2007-03-18 03:43:23 · 16 answers · asked by magraloo 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
ok, waycar, obviously you think this is my fault. I waited for him for nearly 2 years while he was in Iraq, and we had a wonderful time when he got backthen recently he's been having trouble with his temper and refuses to get helpwith it and takes it out on me.
2007-03-18 03:59:17 · update #1
Get a new boyfriend.
Who's into weightlifting.
And guns.
2007-03-18 03:46:23 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
Stop encouraging him:)
You're probably not doing it on purpose, but a lot of the things we experience when we're stressed, which you probably are when he's around since you don't want him there, can imitate some of the same things as when we're attracted to someone. Ex: You're pupils probably dialate. And while you can't control some of your body's involuntary responses, you can do some things to counteract them.
When you talk to him, don't stand with your shoulders square to his and your feet pointing towards him. Make sure that your feet are pointing away from him, (both feet in the same direction) and your shoulders at a slight angle away from him. Don't show your wrists. Cross your arms in front of your body. All of these behaviors help to build a barrier between you and the person who is attracted to you.
Make sure you are not alone when he visits. If he has a key to your place, change your locks. If you are alone when he comes by, don't answer the door. If he continues to knock, or remains around your house waiting for you to return, call the police.
Also, be frank and concise in your words:
"I'm no longer interested in you. Please leave."
If he doesn't.
"Please leave. You are making me uncomfortable."
If he still doesn't leave, call out to someone else in the house. NEVER DEAL WITH HIM WHEN YOU'RE ALONE.
2007-03-18 04:07:45 · answer #2 · answered by All Things Zen 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't answer the door or phone. If you fear this person, however, you really should consider calling the police each time he comes over and the restraining order.
2007-03-18 03:46:53 · answer #3 · answered by AE 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
There is nothing you can do to stop him unless you tell him so. Only if he persists even after being told, perhaps you may want to reconsider your toughts on applying for restraining order.
2007-03-18 03:47:59 · answer #4 · answered by SGElite 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him to stop. Don't answer the door or allow him in. Tell him that he's harrassing you and if he doesn't cease showing up without an invitation that you will involve the law.
2007-03-18 03:46:56 · answer #5 · answered by . 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
say it to his face "dont come over..."
get a new bf or hang out with hot guys to make him jealous
whenever u see him at the door from your window, duck!
have a party and dont invite him.
or if ya want jealousy 101 invite ur guy friends over (or ur crush) and hang out on the front porch.
get a guard dog.
2007-03-18 03:47:57 · answer #6 · answered by boom boom 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You tell him you will get a restraining order if he does not. Or get your Dad to have a friendly but firm word.
2007-03-18 03:47:27 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to tell him you are no longer interested, plain and simple. If you dont he will keep doing it and eventually you are going to wind up really hurting him and your chances of a new relationship.
2007-03-18 03:48:29 · answer #8 · answered by mlock123 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ok next time, sit him down and tell him how you feel about it. dont let him walk on you in the convorsation. help him understand that he needs to move onadn that you dont like him coming over all the time.
2007-03-18 03:49:22 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
The next time he appears, inform he that you consider him to be "stalking" and that you'll have him arrested the next time he decides not to take "no" for an answer.
That would HAVE to work.
2007-03-18 03:47:40 · answer #10 · answered by bradxschuman 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋