I am talking about women aged 19-21.
If you example I was dating a women but was worried that she might get drunk with her mates then start kissing other guys or even cheating on me.
How can I ask her to be responsable with alcohol without sounding like a bully or control freak?
2007-03-18 07:02:52 · 14 answers · asked by Michelino 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
i'm only 18 almost 19 lol sooo idk if u want my answer :)
my bf just tells me straight out, and i tell him too..
"baby, i dont want you drinking too much."
2007-03-18 07:08:00 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
If she drinks a lot when shes with you, you cant ask her to cut down without sounding like a hypocrite or control freak. What you could do is say that you are concerned in general about all the hoo ha about drinking and that you think you both should cut down. Then lead by example. Or you could just trust her not to cheat.
2007-03-18 07:08:26 · answer #2 · answered by jeanimus 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Unfortunetally you can't really controll her. If she has done it before maybe when she leaves you can give a have a safe night and please watch yourself, i don't want what happened to you last time to happen again. Maybe if it's an ongoing problem you might have to put your foot down and say she needs to do something about her binge drinking when she goes out or you will have to leave. If you got in good with her friends you could also ask her friends to keep an eye on her and hopefully they would be good enough to take her out of situations and you might hear about it. Sorry to hear you're in a situation like that.
2007-03-18 07:10:36 · answer #3 · answered by S666666666666 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Simple You just convey to her that you are desperately in love with her n r worried about her health her not having a good meal before drinking . You would love to buy dinner for her n her friends while they enjoy ladies night out n you would love to take her n her friends out 4 breakfast after wards. That's not being nosy that's being sweet and caring . Your a stand up guy you might get a kick outta the ladies night out they all gab get sloshed dance with the guys get breakfast n go home laughing. My nieces now husband did this for years with my niece he would hang in the back round just to take the ladies home after a good breakfast in the dinner he loved her deeply still does . he gets kick outta it he is designated driver dude u know yr lady she isn't going to kiss up on guys n if she does u know she is going home with u its harmless I swear. My daughter got a big kick outta it u kin even have some of yr friends b there n dance with them Christ its only a dance she ain't going to bed wit them lighten up.You must know she loves just u lol....
The defination kiss up is a small peck on the cheek . Incredably harmless.She loves u she just gotta shake those tail feathers a bit .
2007-03-18 07:20:53 · answer #4 · answered by dovesofpeace56 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can't. What you could try is to gently swing the conversation around to girls' nights out in general. Say something like "what do you DO all night anyway?". Say it in a funny way, like teasing, then gradually bring in the fact that you think that SOME girls make a show of themselves on that kind of night. This just MIGHT be her cue to say "I'm not like that..."
But she might not take the cue, in which case you are back to square one.
2007-03-18 07:13:11 · answer #5 · answered by marie m 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Start ordering her drinks for her the watered version
or hey baby you.... and name something she just did as a consequence of being drunk ...c ould you lay off for a minute
no logical person can refute truth even if they are drunk unless they are stupid
2007-03-18 07:20:21 · answer #6 · answered by jkfranklin 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you have to trust her. if you honestly believe she will cheat when drunk what makes you think she wont when sober? its hard but you have to let go and not worry. my ex used to whinge that he thought i would cheat on him, in the end i did it just so that i wasnt being bawled out for something i hadnt done. not the proudest moment of my life. but still. be careful and talk to your girl. if she loves you she wont cheat but you have to trust her
2007-03-18 07:14:05 · answer #7 · answered by hardheartedharlot 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let her do her own thing guy.I always go looking drunk women on a good night.Last friday me and 2 others had sex with this type when the bar closed in my car.Let her find her true self.
2007-03-18 07:07:19 · answer #8 · answered by BAKKUS 2 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Sounds like you're the one with the problem!
2007-03-19 02:22:09 · answer #9 · answered by maureen 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
just be straight about it
are u sure its the booze part that annoying you and not trust part in your relationship
2007-03-18 07:07:23 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
gotta trust her and yourself too. you cant tell her what to do. the more people push the harder they get pushed back.
2007-03-18 07:30:28 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋