Last night i was having a real down night. I was stressed and started crying. My boyfriend is a easy going mild mannered sensitive type... most of the time(We've been dating for 3 years and don't live together). So here i am crying and he's saying that he wants it tonight. while I'm sobbing. So i offer it very unethusiastically, no fore play nothing. And he still goes for it. After ward he feels bad, but that doesn't make up for what he did.
2007-03-18 06:58:07 · 10 answers · asked by Mel 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
leave him
2007-03-18 07:01:08 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You didn't say no or tell him to stop. No matter how sensitive a guy is, most have stronger sexual urges than women and can separate their feelings from physical intercourse. He might have thought that the sex would help cheer you up. The fact that he felt bad afterward is an indication that he cares.
Don't fault him for not being a mind-reader. Next time he will think twice about having sex when you don't look too enthusiastic, but don't hide your feelings from him and tell him straight out when you don't want to. If he is as sensitive as you say, then you should be able to tell him to back off and he should respect that.
2007-03-18 07:09:40 · answer #2 · answered by zenca3 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First I hope your feeling better.Well obviously you are disappointed that he still took the sex even when your upset. But you should have been alittle more firm in your stance that you were not in the mood and expressed that to him. He should have been alittle more considerate about your feeling and not bother you about sex. But you caved, you satisfied his needs and he did not comfort yours. Him felling bad after the fact is irrelavant. Talk to him and tell him how you felt and what he made you feel like. Perhaps used. I don' know. If you don't it will happen again. Take care
2007-03-18 07:10:56 · answer #3 · answered by ellisonh22 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hey there Mel...Personally I think your BF should have known you better after 3 yrs. He should at least have tried to comfort you before anything else. If he really cares for you then, he would have tried to help you solve your problem rather than try to sate his own. You are right....him feeling bad afterwards does not compensate for his selfishness. What to do??--I think you should try to talk to him and see where you guys stand as far as your relationship goes. See how he still feels for you and vise versa. I hope everything works out for you. Good luck and take care.
2007-03-18 07:07:19 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Unfortunatly guys, when they are in there sex drive mode, dont realy think too much about anything else. Its supid, and horible, but its the way they were built. If you were realy bothered by this (and it seems you should be.) then you should make him take you out on an amazing date and apoligies and make you feel like the amazing woman you are. If he isnt willing to do that then he isnt worth keeping.
2007-03-18 07:05:08 · answer #5 · answered by sasukechaos 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dear Mel..
Guys, will go for it as you so eloquently put it.
something about animal. Anywho.. its okay to feel upset about what happened. I mean in your moment of sadness downtime whatever if you have been dating so long both of you should understand each other and know if you can go that far. If it really bothers you speak to him, and agree on something valid also if you gave in and did not address it then, than don't really bug on it. ... smile was it once. Hmmmm
2007-03-18 07:14:30 · answer #6 · answered by nana 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think of you ought to stay with your instincts.My ex replace into the comparable way. till now each and every thing he replace into no longer violent merely indignant alot and consistently in some form of confortation with somebody, I over appeared it as something small and we moved in at the same time,slowly yet truthfully his rage might turn in the direction of me and he grew to alter into violent....i could no longer take it and that i left....this isn't any longer healthful for absolutely everyone to continuously be subject to somebody elses rage each and every of the time.yet once you sense like deep down interior he's threat loose and you are able to desire to work out your self dealing together with his anger on a in many circumstances happening & you would be happy on the comparable time... then stand with the help of your guy-cuz you gotta publish wit all @ the top of the day sturdy success
2016-10-19 00:13:42 · answer #7 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
wow....did he maybe think that being intimate with him would make you feel better? Is he usually a nice guy and this is out of character for him? Remember that you can say no.
2007-03-18 07:03:01 · answer #8 · answered by adnerb 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell him if you did not like that.otherwise you taste it frequently
2007-03-18 07:03:39 · answer #9 · answered by anis118030 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hmmmmmm wat is the problem here u should have just said No
2007-03-18 07:02:34 · answer #10 · answered by Sparkle 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋