I'm terrified to lose him..?

Question

I've never loved anyone truly before I met my boyfriend, Brian. And though we do have our problems, we always work them out and end up cuddling and kissing. Thing is, lately, he's been more and more sneaky. I've been uptight and protective {slightly overly so} since a girl where he works has been saying she loves him and calls him a 'hottie' and things like that. I'm very insecure with losing people, as I've lost many people I loved in my life;; one to death {best friend} one walked out {brother} and ex boyfriends. I'm terrified this girl will do something to him...I've already confrounted him and her both, and she denies feelings for him, but still talks about loving him and things like that. {She's known him for a month, and professed her love the day she met him.} He simply gets angry when I ask him if he feels for her. To top it off, my ex best friend flirts with him, too;; they grew up together, and she's said she wanted to be his one and only. Am I just being too insecure, or...?

As of yesterday, his friend asked if he wanted to get 'crunked' which means stoned and drunk. When I asked the kid what he was asking a non smoker, non drinker this for, he got defensive and said he was kidding.

Answer 1

I would expect, that prhaps you are overly worried about people who arent worth your attention in the first place. If they are so shallow, they arent worth your time. Only connect to sincere people. Anyone as empty as you've mentioned arent worth being your friends.
Tho there's a variety of definitions for a friend, this one is my favorite:
A TRUE FRIEND IS
SOMEONE WHO SEES YOU
THROUGH THE GOOD
TIMES AND THE BAD.
A TRUE FRIEND IS
SOMEONE WHO MAKES YOU HAPPY
AND IS THERE FOR
YOU WHEN YOU'RE SAD.

Answer 2

Trust me on this one. I’ve known more than a few “players”… and while some men will date several women at once, it’s only because they haven’t met THE ONE they are really looking for.
You know what I’m talking about here from experience… When a man says one thing, but you INTUITIVELY KNOW it’s another… but he can never see it for himself, no matter how hard you try and show or convince him.
So why do men pull away from certain women… but fall HEAD OVER HEELS for others?

Let me let you in on another little secretWhen a man pulls away from a woman, it is NOT because men are “screwed up”…

And… it’s not because he has doubts about being in a relationship.

It’s because he has doubts about being in a serious relationship with THAT PARTICULAR WOMAN.

Something is missing with that woman that makes him think that she is NOT the one for him to settle down with… and that he can do better…

Here’s something else you should know…

When this happens, it’s usually NEVER over a “little thing”.

It’s also almost NEVER because a man isn’t attracted to you physically (if that was the case, he wouldn’t have gotten that close to you in the first place.)

It also doesn’t necessarily mean that he wasn’t at least somewhat attracted to you EMOTIONALLY…

What it DOES mean is that there wasn’t ENOUGH ATTRACTION there to lead him to feel that YOU were the one for him.

So was there anything you could have done about it?

The answer is YES.

And the good news is that it’s actually quite simple to give a man that powerful “gut feeling” that tells him YOU are the one…

Ur not insecure u just need to spend more time w/hem. Its the litle things that count like..takeing food 2 hem when hes @ work,,things like that... be more visible in hes life.

Answer 3

sorry, this last post is in some woman language that I can't seem to make any sense of

at this point in life, I am thinking mostly I need to laid, often.

Could probably stay alive on twice a week. Could be REALLY HAPPY on twice a day. Very few women my age have time or inclination for that I am finding. Too busy worrying about nothing, working to buy things they don't want or need, etc.

I just want a happy worry free existance, with love and sex , and am taking steps toward it, baby steps now, medium ones next year, larger ones in 3 years.

Answer 4

I feel bad for you, it seems like you have a bad b/f, he never seems to take you seriously. You are worried that you may lose him to another girl, and he's not helping by making you feel bad, and pushing you away. You may need to prepare your self for him leaving, that looks like what is to come next. You are being insecure, but its ones of those time where there is a good reason to be.

Answer 5

Yes, you are being too insecure. If you trust your boyfriend, he won't have to sneak around to hide things that could potentially set you off. In some cases, behavior like this leads people to cheat.

Sit down and talk to him and apologize to him. Then continue to build a strong relationship with him.

Answer 6

well the first thing to ask your self is that do u trust him? if you do you need to believe that he isn't cheating on you. because if he isn't and if you spy on him you could lose him just be careful of what you do well i wish you the best of luck
Casey

Answer 7

You are being too insecure. If you are too clingy he will definitely leave you.