Im sorry but im soo sick of hearing this!!?

Question

I so sick of hearing people talk about how they want smacking banned!

Like seriously, how stupid is that? It really annoys me!

Why are children getting all the rights?

A parent should at least have the choice of how to disapline their own child. Children are getting pregnant at 11, swearing from no age, fighting, drinking and taking drugs... What happens if smacking was banned and a stressed out mother looses her patients and smacks her child?

Im not saying i agree with smacking im just saying why does it have to be banned... Can we not use it as a last resort? A simple tap to the hand.. what harm will it really do?

Giving the rights to the children, what use will that do?

MELISSA... Since when is smacking ABUSE? Nothing was mentioned about "beating children to death" Wise up. Oh and im not a lazy parent, i just believe that having smacking banned completly just gives the right to the children... which it does! I didnt say i smack my child! I prefere other disapline but im just saying that let parents have the choice, its not being lazy just because YOU dont agree with it. Maybe the parent just feels a tap to the hand works best for them...

Answer 1

I dont know. I was spanked as a child and so was my brother. We were both fine and still are and we never got into trouble, didnt do drugs, sleep around and get pregnant, Didnt feel abused at all. Dont feel like blowing up things or becoming criminals because we were spanked..lol ( like some people say) I just dont get it. There is a huge difference between spanking a child and Abusing a child. BIG difference.

Answer 2

Well said !! Nothing wrong with a swat on the butt. I know the difference between a beating and a spanking. I was beat as a child, but I do spank my children when they need it.

My children behave and i have only spanked them a handfull of times total. Children are not made mind anymore. They think they can do anything and only get a TIME OUT. Thats bull ****. If more parents made the child behave and toe the line we would have less crime in the world.

Yeah I dont agree with how my parents chose to handle punishments, however there was 5 of us......... none of which got in trouble with the law or at school, we were scared of what would happen, We all work, and take care of our own kids.

Parents stand in walmart, their child calling them Fuc***g B**ch, and they stand there and say dont use those words your man or ill have to take (whatever) away, If my 15 year old said that to me id smack his mouth and take EVERYTHING away for a Month.

I think only lazy parents dont spank WHEN the child NEEDS it. Most things dont require a spanking but if you have tried the other methods and it didnt work................ Spank

Answer 3

The way I look at it, there's a big difference between abuse and discipline. I'm a firm believer in spankings, hand smacks, and other disciplinary measures to get a child's attention.

It's not a beating. There are no permanent scars. I experienced both beatings and discipline as a child. The discipline came from my biological parents. They never spanked me when they were angry, and they only did it hard enough to get my attention. The real beatings came from the foster homes and DCFS officers that were supposed to be there to protect me. From social workers alone, I've had bloody noses, broken bones, and even electrical shocks.

That's why I say there's a big difference between discipline and beatings.

The people who want these kinds of measures enacted, namely the DCFS (or child protective services,) are pushing this kind of legislation to allow them more opportunities to take children from their homes. Kidnapping is a big money business, and DCFS has nearly free reign to do it.

And it doesn't stop there. The real abusers are often the people that are supposed to protect these children; again, the DCFS and our out of control court system. I know this for a fact, having been abused as a child by more than one DCFS officer. My case was not an exception to the rule, either, but a common occurence.

Answer 4

I spanked my son from the time he was 8 months old. Now at 3 1/2 is a very obedient child and I hardly have to do anything except for maybe an occasional timeout or something. Remember though, the keyword is spank... not beat. When I say I spanked my 8 month old, I mean I swatted his diapered behind lightly or his hand etc. As he got older, I was a little rougher but I have never left a scar or bruise on my child from a spank. It might be red for a minute or two but just enough to get the child's attention. So before they decide to ban this, we need to ban beating, not spanking. Spanking does not cause permanent damage to a child, beating and abuse does.

Answer 5

it's not so much the smacking ( which I don't necessarily agree with) it's the ones that go crazy and beat the crap out of the child. if you try to teach your child through hitting him, how is that gonna work? let say your child has hit another child in school and you spank the child to teach the child not to do it, duh, it doesn't take medical school to figure that one out. my oldest son use to get little spankings when he was younger, not smacked but spanked. it got his attention but I didn't like to do it because here I am his protector and I am hurting him. the other 2 never got spankings and never needed them. to this day, they still never even need to be called down very much. spending lots of time with them and giving them affection is the trick. they want to please you, they do not want to disappoint you. if you wrere at work and someone smacked you, would you like it? I bet not, you are gonna say that's different, I am an adult, well they will be adults someday too, but you have still violated their rights against battery, which is a state law in most states. battery is battery no matter what the age. 17 , 10 and 12 are my boys ages and they made it to that age without being "smacked" . I think they should make parents responsible for battery. you are just teaching your child that hitting is acceptable in some cases decided by you. the judge, jury and executioner.

Answer 6

I was spanked while growing up, as were my three brothers. All of us are well developed law abiding adults who have wonderful relationships with our parents.

This country has so many misfits because parents do not take the time to discipline their children. Society does not allow it, and a large number of children are beng born to kids.

Spanking should be a last resort and never done out of anger, but let me tell you it will get a childs attention quickly and before they are to old to get into trouble outside of the house...right from wrong is taught not a trait you are born with.

Answer 7

I think you're right a little smack is a totally different thing then beating your child with a belt... A child needs some sort of discipline and i don't care who you are every parent has smacked their child or will.

Answer 8

I spank my kids. If they need it, they get it.

1st warning = verbal warning.
2nd warning = time out
3rd warning = spanking.

I figure that by the time my kids get to the 3rd, they're testing me to see if time out is all they're going to get.

My oldest is now eight, and I haven't had to swat him for two years. He knows what he is and isn't allowed to do, and he stays within those boundaries.

My sister's oldest is also eight, and she hits her mom, screams obscenities at her, and tells her that she hates her.

... Over my dead body with my children EVER treat me that way.

How they act when they move out of my house is their business, but how they act when they live at home is up to me and my husband to regulate and enforce. Although we use it as a last resort, spanking is one of those tools.

There were seven of us in our household, and we turned out great. My parents spanked us. They didn't BEAT us. They SPANKED us.

We are all older than thirty, and wouldn't DREAM of disrespecting our parents TO THIS DAY. If there's no other reason to show them respect (which there is), they brought us into this world and made sure that we were clean, clothed, loved, and fed until we were old enough to support ourselves. Compared to THAT, I think that the spankings that we got (that we so rightly deserved) were just a SMALL price to pay for the wonderful home that we got to grow up in.

Answer 9

My three year old is disciplined but not physically. I use the 1-2-3 Magic Book by Thomas W. Phelan and it helps you teach good behavior without resorting to spanking.

Answer 10

"Looses her patients"? Okay, look -- judging by this site, there's a strong correlation between "I'm gonna hit my kid, damnit," and "I can't spell worth a damn."

Anyway.

If you're dead set on following the lazy, white-trash, head-in-the-sand about studies on spanking, sloppy, ill-educated parenting model, fine, whatever.

Just do it in your own home. The rest of us _cringe_, and wonder if we shouldn't 'smack' -- force adjusted for age -- you, when we see you losing it in the grocery store yet again.

If I was a violent parent (and it is violence -- do you give adults an age-adjusted 'simple tap' when they're out of line?), I'd be mortified. Not blithering on about my 'rights.'