All right. We broke up because in SIX MONTHS I'm going to college. His idea. He doesn't want it to "hurt" when I go away in the fall, He still has feelings for me, though. And he's just real depressed about it, but whenever I talk to him he keeps on telling me its best for us to break up. I am not handling it very well because I have never loved someone so much. I still am very in love with him. I just want to spend as much time as I can with him before I go away.
I know there are a select few of you out there who will just tell me to forget about him and to move on but I would appreciate you don't answer in that way...
because my question is: what can I do to make him think otherwise? I have already tried explaining to him numerous times all the obvious answers out there, i.e., let's just let a good thing last, and i have even offered to still be in the relationship with him when i go away. hes just so afraid.
what can i do/say to make him come back to me?
2007-03-18 04:57:23 · 6 answers · asked by sam 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
any relationship founded on guilt and all the negative emotions in this question is built on shifting sand move on and run as fast as u can the art of communication is u explain over and over and over and if he listens to u instead of selfishly clingin to his hurt feelings u discuss it run move on or choose to miserable
2007-03-18 05:05:17 · answer #1 · answered by mmbmw2000 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hasn't he heard of long-distance relationships? Just because you're going to college doesn't mean you can't be in a relationship, especially if you love each other so much.
Tell him that you want to do everything you can to make it work, but if he isn't willing to put forth as much effort as you are, I'm afraid he isn't worth your time.
Whatever you do, don't sacrifice your future for any guy, no matter how great. You'll regret it.
2007-03-18 12:03:19 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I went through the same type of relationship at about your age. I was leaving to serve our country and she was staying home. I was inlisted on the delated entry program.
She told me she wanted to start dating other fellows. It broke my heart. I told her I wouldn't be there if she was and I left three months earlier than my program included.
We still wrote to one another, not relationships were discussed. We carried on our relationship via the pen and paper.
Serving the USofA is quite different than college, but eventually I found other dates as well as she. We still wrote one another, no relationships mentionend. Eventually we left in our seperate ways. Natural life will tell you which way to go with your heart.
2007-03-18 12:12:21 · answer #3 · answered by AlbeFree 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he will only come back if he truly wants to. nothing you can say or do will stop somebody from doing what thy want to. i broke up with my girlfriend when i went away to school because there were so many chances to get a better one. when i came home we would go out again.
2007-03-18 12:06:38 · answer #4 · answered by tony cola 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You just told us that you have said everything. there is no more to say.
Tell him how you feel, and that you don't agree but you will respect his wishes. Leave it at that. He has to make the next move. If he doesn't, then pick up the pieces and move on.
2007-03-18 12:05:53 · answer #5 · answered by sparbles 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i kind of had the same thing happen to me and it was reversed i told a very close friend who i took to the prom and went on dates to go to college to improve her life and not get in a relation with me until she had her schooling and then i would'nt feel bad if the relation went on and she couldn't blame me for hinder her later on but we remained friends
2007-03-18 12:05:10 · answer #6 · answered by jr 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋