I have a friend not a family member who has decided she wants to become a cdl driver and has asked me to take her children in my home full time for money while she works on the road for 2 years . The children have just recently lost there father from a divorce and I am confused about this I am worried about the welfare of the children but I am already a low income family with 2 children of my own so if anyone has any answers or advice that would be great .......... Thank you ahead of time !!
2007-03-18 06:19:10 · 9 answers · asked by brandi.smiles 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
The father id not pass away they divorced and he is supposed to have been not wanting anything to do with the children and the mother will be gone for weeks at a time sometimes months at a time wihtout even being able to visit
2007-03-18 06:29:06 · update #1
And I am not sure I can trust her about paying for anything to make things worse
2007-03-18 06:30:25 · update #2
Well she has family but her parents do not like some of her decisions with the children and do not wish to keep them if they cant have full decions on schooling and when the children visit there other grandparents . and the other grandparents will only take one and make the children be separated they say it is because they can only take care of one but I imagine it is because the other one is not there sons child
2007-03-18 06:35:59 · update #3
ITs not child abandonment if she is placing the children in a loving home and financially responsible for her children, she may have to do this to make ends meet quicker now since the passing of the childrens father. She is doing something to put food on the table , i knew a lady who did the same thing, and her children were raised by her best friend when she was on the road, and the children grew up knowing their mom did it cause she had too .
my fault, i was thinking about the lady i knew when i was typing .. sorry
If you feel like you have enough on your plate let her know this, tell her that you dont want the children to feel neglected by your already busy schedule, dont go into the responsibilty of raising her children if its not something you are 100% behind. If you are sure of her ability to pay you and help you out with her chldren then you should step back and just politely decline this way it will save you from being put in a predicament where in the end may get you out on the street cause you dont have enough for you and your kids plus her additional 2.. Does she not have family
2007-03-18 06:24:59 · answer #1 · answered by Amazing_clarity 4 · 3⤊ 0⤋
I think that you are too involved with that family. If you are concerned for the children's welfare, call Child Protective Services. Let that agency do their job, and don't let her problems become yours. She is uncooperative in any methods of help from the people that should be helping her (family, father, etc). This is the time for you to step out and let the local authorities make arrangements with the appropriate guardians. She (mom) will have to make choices and decisions. It appears that she will have to be forced to do this, unfortunately. Don't take on more than you can chew.
2007-03-18 13:49:42 · answer #2 · answered by longleggedfirecracker 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that is alot to take on. Are you ready to take that on- not only financially but emotionally as well. I think your friend really needs to think about her kids at this point. They are already scarred by the divorce and then to have their mother leave them for months at a time is going to kill them. How old are the children if they are under 5 hell no they should be with their mother. I know she's probably thinking like I have to do this all by myself now(money wise). She really needs to focus on her kids. You need to think about if you could handle something like that. If you're writing to us then you're not real sure. Before you jump into anything think long and hard because its going to be four kids that need you instead of two. Good luck.
2007-03-18 13:58:36 · answer #3 · answered by Babygirl 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have to seriously decide if you can provide for not only your children but two additional children as well. This isnt just about money, but emtionally as well. How often will their mother be home? Is she only gone for the day? Is she gone for days at a time? Does their dad see them at all? What about her family? How stable is you life as it is right now? Can you handle it? If you have doubts, then perhaps you aren't the best person for this job.
2007-03-18 13:25:24 · answer #4 · answered by Tammy 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Do what you think is right follow your heart if you can't afford it and you can't trust the mother to pay child support don't get involed.Its probably better for the mother's family to help with the children.
2007-03-18 13:44:59 · answer #5 · answered by BIGRED DADDY 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you would need something to show you was their guardian I would suspect as you can't even take them to the doctor. her exhusband might have something to say about it also. it is abandonment and she was awarded the children in the divorce, why didn't she just turn them over to the dad? sounds like the type of mom's we have nowdays. all about putting the coochie on the street.
2007-03-18 13:27:29 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its not abandonment if she asks you take them. She's asking you to care for them, not dumping them off on you.
I'd be skeptical if I were you. Two years is a long time & you might never see any money from her for food, clothes.... for her kids.
2007-03-18 13:28:47 · answer #7 · answered by Michelle *The Truth Hurts 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
say no, what a terrible career choice, what is wrong with people? call social services
2007-03-18 13:37:47 · answer #8 · answered by melissa s 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You sound as though you don't want to do this, so say no.
2007-03-18 13:39:26 · answer #9 · answered by Proud Mother 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋