what would you do?

Question

I've been with my wife for 12 years how do I tell her I got her best friend pregnant on accident with out getting her mad?

steve asked this question. not awc

Answer 1

Without her getting mad? You are stupid, huh? You should be thrown out the door, and never heard from again that is what i say. you are one of those that should have never married.

Answer 2

Oh Dear, Be realistic your Wife is going to be FURIOUS. Mad is not the word. You just do not cheat on your wife, with her BF, get her pregnant, and expect her not 2 be mad. Honey I am so sorry to break the news to you, but you might be in court in a couple of days! Crazy- So if the BF would have never gotten preg. you will still be having sex with her? How long have you been cheating on your wife? There are a lot of question you need to ask yourself...So to drop the bomb on your wife, just tell her that you need to speak to her about a real serious matter. Do this at home, DO NOT take your wife out in public to give her the notice..you have no idea of how she is going to REACT! Talk to her start off by telling her that no matter what the outcome of that conversation is you are very sorry and truly love her....then say it how it is!

Answer 3

You got her best friend pregnant, and now you don't want her to get mad at you when you tell her?

That is too high an expectation. If you want her to stay with you, then be upfront with her.

My husband and I decided that cheating is a deal breaker and if one cheats, the other gets out scot-free if they want to.

Now, I'm not sure how you "accidentally" got her friend pregnant, but don't tell her it was an "accident." She won't believe you and you'll look like a total idiot.

She's going to do what she's going to do. You can hope she doesn't leave you, but prepare for her to do just that.

Incredible that you did something wrong and now you are worried about how your wife will percieve you.

Answer 4

How you tell her... your poor wife is gonna go crazy thats some real F***ed up S**t...theres no way you can tell her taht without getting her mad.. but you gotta be honest with her and let her know whats going on...because at the end you gonna hurt both of them , she is not only to be mad at you but at her friend too because you both mocked her .. shes gonna feel really upset because you are her husband and that is her 'Bestfriend' it wont be easy to tell her but youll hurt her more if she finds out by someone else.. so go ahead and do it and tell her how you really feel .. cuz probably what you did with her best friend was a little slide ... if you been with her for 12 yrs. you must love her ....and pray for forgiveness... we all make mistakes sometimes... hopefully she understands
Good Luck!!

Answer 5

hun, i don't think you can break it to her easily. no matter what you do, you can't control your wife's emotions. her reaction will be from her, what you do cannot change that.

talk to the best friend about it, find a way to explain it together. it's easier to live with regret of saying something than the consequences of not.

if this other woman is her best friend, she may pick up on it no matter what you decide to do.

it's your choice, just know that it affects three people, your wife, her best friend, and your child.

what is your plan? do you want to be part of the babies life? i can only give advice, you are the only one that can make that decision. make a good one.

Answer 6

Dude you screwed up nicely. There's no way to tell her that won't hurt-that's a terrible thing for a wife to hear no matter how you say it-the sooner the better-tell her now. I'm sorry that you consider cheating on your wife an "accident."

Answer 7

bring your wife to hopefully not your last date, treat her to a nice dinner and expensive one, she desrves it shower her with flowers, chocolates and all that stuff,...afterwards , drink some wine, ...drink plenty of wine... get her drunk at some point... tell jokes, lots of jokes..... then if the timing is right, if she's a bit drunk... tell her that there's a nasty rumour going on between her best friend and you and that somehow involves her getting pregnant. .... wait for her reaction, she might just laugh it off .... or maybeshe's too drunk to think straight or react ... no matter what it's going to be a date the two of you will remember for the rest of your life...Good Luck and be a good man from now on !

Answer 8

Wow!! You can't expect her to not be upset. You can't just sweep it under the rug either. You have to be honest, you have to Man up to it and tell her the truth. If she loves you, truly loves you than after some time she won't want to kill you. You have to decide if you want your wife or her best friend. There is no easy way to break her heart really. Good luck!!

Answer 9

what kind of responces are you hoping to get from us, there is no good way to tell youre wife you got another woman pg, i cant beleve you are even asking this question , what kind of man dose something like this to his wife????? and beleve me shes going to be more then mad !!! and her so called best friend should be rite there standing when do tell her, i wish no luck to you for what you and that woman as done to her

Answer 10

ok look i sugest you wear protection cuz she is prolly going to heave a very heavy object at your nuts and that could be painful for you and it prolly wasnt an accident ok. males have a problem with letting one brain do all the thinking and look where that got you in a world of S**T. good luck but expect divorce papers.

Answer 11

First of all, there was no accident with getting her bestfriend preggo. It's called Karma, You do something bad, something bad will happen to you. Tell your wife now, and dont get pissed if she wants to divorce your stupid ***! Also her friend seems like a cheap whore, who sleeps with her bestfriends hubby?