Would you have a cross-eyed teen as a friend?

Question

I am a 16 year old boy, who has severely crossed eyes and behind some thick farsighted lenses the crossing of the eyes are even more noticied. I live in Sao Paulo and there are not a single day that I am not teased at school or elsewhere. I am very shy of my eyes AND my funny glasses; (you wouldn't believe if you see it), and I even hate them or hate to talk about them and maybe because of that, I have no friends, even at school. What should I do to change this situation? I've had four surgeries with insatisfatory results. Any answer or suggestions would be appreciated.

Thanks for listening.

Answer 1

Personally, I have nothing against cross-eyed people or the like. First of all, it is a condition the person didn't plan having and maybe even wanted to have. People may be cruel or rude towards you for being cross-eyed, but keep telling yourself that you are still special in your own ways. If you are having problems gaining friends, try to find something where you can excel at..it may be a hobby or it may be in a school subject. If they don't want you for their friend, then you can and should certainly find some people who'll want to make friends with you. Don't make your handicap a reason for you to remain cramped up in your shell. Go out and make friends with those people who are not biased...i am quite positive that there are such people still around. Goodluck!!!

Answer 2

I would.

I'm a college student, and even though i cant relate to your situation, i havent been so popular either. U know what though? Im very happy now, with many friends. Im confident, im enjoying my life, im smart, im openminded and say my opinions out loud, im respected.....

also, once i came into college i met all these new and different people. We have too short people, too tall people, people who have orange hair, people who have crossed eyes and people who are blind....

But guess what? Now that im here, i truly am impressed by these people, because they are the ones who truly know how to value life and appreciate it. They had to grow up early because they got teased. Yet they are the most brilliant, sympathetic, understanding, and compassionate people. And when a person grows up, this what you look for in friends and partners. Someone who will stick by your side in times of need, and whos friendship and love will last for a very long time.

Look at the positive qualities about you. I am sure you have plenty, you seem like a very sweet and clever guy. Learn how to accept who you are and love yourself. Once you are confident and people can sense that, they will respect you more and when you grow up, you will be successful and all the beautiful intelligent women are gonna chase after you.

If i fell in love with a smart, funny, caring guy, who just happens to have crossed eyes, i'd marry him without hesitation. Besides, no one is physicaly perfect. Thats just media influence.

be yourself, love yourself, and you'll have a bright future with many friends to look forward to.

Answer 3

I would and have.
One of my neighbours was partially blind and had to wear these big black thicked rimmed glasses. The lenses themselves were about half an inch thick they honestly looked like somthing out of a cartoon. People teased him but he and I had the phlosphy of 'if they can't see beyond my imperfections then I wouldnt want to be friend's with the anyway' kids can be cruel its nothing new, but that doesnt mean no one wants to be friends with you.
Instead of worrying about what some people think take a deep breath and be confident or atleast act it! Seek people who don't act agressivly towards you. Join a club, Strike up a convesation with a friendly aqantince do whatever just be welcoming and open toward thoese who don't waste their time focusing on your 'imperfections'. There is someone for everybody out their but if we dont put ourselves on display and be approchable, nothing will change.
Instead of focusing on the negative I seeked out like minded aproachable people. There was alot of stigma attached to my name but that in alot of ways was a blessing in disguise It weeded out the true friends from the well wishers for one.
It may be a daunting idea belive me I know. My shyness was crippling and still can be. If you grab the bull by the horns and just keep on going things will get better.

Answer 4

Your eyes have nothing to do with you as a person. Ignore the teasing, I know it is hard. Some girl called me a crossed eyed monkey once in second grade and I have never forgotten that and I am 46 and my eye still crosses in although it isn't as noticeable as yours sounds. You seem very smart. Use that to your advantage and ignore the idiots.They are not perfect either. No one is.Take care and good luck, you will meet friends.

Answer 5

Sure. I had a friend who had crossed eyes when I was a teenager. Her name was Shelley.
Crossed eyes are not different than some other problem. I hope you can see. That is all that is important.

Answer 6

I definitely would! and even a boyfriend. Looks are needed to be a model but not needed to be a person.
Tips: Be cheerful & don't give it an attention and people would even be amazed by your personality. People who tease you are just mean and your lucky to know them before you get involved with them.
Best wishes :)

Answer 7

lengthy hair is nice but requires maintenance and u have to grow that out for a long time

Answer 8

I prefer hair that is shoulder length or longer, And also since that men who like females are more often then not directly, they like long hair because this looks more feminine, as most guys have short hair.

Answer 9

You betcha I would. They are people too

Find God and start walking with him, then Your looks won't be so important