Everyone please do not think the worse of me cause I am hating myself enough for my situation. I have been in a relationship for over a decade now but recently I been having mixed feelings for the person I am with and with this other person I think I am beginning to have feelings for. This guy I work with seems to give me all the right signs that he is falling for me, but I am not sure what to do with it..(LOL krazy right?) I have this great guy at home yet at the same time I think I am having feelings for this guy I work with. I am so confused. Please help me think. All the advice would be greatly appreciated.
2007-03-18 06:59:45 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
awww... its a classic case babe... But seriously, ur office boy, he comes and goes, u dont know what he really is like, but maybe thats where the attraction is, the mystery. You're guy at home, 10 years together, no more mystery... but for you two to be together that long, thats love and dedication.
We've all been there before, but you know what... your guy at home, he is what makes that home a home. Forget about Office boy, he's just trouble. A temptation.
my oppinion... is go home, surprise your man with a candle light dinner and spark up that mystery with him again, cuz he's what you have... and will be there for you.
good luck.
2007-03-18 07:10:41 · answer #1 · answered by almostdeadman1 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ultimately, you're the only person who can make that decision, although i'd think long and hard about it first. Try and figure out why you like this new guy so much. Are you having any issues with the man you're currently in a relationship with? If you let go of your boyfriend, and things don't work out with the new guy, will you be ok by yourself? The grass is always greener on the other side, so please think long and hard about it. I'm not saying this to influence your decision in any way... Been there, done that and I can tell you that the best thing to do is weigh your options and figure out what's best for you. You also have to consider the fact that something might not go as you planned, so be careful. good luck. i hope you find happiness, life's too short.
2007-03-18 07:13:22 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You'd better think before you leap!!! You know what they say about having a relationship with someone you work with.They rarely work out.
You say you have a 10 yr. relationship with a great guy.Are you willing to give all this up for a fling?
If this guy is sending you signals are they for the right reason?I would be very cautious if I were you. I would start by counting my blessings and all the time i have invested in those 10 plus yrs.
The grass is never really greener on the other side.I know from experience and please take my advice.You will most likely live to regret it one day.
Search your heart and your mind before making any decision and pray you make the right choice.
God Bless.
2007-03-18 07:14:22 · answer #3 · answered by sonnyboy 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is quite simple. You have a relationship with a "great guy" that you have given 10 years. Most new relationships don't last but only for a few days or weeks. Are you willing to risk all you have for a possibility? If you choose to stay, you need to make it clear you are in love with your significant other to this guy or move on to a new department or job. If you choose to go, you need to end the relationship with you significant other before starting a new one.
2007-03-18 07:33:19 · answer #4 · answered by A friend of Bill W 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hope my advice helps u out, and sorry for writing this much. read what i have to say, i think it will really help u out
hey sweety, my suggestion is that u should ask ur current boyfriend for a break. and explain to him ur situation. u havent cheated on him, and u should tell him that u dont wanna do anything to hurt him, and its better if u guys gave each other a break. it is not fair for neither u nor ur boyfriend. if u have mixed feelings for this guy, u should first figure out what is it u really feel about him. tell ur boyfriend that u dont want to hurt him, and u wouldnt be able to forgive urself if u ever cheated on him. so u would like a little time to think about what is it that u really want. otherwise, u will cause problems in ur current relationship. u r really worried and stressed about this, im sure of it. and ur boyfriend will eventually start noticing changes, and he will get pissed and there will be more tension in between u 2. try to clear out ur feelings, and figure out what is it u really want. good luck sweety, and sorry for writing this much.
2007-03-18 07:08:12 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Its normal to have feelings for other men aside from your partner...But you have to make sure you know your limitations,,especially if your man doesnt deserve to be cheated,Sometimes we are just challenge with the notion that there is a gorgeous man outhere liking and admiring us,And we misunderstood it.Try to spend more time with your old partner,join a sports club that both of you will enjoy,go out of town,do something different like generously helping lots of ppl that are in need,Seek for spiritual adviser,Pray for a clear minds....its not that easy t o give up a long time relationship with another man only because you got attracted with him.....You might regret it in the end,so you gotta make sure that its worth it
2007-03-18 07:07:07 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Only you could answer that question sweetie. If it was me, I would stay faithful with my guy if he's really as wonderful as I imagine him to be. The grass is always greener on the other side, the other guy might not be as half as wonderful as your guy once you get to know him. Think about it carefully or you might end up regretting it.
2007-03-18 07:12:13 · answer #7 · answered by Beotch4Life 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-12-02 04:34:40 · answer #8 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
u say u've been in a realationship 4 over a decade right?
are you bored with him? do u still love him like u used to? maybe its time to move on...
or it could be just lust with the guy @ work, something different you know. just knowing u "cant" have him, makes u want him even more....
2007-03-18 07:03:55 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wish I can give a right answer I cannot, I don't think anyone can. You have to follow your gut feeling. God Bless.
2007-03-18 07:09:44 · answer #10 · answered by Tellie 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋