How come most step dads are always mean and violent?

Question

I don't have a step-dad, but you always hear about something happening on T.V. or a movie about something like that happening?

Answer 1

Don't believe what you just see on T.V. Real parents can be just as abusive as step-parents.

I know one man who divorced from a lady with one son and ended living with a lady with a couple of kids and one of their own. To him, it does not matter. To him, all the kids are his and loves them to pieces. And the kids adore him in return. In fact, his ex-wife had another son by another man who left. As far as he is concerned, that little boy is his too. His reason is the little man needs a father-figure since his real father left so the man is stepping up to the plate. He also said how could he not step up? That is his son's brother!

Now are relationships this good? No. But it is not as bad as T.V. protrays either.

Answer 2

i don't know. I suppose not ALL step parents are like that though. I guess after you lose a parent from a divorce and are stuck with some new guy that you're expected to accept as your second dad.....it can be hard because right off the bat you don't want to like the guy. (unless your real dad was an alcoholic or an abuser or had anger issues or something) So you automatically look for every negative thing about him. And when all that adds up, you hate him. The media has a big impact on our views of dads as well. They always show the father walking out on the family, hardly ever the mother. And the step-dad is usually the mean one. I think it's just a stereotype.

Answer 3

Movies are fiction, they are not true. The violent step dads are the only ones to make the news. For everyone that is violent, there are thousands quietly raising someone else's kids because they love them. Those guys don't get noticed.

Answer 4

You are sadly mistaken. God rest my step dad's soul, as he is gone now, but he was such a good father to me and my brother. We didn't even call him our stepdad, he was just dad to us and to him we were his kids.
My daughter's stepdad treats her like his own too, while in the meantime she still visits her biological dad.
Don't focus on stereotypes. They are never 100% correct. They're just a false perception of reality.

Can I add...
A lot of kids who have stepdads probably weren't happy about their mom getting remarried, were hopeful of their parents getting back together, etc. So here comes this new man to the household who has his own ideas of how to raise children and has to take an active role in their raising and disciplining, and it's a whole new ballpark to the kids. The stepdad most likely has the best intentions, but do you think the kids feel the same way? They have a hard time accepting a new stepfather, hence the "stories" about their "evil stepfather."

Answer 5

my husband is step dad to two of my kids (we have two together), and he isn't like that all, he treats them all equally, not all step dads are like that, trouble is you only hear about the bad ones, shame when so many do such a good job.

Answer 6

Most step dads are not mean and violent. However, if anyone out there has one who is, you need to talk to your mother in private about it. If she won't listen...then talk to your teacher, school counselor, or pastor. You need to leave that situation, and you need help to do that.

Answer 7

My step dad is mean because I'm not his kid and I think he has an anger problem.

Answer 8

this is steriotyping........like the wicked step mother.
It is just not true...most try very hard to be a good parent
knowing we all have an inner desire for our genetic parents.
Second our society is more drawn to a story line with violance and problems than loving and peaceful.