You know there are gals who know it is wrong to go any further with married man, but they can go so far to justify that there is no right or wrong when come to such issue and even go all out to have sex with him, and willing to maintain the relationship for 2 to 3 years and to them, he is a hero.
2007-03-18 03:34:24 · 22 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You know what? These relationships end and men usually deside when they want to finish the affair. He might is irresistable and he might is begging you but afterwards you'll be the one who'll be begging. And you know what he'll say? Sorry honey I'm married you knew it , didn't you?
And then you'll say : Yes but I love you!
And he'll answer: I know I wish I could stay with you but I have a family! He'll rerturn to his wife and you'll stay in love with him thinking how stupid you were....
2007-03-18 03:46:09 · answer #1 · answered by Sissy 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Put yourself in his wifes shoes. Would you want some other girl trying to rationalize on messing up your marriage? Plus, if he will cheat with you, what makes you think he will be faithful when you two are a couple? You don't want to be known as a home wrecker. I'm sure that you are cute and irresistable yourself, and you can find another irresistable dude!
2007-03-18 03:38:55 · answer #2 · answered by savmitch1 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I have no problem saying NO to a married or taken man. The only ones that do are people who cannot control themselves and enjoy messing with other peoples lives. He is NOT a hero to do that to someone he is married to, all it does is prove how much he doesn't care about his wife or her feelings (and in some situations, his children too). I think if a man knows he can't be faithful he should never marry to begin with and if he figures it out during the marriage, he should be honest with the wife BEFORE cheating and leave before he cheats. The women who help them cheat are sleazy homewreckers and when they get the man, most of them think "they won". But the never think about the fact that if they cheated on the wife, they will cheat on them too!
2007-03-18 03:45:31 · answer #3 · answered by debrenee211 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Can you say, "desperate"?
I know someone who was in a "relationship" with a married man for over 10 years. She would run home at a certain hour to wait by the phone, thinking maybe he MIGHT call her and be able to talk for a minute. She sneaked around, went to every event by herself - to the point that people wanted to fix her up with female friends. Hey! She never seemed interested in guys, so it was logical to think she would prefer women.
She would get SOOOO upset if she missed his calls - because she never knew when he'd have another spare moment for her.
Of course, being the "respectable" family man, he spent holidays with his family - even took his wife on a ritzy cruise on their anniversary. Think that didn't drive the desperate lover crazy? SHE never got to go on the ritzy cruise!!!
So, before you think that any married man is "irresistable", ask yourself if that's the life you want for yourself.
Oh, and by the way, even if he DOES leave his wife for you eventually (which almost never happens - he'll deny he even knows you, and make you out to be a crazy, stalking psycho before he gives up his REAL life), think about this: Once a cheater, always a cheater.
But, hey, that only means that the desperate mistress gets what she deserves - what she gave to another woman!
2007-03-18 03:56:35 · answer #4 · answered by Donna L 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
First of all think about yourself....Do you really think that you deserve to be in a relationship like that? Isn't that everyone (specially girls) want to be in a relationship where your partner is proud of you and can show his love for you to the world?! Do you think you're a woman who only deserves to be loved in the dark? Seriously, if the married man is not happy with his wife and the marraige isn't working anymore, then they should have a legal separation. If he's not divorcing his wife and flirting with you that's insane. I'm sorry, but for all we knoe he could just be using you for sex or other motives. You shouldn't settle for something that will only keep you happy for a short time and in the long run cause you trouble and hurt other people.
Then think about your parents and all the people who love you....Do you think they would be happy if they found out what relationship you're in? They would be devastated!! Can you bear to hurt them?
Then think about His wife and kids.... If you were in their place would you want your husband to do something like that behind your back? Wouldn't it hurt your kids? Your heart would shatter into pieces!! And don't think about the idea that it's the wife's fault that he fools around because wether or not their marriage is working is none of your business.. Don't be a homewrecker..
I believe in Karma. I hope you somehow believe in it too. If ever you do be happy with him what if the curse reverses on your future kids? Can you bear that?
The summary of it is LOVE is NOT an excuse to do something STUPID....
Goodluck!!
2007-03-18 04:00:29 · answer #5 · answered by Smile2 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Nobody is irresistable. It's a choice to fool around with someone or not.
I think it's easy to say "no" to married people for several reasons. One is, why would I want to play with someone who would cheat on their loved one? That's not the caliber of person I prefer to associate with (even for casual sex). Next, I wouldn't want the bad karma on myself, for being party to cheating. It's not worth it...I can get orgasms on my own and the cosmos doesn't care about those. And also there's having a conscience and not wanting to be the kind of person who would cheat or play with a cheater, I wouldn't want it done to me, why would I do it to someone else?
2007-03-18 03:39:38 · answer #6 · answered by . 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
It's simple. N. O.
Then you put that together and get an entire word "no."
Two little letters. One strong meaning.
Remember, according to Dr. Joy, "If he’ll cheat on his wife, he’ll cheat on you; therefore, you can’t view as a long-term commitment at all."
And yes, sometimes it take a lot of self control and discipline - THIS I UNDERSTAND. But if he is really interested in you as a person, he'll treat you AND his wife with respect.
2007-03-18 04:11:50 · answer #7 · answered by All Things Zen 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
think of it this way... if you get together with a married man, you are hurting so many people along the way. don't be selfish and think only of yourself. just think of how you will feel if you are the wife and your irresistable husband gets together with another girl...
anyway, there are a lot of men out there. go find one that is unattached.
2007-03-18 03:38:47 · answer #8 · answered by schatz101 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Call his wife. Tell her of her husband's advances. Ask for permission. If she says its OK, go for it.
Tell her you are willing to testify at her divorce and tell all about her husband's extramarital activities. That way she'll be able to get a better divorce settlement and you'll get left with a broke useless slug, which is all you deserve.
2007-03-18 03:40:29 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Just say no. Either you have the moral conviction to do it or you do not. I bet you can say no, think of the effects it could have. If you value marriage and respect yourself you will not do it. Put yourself in the place of his family and consider how you would feel about yourself if you became a home-wrecker.
Of course I do not know all the circumstances, maybe he is in the process of a divorce or something like that.
I know that you know what the right thing is and I know you can do the right thing.
2007-03-18 03:41:03 · answer #10 · answered by brwnidjkmo 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋