is it right to smack children? and why?

Question

well tht is eveyone question!!!!!!
but i want ur opinion

Answer 1

Yes,within reason. A child needs to know where the limits are and if they are crossed there are consequences.A short sharp smack does this, the child does n't like it and remembers for next time.Before the lefty ' human rights' mob attack me I'm NOT advocating hitting them over the head with a chair etc. Smacks would not be given lightly,only when necessary,it would be the threat that they COULD be used that would provide the deterent.
I was never smacked more than a few times throughout my childhood but I knew that if I overstepped the mark,I could be.
This is the same in schools and corporal punishment, the cane was hardly ever used except in serious cases and repeat offenders were rare..but we knew it was an option so behaved.
Now you've got pupils telling teachers.."You can't touch me..I'll sue you " etc..No wonder discipline in schools is worse than ever before.
The namby pamby lot want us to put them on a 'naughty step' or keep them in at breaktime..yeah ,right,that is REALLY going to do it.
Someone ,somewhere is going to see sense and bring back discipline,too late I fear for many of our youngsters..they've been spoilt already.
Why can't people use common sense..it is easy to distinguish between a smack and real physical abuse..but instead they want to stop teachers now from even shouting at kids(in case they get traumatised) ahh,diddums.
Cold ice...I HAVE been in a child's shoes, and I'm very grateful that my parents brought me up with discipline.
I am a much better person because of (the threat of) a smack.

Answer 2

No, it's never OK to smack a child, for the following reasons:

1) It doesn't teach them why what they've done is wrong.
2) It can make them angry and resentful of their parents, especially as they get older.
3) It hurts, and for far longer than you might expect.
4) It can destroy their confidence and make them feel like they're bad, unloved and unlovable.
5) It teaches them that it's OK to hit and be hit. This is, I believe, the main reason why there's so much bullying and domestic violence in society; people associate violence with power and love.
6) Some parents go too far, which in some cases can result in the child's death.
7) It shows immaturity on the part of the parents, as it's basically an adult form of a temper tantrum. It's the parental equivalent of "No fair, you're not doing what I want!" (stomp, stomp).
8) It's the laziest way of discipling children imaginable.
9) It shows parents' inability to empathise with other people, as they're not considering how the child feels.
10) Some parents smack their kids when all the kids are doing is expressing parts of their personality.
11) It's a form of bullying.

Answer 3

Yes it is, as the first answerer said, within reason. If a mark is left that is still there some time later, or worse, a bruise, that is going too far. No child should be hit on the head, the face, back or stomach. A brisk sharp slap on the leg or hand is all that's ever needed. And certainly a child should never be shaken. Ideally of course, alternatives to smacking should be preferred, such as loss of privileges. I knew a lady once whose small daughter used to have screaming temper tantrums. The lady told me she finally responded by dumping the little girl, fully clothed, in a bath of cold water. The shock of the cold water put paid to the temper tantrums. Another lady told me her little girl regularly misbehaved and had tantrums in church, until her mother told her that if she did it again, she would take her knickers down and smack her bottom in front of everyone. Of course if you tell children you will do something, they need to know that you really will do it, or it's not worth saying it at all. This little girl took the threat seriously and behaved herself from then on.

My mother was very young when I was born in the 60s and many people advised her never ever to smack her little girl! : ) My behaviour was apparently so bad that finally, when I was two, she lost her temper and I received all those overdue smacks, with interest! After which I was a good little soul and she realised what idiots all those people had been!

: )

Answer 4

This question always causes riots, but personally I think that a parent / guardian has the right to discipline their child (within reason) by smacking, and that on lookers should mind their own business when a child is being disciplined in public. However I dont agree with a child being beaten for the slightest thing nor do I think objects eg slippers or belts should be used instead of a hand. I was disciplined when I was a child and it hasnt done me any harm. But hey thats my opinion.

Answer 5

I think so - I have two daughters one 4 and one 2. The eldest is a very good child, very sensitive and hardly gets into trouble. But my 2 year old is very boisterous and sometimes when she is getting a telling off there is no getting through to her. Yes I do smack her and put her in the hall. But that is just a light smack on the nappy or the leg.

Answer 6

Well, this is kind of a perlpexing question. I was spanked as a child, however, I never remember thinking, "oh if I do this I'll get spanked". I think I thought of it as a quick and easy out. It only hurt for a few minutes, and big deal. I had spatted my childs hands when he was small, for things like messing with electrical sockets etc. However I don't spank my children. I feel it just sends the wrong message. I came to this realization once when my first son was jumping on our bed, fell off, smacked his head into the wall, and jumped up shrieking "I be good, I be good!" while crying. My heart sank! We'd never actually spanked him, but like I said had spatted his hands, or bum here or there. What I realized is that he equated pain with being bad, even if he wasn't being bad. I know your saying that's the point, but No it's not. The point is, we say spanking is "out of love" so that they won't be bad, but spanking is the farthest thing from love. It's an excuse we use to make it okay for us to lose control of our ourselves where our children are concerned. If we love and respect our children......which is the same that we want from them......then we talk, explain why something's wrong, and have consequences for actions. It hurts far more to be grounded for a few days (thus putting life on hold) than to receive a brief spanking. Also, I feel we are teaching violent reactions are OK, so long as it's because something was done wrong. This in my opinion is part of the reason for our society today........violence at home is okay, teaches violence outside of home is also okay, so long as we were wronged. We need to rear our children up in love, patience, understanding, along with bad actions.... bring negative consequenses. Try taking their video games, phone, tv, or other beloved priviledges away and see how long it takes them to walk the straight and narrow. I'm not a perfect parent, but I do have a clean conscience and happy heart where my children are concerned. Good Luck!

Answer 7

Smacking your children is kind of harsh, but when it comes to teenagers, I think yes its alright bc you always need to let your children know who's in charge. For younger children I believe in spankings( not abusing the child), because I was raises that way and I turned out very good. You have to teach your children discipline and if all you do is give them time out or ground them, then they know they can get away with a lot and that's not okay. So yes I believe on hitting your kids, but be careful because hitting and abusing your kids are 2 different things.

Answer 8

it depends on how u smack them but i agree with smacking, i only smack my children if they've crossed the limit. very rarely but sometimes they do something that u know is very wrong, i know sum 1 who doesnt smack her kids and they just walk all over her and swear at her and the eldest is 11.my kids r def better than hers they wudnt even dream of doing n e thing to me wot her kids do to her. so does smacking when needed work? i def think so they need to know who's boss and be kept in line. thats why theres more asbos than ever nowadays b cos evrybody is too scared to discipline their children with a good smack. if u think back to the old days like when my dad was a boy u got smacked evrywhere at home and at school and there was more respect 4 others in them days.

Answer 9

yes, but you do it with love.
when you smack a child and the next minute the child will found him/herself in the hospital that is an abuse. or during the process you enjure the child - its an abuse.
it is good when a child do something that is bad you decipline the child like i said with love.
when you smack a child in any little mistake, it hardens the heart of that child and he/she will continue in that act knowing that the only purnishment he/she will get is smacking which pains less
purnishing a child is not only done by smacking that child.

Answer 10

I think it is okay as long as you do not leave a bruise, cut, or scar on them and you do not make them bleed.Of course it'd have to be because they did something REALLY wrong-and you have to stop smacking them at a certain age when they can behave maturely and take responsibility for themselves. (I personally wouldn't want to smack my kids when I'm a grown woman unless they did something really wrong and we were warned and told to stop several times. You know how some kids want to test grown ups and see just how far they can go when they don't take the adult seriously.)
Now, there are some who disagree for several reasons and that's okay. We all have different beliefs and techniques on raising kids. I think that there are other ways to discipline kids such as taking away their electronics (cell phone, iPOD or MP3 player, computer, and so on), grounding them, giving them extra chores, having a talk with them, and other things like that. As long as the kid realizes what they did wrong, WHY it was wrong and realizes the consequences of what could happen if they do it again-then they're okay. :)

'Hope I helped in some way!