I telephoned a woman whom I'd like to date. She never returned my phone call. ouch !! I know she got my message because I left it with a reliable person. Is she too busy? Is she being rude?
2007-03-18 06:01:00 · 14 answers · asked by Phillip 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I actually don't think its rude. It would probably be even more rude if she called you back and said "sorry I don't wanna date you." Find a new lady to date, this one is not interested and figures not calling is the easiest way to let you know. We're only too busy for the people we don't want to see and the things we don't want to do, remember that.
2007-03-18 06:04:23 · answer #1 · answered by First Lady 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
First, you need to ask yourself some questions about this reliable person: is it a male or female? Male--may not have given her the message because he's interested in her. Female--she may not have any or many dates herself and is jealous her friend has an admirer. Reliable to whom? Have your asked this person before to do personal things for you and have they been done in a timely, well done way? Or does this person only do job-related matters that make him/her reliable in your eyes? Are you even sure it was important enough to this person that the message be delivered in a timely fashion?
As a female I would be ticked off that you didn't leave a personal message for me on my cell phone or answering machine at home. It gives the impression you don't think highly enough of me to wait to talk to me personally. I guarantee that will set any woman off.
On the other hand, I think it is rude not to return anyone's phone call. If you have even a modicum of class and manners you'll find a way to extricate yourself from a situation (such as refusing a date) without hurting anyone's feelings or embarrassing them. With all the technology we have now it's become too commonplace to just text someone a message or leave a message with someone else. Another question I just thought of: did your reliable person give the female in question a way to get in touch with you? If she doesn't have a way to contact you, how can you expect to hear from her? In your case your friend may have told her you wanted to date her. If that wasn't made clear, then it was rude of her not to return a call to find out why you called. It could have been to inform her of a mutual friend's death, birth of a child, upcoming school reunion, whatever. If she can't talk at that time, she should at least call to say she'll be in touch with you later or say she's sorry, but further contact won't be possible.
If you don't hear in a reasonable amount of time, try once more. No response? look for a more compatible, mature person. Good luck.
2007-03-18 18:56:39 · answer #2 · answered by goldie 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How long has it been? Did she for sure get the message? Is the friend someone who might be attracted to you and doesn't want you to hook up with anyone else? Or give her the benefit of the doubt, if she is like me, she just plain forgot and didn't mean anything by it. Try one more time and if it is also a failure, don't take it personally. Just move on to the next lucky gal.
2007-03-18 16:27:10 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You left a message? That doesn't mean she got it. But..it's not rude. If she doesn't like you, what would she say, "Hi, I am returning your call but I don't want to see you." ???? THAT would be rude. Best just not to return your call. Forget her. Move on.
2007-03-18 13:07:41 · answer #4 · answered by Wiser1 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I've waited a month to call a guy back before, but it was because I was busy. I think if she doesn't call you back, don't bother. She snoozes, she looses. You have to be sure of yourself, and it sounds like you are, since you called first and all. Don't let go of that just 'cause someone has no manners.
2007-03-18 13:07:21 · answer #5 · answered by Tink 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That can be looked at in a couple of ways. If she didn't invite your call, then she shouldn't feel obligated to respond...however the polite thing to do would be to let you know she's not interested, instead of leaving you hanging. If she gave her number to you, then she is rude not to respond because by giving you her number, she invited your call.
Even when it's not convenient, we should still treat others as we'd like to be treated...and most of us would prefer a 'no' rather than days or a week or so wondering if they got the message, if they are too busy, if they died in a car wreck, etc or if they are just blowing us off because it's uncomfortable for them to be honest and say "thanks, but no thanks".
2007-03-18 13:05:20 · answer #6 · answered by . 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She could be too busy, but if it's like a week and she hasn't returned the call, she could be rude.
I'm the person who always gets the last word, so even if someone says "Bye" I always have to reply =) i'm not sure that if that's what you want.
2007-03-18 13:04:31 · answer #7 · answered by Banana Hero [sic] 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ouch; yes it is rude, if the phone call was awhile ago.
Even if she is not interested, she should at least have the guts to actually tell you, instead of hiding from you.
2007-03-18 13:05:43 · answer #8 · answered by NEONhearts 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She doesn't want to reject you over the phone or to your face so she's taking a cowards way out...ignoring you. When someone gives you the cold shoulder they arn't interested, move on.
2007-03-18 13:05:57 · answer #9 · answered by cotton~candy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
don't worry about why people don't return phone calls... things happen, i would give her one more chance if she does the same thing.... then well she is rude...
2007-03-18 13:05:27 · answer #10 · answered by :) 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Most women when not interested will just neglect to call a man back. It's just their way of saying: "I don't like you."
2007-03-18 13:05:24 · answer #11 · answered by Rewind 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋