Im not used to being sober in bars and to be quite honest it really sucked. Has anyone recently quit drinking and has ran into this problem? I started drinking when I was 17 and before then I was mainly tense and depressed anyway. Im finding the same thing is starting to occur again. How can I learn how to relax? I dont really like learning that I have been like this since like 10. Cleaning up and getting in touch with self sucks. Lol.
2007-03-18 04:35:31 · 6 answers · asked by b 4 in Health ➔ Mental Health
WOW! I am soooooo impressed! What a wonderful step in your life...it shows maturity. You are really coming into your own. I am proud of you. I can tell you that, as a kid, when I went with friends out to bars in college, I couldn't "just have one". I wasn't comfortable. I was always tense. I grew up with depression. Drinking in excess kind of goes with the territory. Nothing to beat yourself up about by the way. Learning to relax is a journey. Part of it, I have to tell you, for me, was the company I kept. But part of it also, is learning how to communicate, how to make others feel good about themselves which leads to wonderful communication, how to accept yourself on all levels, and how to notice your own body tension and relax it, and how, when you are tense, take a deeeep breath and let the air out slowly and imagine a wonderful place in your mind to go (like a lake or wherever) that will make you feel better instantly. So these things will help. Learning about yourself never ends, and trying to get in touch with yourself (as you noted sucks) never ends! Welcome to the world of self-discovery! But it isn't all painful.
~Misty in Elmira, NY
2007-03-18 05:04:39 · answer #1 · answered by misTea 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm a non-drinker (have maybe 4 drinks a month, at most, and pretty much at someone else's house at a party/picnic) and I would say that thinking it really sucks to be sober in a bar is a sign you need more support not to drink. If it sucks because everyone you were hanging out with was getting drunk, well then, you need new friends who don't drink. It would be a good idea not to go out to the bar at all, frankly. I'm obese-why would I keep twinkies around at home or go to the donut shop and watch everyone else eat pastry and I can't have some (oh, no, just one won't hurt. . . ) Seems to me that quitting drinking is the same thing. You don't want to sabotage yourself.
Good luck! All the best to you!
2007-03-18 05:26:22 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
attend AA meetings and go to a "rehab after work" type program. Medical insurance will cover the "rehab", and there are many worksheets and assignments that help you to examine yourself and why you use alcohol. If being sober in a bar "really sucked" you seem to have an alcohol issue ( I hate to say "problem").
bbygrl76---having a DUI is a drinking problem. If you have been charged once, you have driven drunk many times before. Denial is one of the first signs of problem drinking. Keep going to the meetings and open up more to what the message is.---good luck
2007-03-18 04:55:24 · answer #3 · answered by Mike M. 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
currently Im in a class with a bunch of alcholics due to a DWI/.and although i have never had a serious problem of drinking,after hearing some of their stories of what they have lost kind of makes me feel like drinking really isnt all that important .u could lose so much.so if I were u I would continue to stay sober.best of luck to you
2007-03-18 04:49:35 · answer #4 · answered by bbygrl76 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
my dad quit drinking 15 years ago, he went to AA meetings
2007-03-18 05:10:40 · answer #5 · answered by MissSixventies 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you started at 17!!! thats ILLEGAL!!!
2007-03-18 05:22:15 · answer #6 · answered by Mango 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋