03-18 07:15:04 · answer #2 · answered by Bonita Applebaum 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know you said you don't want to hear it, but it is true> Nobody is going to pretend that you are in love at fourteen and give you "advice" on what to do.
Fourteen is WAY too young to be worrying about love sweetie. There is no possible way that either of you have fallen in love yet. You don't even yet know all about yourself or are you old enough to be able to love yourself completely. Until you love yourself, you cannot love anyone else. This is puppy love or a crush. Not the real thing. Sorry to be so brutally honest with you but there is no point sugar coating it for you just so you end up with what will be your first "broken heart". Just have fun being fourteen and dating boys without falling in love. Worry about that when you get older.
2007-03-18 07:09:32 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
A guy saide that to me once What it clearly means is that he loves you and cares for you as a friend You are now in the friend zone But he is not in love with you Believe me when guys say this they mean it
2016-03-29 05:16:37 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
ur a woman, u know deep down whether he means it or not. did it FEEL like he meant it? could u feel the love radiating from him. when u walk into a room does a smile instantaneously spread across his face? it isnt so much what he says, but how he acts. if u can FEEL how much he loves u, then he meant it. if it seems like hes holding back even in the slightest, he probably doesnt.
2007-03-18 07:34:06 · answer #5 · answered by berrykiss2010 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i highly doubt he truly ment it. even if he thinks he means it hes confused and i think ur confused. ur both so young and look out he is at the age where he might say something like that to try to get u into bed.
2007-03-18 07:08:38 · answer #6 · answered by Ross 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
well i fell in love when i was 14 also....so i dont think your immature or to young.....but the time....a month a two weeks? my bf and me waited till around 2 months b4 we said it and we really ment it...does he ever tell you without making you say it first? i could tell my bf ment it bcuz he looked me in the eyes and just everything he did made it obvios not just to me but everyone around me...so yeah the only person who can tell you is you...
2007-03-18 07:08:44 · answer #7 · answered by tinkerbell 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He doesn't know what love is yet he is 14 his brain is in his gonads it will be awhile like if you stay together a year then that may be love
2007-03-18 07:09:13 · answer #8 · answered by bgdaddy10 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
well maybe he does.. a guy told me the same thing in my school dnce then he turned out to truly lik me.. but also LIK THIS OTHER GIRL!!! aauurrghh!!! anyway.. (we'r the same age as u two btw lol) wait till he shows it to u .. actions speak louder than words...
2007-03-18 07:09:53 · answer #9 · answered by nouna 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he would look n Ur eyes n say it or he is just not ready
2007-03-18 07:06:55 · answer #10 · answered by xanemos harita 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋