What should I do?

Question

There's a boy in my class and I fancy him. He knows that but and does all sort of stuff to make me jelous. Everybody has noticed that. He has told to my best friend: "She is very cute and there's no problem with her face, behaviour, but she is so obsessed in school, homework and studies. That's what I don't like in her." What can I do? I like this guy but he doesn't seem to like me and if I start to leave studies behind, dress up like the other girls, my teachers will change their opinion about me and I don't want this. I want to make him like me, but....... Oh, help me please!!!

Answer 1

The most important thing is to be yourself. Don't try to pretend to be something that you are not, because it will make you unhappy.

It seems that you may be trying a little too hard with this guy. If he knows that you fancy him and isn't interested you can't *make* him like you. Maybe you could try not to be so available to him so he won't take you for granted.

However, you might just need to find a better guy for you, one who likes you for who you are. If you do, someday you might laugh at the idea that you ever fancied this one particular guy.

Good luck!

Answer 2

You could...

1. Accept that he doesn't like you and move on with life. If the situation was reversed, would you want a guy to give up his interests (especially one as important as education) to try to make you like him? Frankly, it's kind of pathetic.

2. Keep doing everything you possibly can to make him like you. Maybe it'll work. Is it worth it? For some guy's attention? If it does work...how long do you think the relationship will last...and at what cost?

3. Keep your mind focused on knowing that he's not the only guy in the world that you'll like. Another guy will come along and fall head over heals for you -- and wont want you to change a thing about yourself.

Stand up for yourself and do what's respectable.

Answer 3

My advice is don't neglect your homework. Try waking up an extra half hour in the morning to dress up a little more. Save the weekends to have fun and the week days to stress about school. You need to learn how to balance homework and having a life. High school is supposed to be fun. P.S. the only reason you should change yourself is if your not happy not for a guy in high school.

Answer 4

I think you should live him alone. He`s just a phase in your life. Your school its more important than a boy that wants you to leave school behind. And sincerely I don't think he`s so cool if he doesn't understand the importance of school.
And something else. Don't try to change for others, and don't try to change others for you. Others should accept you for what you are. I hope this was a good advice. Good Luck.

Answer 5

I know i am probably going to sound like your grandma or parents but you should stick to your school work, not boys. I know i am being a hypocrite right now because i go after girls even though i worry about my studies to!
If you dint want to change your teachers views over you than don't go after him, and besides. when ever someone else will start to like you they will like you for who you are. If you dress up and not be yourself, than as soon as you stop "dressing up" than that person will not like you. you have to be yourself all the time don't dress up.
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Answer 6

Forget him. He isn't worth your time. You need to concentrate on school, not boys. If you happen upon a boy who likes school as much as you, then go for it. Don't settle for anything less.

When I was in high school, I was the honor society president. All the girls thought I was a nerd. I had a real tough time finding dates. Fortunately I made it into my first choice for college and had plenty of opportunity to meet quality women who cared about grades like I did.

Good luck and G-d bless !!

Answer 7

Here is a simple piece of advice.... NEVER EVER change for a boy. He may be what you think you want now, but you are still young and your tastes will change. You will look back and realize that he wasn't worth the trouble. If he can't accept you for who you are and all your strong points, why would you want to be with him anyways?

Answer 8

PLEASE I BEG YOU DO NOT CHANGE! NOT FOR HIM.

You are a very special person and is not that you are obsessed over school is just that he is a party animal. Please do not change because of him, change because you want to change and ONLY because of you and no one else. He does not deserve you.

Girl! guys come and go, they say you need to kiss a lot of frogs before you find your prince. I can tell you he will still be a frog no matter how many times you kiss him.

Every day make a wish, ask for a smart, fun, loving boyfriend. You deserve it, it will not be denied to you, just believe and ask for it.

Good luck!

Answer 9

Don't change who you are to make some boy want to date you. If you so, what's next? He'll say well I like her but I am going to break up with her because she doesn't put out. Are you going to put up with that crap. I know that you really like him but if he doesn't like you, the WHOLE PACKAGE, then he is worth your time. There will be other boys. It's not like you'll die if he doesn't date you. Besides you need to keep your grades up so that you can go to college and find the REAL man of your dreams, who will love you for you.

Answer 10

if any one ever figures out how to make someone truly like them, they will be king. when you look at someone, you either like them or don't no one can change your opinion but you. one of the best ways to turn it around is to piss him off, he sees you drooling over him, you are afraid you will offend him. so you are on your best behavior. piss him off a little to get him guessing if you are still pining for him. it won't happen immediately but you gotta get him out of the mindset he already has you. good luck.