what are your thoughts on this?

Question

a year ago this man held me till i slept because i was still bitter about catching my x of a few years cheating(they r mutual friends)he was so sweet that night.I have thought of him ever since,i have seen him here and there throughout the year and at one point he told me i was killing him,but i always thought he did not want me and he thought i did not want him,i finally called him a month ago and told him he was eating me alive,he said it was mutual and he had no idea i felt that way and he thinks im so beautiful,but he started dating someone a month ago and its only fair to tell me,so i told him to tell me to let it go and he said he cant.I ran into him a couple weeks after and we were like magnets and started kissing until i realized he had a girlfriend and told him we had to stop,he again told me how he wished he knew i had liked him so i told him we would be friends and he put his head down and again told me he thinks im the most beautiful girl alive,i told him im not'that girl'

he understood and kept saying how he wish he knew i liked him and how he so badly wanted to call me in the past year.should i believe him? wht do i do now?he knows i really like him right?

Answer 1

He has a girlfriend, not a wife. I'd call and ask him to dinner to talk about things. Give him an ultimatum ifyou're that into him. He can break up with her if he feels so inclined. Don't wait too long, either.

Answer 2

please read everything i have to say, i think it might help. im really sorry that i typed so much, but i think it would do u good if u read it.
well sweety, that s what happens when u dont tell people how u feel right away. see, the problem is that u live life once, and u must tell others exactly how u feel about them, because later it might be too late. however, even tho this might sound a lil harsh, the best thing for u to do is tell the guy to dump his girl. im rally soory for her, but the thing is, that the guy says he s thinking about u, and it isn't fair to any of u. not to u, not to his girlfriend not to himself. he s only deceiving himself and her because he s always thinking about u. when u arent really in love with some1 and u still love someone else, u shouldnt date till u ve moved on, because u could only hurt ur mate, and hurt urself along the way. and that s what he s doing. now u know that he really likes u, so im pretty sure that it really hurts for u thinking that he does like u and u cant hhave him. for the same reason, he s hurting himself. and his girlfriend, even tho she doesnt know what s going on, in the long run, she ll start noticing changes in him, and feel rejected, and will start thinking the worst. we have a saying in spanish "un clavo saca a otro clavo" meaning, one nail removes another. people think that s effective, but it really isnt if u dont feel anything for this person. i hopefully everything turns out alright for u, and believe me, the best u can do is tell him to dump his girl, cuz neither she deserves being deceived like that, nor u guys deserve to compress ur emotions. everybody gets hurt in a situation like that. take care. and again good luck
ps. im soooo sorry i typed sooooo damn much

Answer 3

isn't the ball in his court? he is the one with the g/f. he has to ditch the g/f. maybe he really wants to bang you and keep the g/f. that would be a good deal ya ask me. you are so beautiful, wasn't that a joe cocker song. beauty has more to do with lust than love, he just wants to hit that. he was hoping that by holding you while you slept, he could get busy while you were at your weakest moment. not enough strength to resist, so to speak. your esteem in the toilet , someone to make you feel wanted and all. if you are so beautiful, why no picture on the profile? I would like to see the most beautiful woman alive.

Answer 4

He is telling you the truth and the reason he wont give up the other girl is because he only wants you for excitement, he cares about you alot but not to the point where he wants to be with you because if you asked him to leave his girl and he said no then he is not to a point where he can be with you with strings attached

Answer 5

I think you did the right thing!! you opened your heart and told him everything that you feel...and of course he knows now that you care for him!!the best part is that you told him that you don´t want to be ¨that girl¨; now... you have to wait, give him space and time to think what is he going to do with it... good luck and always be the first course to someone not the dessert...you deserve it!!!!

Answer 6

Sounds to me like you two need to get together, start dating,
have a relationship and see what develops..

Answer 7

yes,believe him,but believe this..........first. you are throwing mixed messages. and second, if he wants to cheat on his current girlfriend,you will always be a second to him.