A former male friend of mine at work is avoiding me. We were close friends b4, but we had joked about hooking up until I got upset with him since I ended up wanting to and felt like he was disrespecting me. I ended up calling him a dog since he has a gf overseas and was talking to me about doing it. Anyway I ended up writing a letter to him apologizing to him and he told me I was too weird to be his friend since I gave him mixed signals. He emailed me telling me I needed therapy and that I should get a bf and some friends. When he emailed me this, I was hurt and had been ignoring him for a month, but I could tell he would look at me and try to make me jealous by talking to other girls. I think he realized he had hurt my feelings since I could tell he looked guilty sometimes. I went up to him and said hi and he said hi. He looked at me like he wanted to talk. We have been just saying hi as we run into each other, though he still avoids me.
2007-03-18 03:40:34 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
he was basically reaching out to u, not as a "one night stand" but someone who shares common intrests and someone who he's grown to care about. now he has a gf but he still has needs, like anybody else. dont' get me wrong i got morals and all but ain't nothin like a good quicky.
but if u both want to be together or take a shot at it, get his attention ask'em out to lunch or somethin "lite weight"(not dinner) and let it go from there b/c u'll be able to talk
2007-03-18 03:45:31 · answer #1 · answered by M!sta Carter 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He probably doesn't really want to be with you and is avoiding you for the reasons that he said in the email (he is nervous that you are going to do or say something that makes him uncomfortable). I think that you started to fall for him and were disappointed by him not feeling the same. Because you like him you are picking up on signals that are not there (like thinking that he is trying to make you jealous). Because you are jealous you are paying him too much attention. Let him go. You should be civil because you work together but he doesn't want you.
2007-03-18 10:49:23 · answer #2 · answered by Vince R 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds as if you were both being irrational to each other. If you were trying to hook up with him knowing he had a g/f overseas, you are just as much a dog as he is. I'm sure if he is apart from his g/f, he will end up hooking up. A g/f is not a permanent commitment like a wife and should not be treated as such. After hearing from you that you wanted to hook up with him, and then getting the cold shoulder from you when you felt disrespected, I would have reacted the same way as him. It is you who owes the apology!
2007-03-18 10:47:57 · answer #3 · answered by savmitch1 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If I were a guy, I would avoid you too. You called him a dog and gave him mixed signals. You want to hook up and then when he was considering it (although he didn't let you know that), you made him feel bad.
2007-03-18 10:46:27 · answer #4 · answered by Mariposa 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's the one who has issues, I mean you were right if he has a girlfriend overseas why was he trying to talk to you, that just means that he would probably do the same thing to do. It seems like he probably wants you to suck up to him, I would be distant from him If anything I would wait for him to initiate conversations and etc. I wouldn't wait too long for him to come around!
2007-03-18 10:48:06 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's because what you said hurt him probably really bad. and then he told you something that hurt you also to try to make his pain less but now that he sees that what he did didn't make it any better and that it didn't make his pain go away he is trying to use other gurls to see if you still care or if you meant what you said try going up to him and saying how bad you feel about what you said. because maybe it was you in the wrong not him.
2007-03-18 10:47:35 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He thinks your more of a problem to deal w/now then when you two were joking around. It's going to take a long time to get that back; if at all. Keep trying, though!
2007-03-18 10:46:20 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
ok hes weird. im sorry but he's giving you more mixed signals than you gave him. he probly still wants to be friends with you but doesnt feel he can be the one to say it. guys are weird. if you dont figure it out soon, i would give up.
good luck
2007-03-18 10:46:39 · answer #8 · answered by Mo 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think he is right.......you SEIROUSLY need more friends to go out with & to take your mind off him.
He's just another guy........forget about him........they available dime a dozen.
Go ahead & live you life.....forget about him.
2007-03-18 10:47:31 · answer #9 · answered by Radical 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
maybe he dosnent like u anymore or he probably has a gurl why dont u talk to him?
2007-03-18 10:45:11 · answer #10 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋