How can i feel comfortable with guys?

Question

Whenever im around a guy i like, or find attractive i feel very self conscious and intimidated. Furthermore when i dance with a guy, i feel like im outside my comfort zone. I have grown up without a dad, so have had no male influence in my life, which i think does not help, so im not really used to being around men and feel uncomfortable around them. I also lack confidence in myself, due a facial problem and braces (not gonna go into details - but my mates say that i am a good lookin girl, i just don't feel it at times). For instance, i was dancing with guy at club, but could not make proper eye contact, as i felt fairly uncomfortable, thinking that they will be judging me or noticing that i am not very attractive, compared to other girls.

Any advice much appreciated, as this is hindering me when out at socialising and meeting/dancing with guys i like

Answer 1

Stop worrying what other people think of you, just enjoy yourself and have fun.
You'll be surprise how many people "not so pretty" are so popular, have some kind of attraction, and are people magnets. You know why, because they happy with who they are and how they look.
If your mates say you're good looking then just trust then. People have different taste, so regardless how a woman looks, some people like her some just don't. Nobody is perfect.
When you're out with guys imagine that you know then for years, the first step is always the hard one and you already taken it. You're out dancing and meeting boys. Always look at boys (or whoever) right into their eyes, you're not less than anybody, never look down.

Answer 2

There is nothing wrong with you other then lacking confidence in yourself. You are as you think you are. Start thinking about yourself in a different way. Look in the mirror and point out your good feature to yourself. Begin to think of yourself as an attractive human being inside and out. Obviously you are an attractive person in spite of what you think about yourself or your friends would not say it. Get out of your comfort zone, practice making good eye contact. Maybe with someone in your family until you master it enough to feel confident. Think of yourself as being equal to other people if not better in some areas. They are human just like you with their fears also, maybe they just hide them better.

Answer 3

Hi, i had the same probl for many years and i think the probl is selfconfid and the thing whos helped me inter chat so u dont hv direct contact so u can hid ur embar and with time u find urself that u hv many quality u didnt know it befor.
another advise dont want just who atract u ( many atractiv male or female ) r empty inside so be open to any1.
ur lov could come here u nev thought.
good luck.

Answer 4

Lesson in guys... thats how they feel only ten times worse and people expect them to know how to chat girls up.


hence guys love it when a girl does the first moves and asking out and I dont me a look I mean chatting up or initiating kissing.

Get makeover... something radical so you feel different.


Hang out with groups of guys ie take up snowboarding, surfing. Buys like swimsuits

Maybe something physical with guys say needing a hand to play something ... ie any excuse to get touchy.

Guys like fun, fiesty up for it girls.


Fancy dress ie cheerleader, nurse etc helps...

If dancing with a guy hold his butt arms around him and let him hold you there back...

Answer 5

Yea, I avoid eye contact too with males. I try to avoid males as much as possible. What I would do to get over it is to just take a risk. Set up small goals like try to talk to a male or something. Then make bigger goals as you accomplish them. Good Luck.

Answer 6

*....I starred it! lol It relies upon on the guy, for my area i admire men because of the fact they do no longer problem with regard to the visual attraction, what they are donning (that they seem to be a minimum of masking) and all they wanna do is the two kick a ball, have somewhat relaxing with our guitars and drums, basses and voices or do stuff, no longer shop. often times they do prepare off and at ranges (Like youngsters do) they act somewhat immatur yet they create the relaxing out of each and every thing I in basic terms like my acquaintances, that are women, because of the fact they prefer to do stuff and don't problem approximately who we are in front of. i comprehend to many women that problem plenty they cant have relaxing. My pal, a woman, likes women extra effectual because of the fact she sews and does all the stuff that maximum women do in basic terms right.....that's why she is a chum yet i could say finding in any respect the solutions all those women who replied men you'll be kidding because of the fact maximum of you probably did answer men....meaning you're appearing like a ***** aswell, so cheer up and initiate appearing as a function variety.

Answer 7

You seem ok to me... nicely put question which shows you have a beautiful soul. Nothing like a bit of emotional pain to make us in to more improved people on how we treat others.

Answer 8

Us guys go through hell....he is probably more terrified than you....I was....it's really hard to give advice...try and treat him as you would a best mate...this may sound difficult, as he is not your best mate yet.....if he thinks alot of you, he will stay

Answer 9

i can understand as i find it very difficult to have eye contact wiz male ni even find it hard to luk at my bf eyes but ti thnkit is imporatnt to have eye contact wen ur hving a conversation...

wsh u luck
just try it...

Answer 10

confidence is 90% of everything that you do... you are a beautiful person and for others to believe it.. you must believe it yourself first