do i have the right to be a bit narked here?

Question

So me and g/f went clubbing last night and she was a bit bored and these blokes kept nagging us to get up and dance etc. So we do, they start coming up to me telling me I'm not dancing well enough etc and keep coming up to me and dancing round me trying to make me dance more and embarass me a bit saying "u need to show your girl more soul" and stuff like that. she's kind of enjoying this and looking over at them smiling etc. one of these guys was on a podium at times, when he wasn't there she would look around for him and stuff and then start smiling airily at him when he came back.

so do i have the right to be narked or am i being childish?

Answer 1

No I don't think you are being childish and you have a right to be a bit narked. Pity the other guy did not fall off the podium - that would have made your night!!!

Answer 2

I'm sure she liked the attention she was getting, it is always flattering when others notice you. However she was with you and you are both in a relationship, I think she should have showed you more respect than that. I don't think that what she did was right at all.

It would be different if she were single meaning she had no boyfriend,then it would have been alright for her to do that. Personally I would have gotten closer to my boyfriend and kissed him and made it very clear as to whom I was with, so that the jerks would have backed off. She should have known better than to have behaved in such a way, it made it look like there was some sort of competition going on for her. She is suppose to be your girlfriend, not some loose girl who looking for a good time and flirting with other guys.

Good luck to you, I hope all works out well, maybe you should just let her know how it made you feel. Do it in a nice way, use an example if you must. Like ask her how it would have made her feel if women had been doing that with you, and then she saw you looking around for them as she had. How would it have made her feel, seeing you waiting for another girl to come back and then see you smiling all happy at her. As I said be nice when you point it out. It is always best not to do that right at the moment that it is happening, but rather do it later when cooler heads prevail.

Good luck I hope that you will be able to help her understand how it made you feel. I'm sure everything will turn out alright. JUST as I stated BE NICE when you point it out, because you do seem to love her.

Answer 3

Oh dear oh dear...

Look, which is the more mature response: throw a strop, toss all your toys out of the pram, pick on your g/f and act like someone stole your lolly, all because some people showed you up a bit; OR

Laugh it off, grin and say 'those guys really showed up my crap dancing'. And ask your girl, casually, if she would really prefer you to up your dancing skills.

IF being a hot dancer is really important to her - which I very much doubt - then you can always decide to do some training and get some moves to blow those guys away next time.

But acting like a petulant kid just because some guys demonstrated that you're not superman is ridiculous. If you let it humiliate you, then they beat you. If you don't care, you win without trying.

And taking it out on her is the most ridiculous part of all. How's this her fault? I suspect she's just the nearest person around to be mad at. All this stuff about her smiling and encouraging them sounds like post facto justification for your bad temper.

Maybe she's best off without you.

CD

Answer 4

Yer u have reason to be narked,not only have u got to put up with the embarrassment of having these guy's putting u down but then ur gf,try's to see where they've gone,well i would be well & truley narked off,so no hun,ur not being childish ur being human..

Answer 5

In a similar situation I think I'd b v p'd off!!
But, looking @ it from another point of veiw, if they're so crash hot with the LADYEES y r they sad, single & hanging round in a group of lads bullying other blokes? & not smooching in a corner with THEIR little lady? Could it be because they are such sad, pathetic creatures any girl with any sense would tell them to take a hike?
Just a question? Who are you narked @? Them (for making you look pathetic), her (for eyeing these macho-bt-brain-defunct-igits up), or yourself (for not standing your ground & telling them to take a hike)? Just wondering

Answer 6

I would be a bit narked, too. If you didn't and don't want to "show her some soul" then you don't have to. And if that's what she wants instead of you, let her go find someone else. You don't need her. I hope this helps

nicole

Answer 7

maybe you are a crap dancer, and why are YOU dancing with blokes?
Maybe she thinks your gay.
They probably fancied you, you should have battered the living daylights out of her and then broke both her legs and then see if she wanted to dance.
Walk over to the bar and say " I`ll ave another guvner" knocked it back, spun onto the dancefloor and given it some then just stepped over her limp legs and left.
Stop at the Kebab house though, no use wasting the whole night.
But you didn`t do that did you?
You lost the perfect chance to show her your moxy, and you missed out on a descent meal too.
honestly, what were you thinking?

Answer 8

She was enjoying the attention... that's sort of a natural high.

However, the situation was deliberately embarassing for you, which would definately stand to make you a bit ticked.

Talk it over with her. Find a way to get her the attention she craves without it being something to embarass you with.

Answer 9

You do have the right to be narked I think it isn't very nice when you are out with your b/f or g/f and they are flirting in front of you - it is disrepectful to your significant other.

Answer 10

No you should feel comfortable with anything you do. If you didnt wanna dance then you didnt have to! I would have told them to go to hell and leave my girl alone!