me and my bf have been going out for 4 months and i love him to death. we're constantly talking about havin sex and i want to give it to him but i fear that it is too soon in our relationship. what do u think i should do? and how long should i wait b4 i give it up to him? by the way im 14 and he is 16.
2007-03-18 06:39:36 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
p:s we're both virgins
2007-03-18 06:50:52 · update #1
sweetie you are not in love you are in like. you do not know the meaning of true love. i am not sure if you have had sex or not yet. but if you haven't hold out as long as you can. and if you have then that is a choice you have to make for yourself. you need to find out how many people he has had sex with if any. you need to find out if he use protection or not. you need to find out if he has had any stds or not. having sex can be very harmful and painful. sex is not what alot of people make it out to be. right now the age group you are in has the highest risk of getting and std or hiv. remember you can get rid of most stds but you can not get rid of aids. so please be careful. you only have one life to live
2007-03-18 06:47:25 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
First and foremost that you have to ask on line what you should do tells me you are to young to even consider sex.
You have a future ahead of you , and the way you may want to go ,will not be the right one . It is a big responsibility should you have sex and get pregnant , and most likely one that your so called boyfriend of 4 months would take off and leave you with all the responsibility .
Haven't you learned anything in school ? Even your parents /
Talk with some one that can give you the guidance you need . Maybe you have someone close in the family that can help you with that decision as not to have sex.
You are too young to even no what True Love is in a relationship !!!! Although you are 14 and he is only 2 years difference ,he knows better . Don't !!!!!!!!!!!!!! Let him use you . That is exactly what he is doing and he knows it !!!!!!!!
One day the right one will call along . You didn't mentioned your parents , where are they in all this ? I no girls don't always go to there parents on these matters , but as a mother , I certainly no where my 14 year old is doing ,and she is not dating . Now she is grown and has a wonderful family , THAT !!!!!!!!!! Is what I'd want for you .
Marriage is a wonderful thing , wait till your married . Id rather be old fashioned then SORRY .
2007-03-18 06:57:51 · answer #2 · answered by dolores h 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hey girl, wait. Don't do this. You are young and sex should not be a priority for you, nor the idea of having a lover. All the guys out there are hungry for sex. Don't be a prey. I'm a man so i know what i mean. Man and Women do not think the same way when it comes to sex, for a girl of your age, sex is a way to prove your love and affection.. being romantic etc.. but for a 16 years old boy, sex is physical... porn and does not involve any feelings of love. he is not a man yet and far from becoming one. Trust me.
2007-03-18 06:53:18 · answer #3 · answered by Reploid 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Please wait. You have plenty of time to be in an intimate relationship when you are older and ready. Giving your body to man is not something you can take back. Trust me, I know. I had sex for the first time when I was a sophomore is college. And to this day, I wish I had not been so eager to have sex. Treat your body as the temple that it is and wait until you are in a serious and committed relationship before giving yourself so freely. If he respected and cared about you, he will respect your decision to wait. You will also know where you really stand, if you tell him you would prefer to wait to have sex and he hits the road. At least you will know before you give him a sacred part of you and he leaves you!
2007-03-18 06:53:31 · answer #4 · answered by Mandy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all you're too young. Boys this age are looking for instant gratification..that means that they want to feel good physically and don't really care about the emotional feelings as much as girls do. You are too young, once you give yourself to him you have nothing else to offer. And if he hurts you you can never get back what you gave up. Not from him and surely you won't be able to give it to anyone else. Wait, if he loves you he will wait too. Sex isn't everything.
2007-03-18 06:45:12 · answer #5 · answered by Lisa D 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
why do you want to rush anything..when you add sex into a relationship it changes it drastically. Sex is a grownup decision, you at 14 are not a grownup, you are still a child. Be ready if you nave sex with him to take all that comes with a choice like that..pregnancy, std's or him leaving you...guys do use girls for that then once they get it they leave (trust me on this last one, that's how my first boyfriend was).
2007-03-18 06:44:33 · answer #6 · answered by Kitikat 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honey you are way to young to have sex let alone be thinking about it. You have your entire adulthood don't stress about it when your only 14. If he doesn't like your final decision then that's his problem not yours. If you are questioning it then you know its to soon.
2007-03-18 06:45:52 · answer #7 · answered by Kayla 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes!
>>and how long should i wait b4 i give it up to him?
Read something about that or go to psychologist or social worker for answer.
2007-03-18 07:08:42 · answer #8 · answered by S c a l p e r 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you are 14 and i don't think you should be having sex at all and neither should he. but if you were A LOT older i would still say that is is too soon.
2007-03-18 06:45:48 · answer #9 · answered by ndbt 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
wait till u fell its not 2 soon
2007-03-18 06:44:11 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋