I was dating my ex for about 4 and a half years. We went our separate ways about two years ago. I dumped him, he begged for me to come back. Finally I did but it was too late. About six months after we broke up I moved on and I am very happy in my current relationship.
I talk to my ex once every few months and we usually get together over drinks and catch up.
This past time he told me his girlfriend (that he met and started dating about three months after we broke up) is pregnant! I am very happy for them, but I still feel some sort of jealousy even though the feelings I have for him are on a friendship level only. Is that normal?
2007-03-18 03:28:46 · 19 answers · asked by while_love_remains 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I have been with my boyfriend for about a year and a half and I love him very very much. Can't picture my life being this good without him. When I think of my ex I don't think of him in a romantic way, and I never felt like this before he told me him and his girlfriend were expecting...
2007-03-18 03:36:14 · update #1
Yes! She is real! I've met her. She came across as really sweet! My boyfriend and I are really open with each other, but he is older and we don't share many mutual friends (I don't know his longtime friends too well and he doesn't know mine beyond having met them for a few minutes). When I go out with my friends he usually doesn't come with me (even though he is always invited!) because he has passed the "bar scene" of his life.
2007-03-18 03:47:15 · update #2
YES... However, it may sound strange to you. You may be jealous over the fact that he's moved along farther than what you've moved along. Some how dating becomes a competition between two ex-lovers.
One example I can use, I had dated this redhead who was an inch shorter than me. About a year later, I had ran into her in a store with her new boyfriend. Her new lover was a taller, GQ, type of guy. When she introduced him to me she couldn't wait to tell me he is a lawyer. Then on top of that, she started physically hanging all over him. I was a bit too baffeled to be jealous over her new catch; and at that point I became completely detatched from ever dating her, because she was acting weird.
2007-03-18 03:51:59 · answer #1 · answered by m8xpayne 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, it is normal. Not every person is the same. Some may not feel anything towards their ex (not even friendliness) but some who value ties (this is the better of the two I suppose) may still unconsciously feel a connection to one's past. It could be an "It could've been me" factor or just a subconscious feeling.
You know you shouldn't be but you are, right? That's normal and let it disappear on its own. You need not do nothing unless it gets worse, which I doubt it will.
2007-03-18 03:41:11 · answer #2 · answered by Zygie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you have issues too. If you are so happy with the new guy why are you meeting the ex for drinks to catch up?
There may not even be a gf much less a pregnant one. Did you check it out? Sounds like he's still trying to push your buttons.
Have you told the new guy this stuff? You need to rethink this before he walks on you.
2007-03-18 03:43:44 · answer #3 · answered by Credit Expert 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think its completely normal. We all get the feeling about an ex even though time has passed.
2007-03-18 03:36:58 · answer #4 · answered by ladybug 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well it is very normal to feel like that. After all you were together for almost 5 years. So don't worry this feeling will go away soon or maybe after few months. :)
2007-03-18 03:40:17 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is always normal to feel jealous after you had a long relationship with somone. Just rember if you guys broke up it was not ment to be, and it you really cared about that guy then you would be happy for him and he girlfreind not jealous but it is okt o feel that.
2007-03-18 03:35:33 · answer #6 · answered by nicole b 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it's normal. After all you had a relationship with him with all that it implies. Now, that he's gonna have a baby with his girlfriend maybe unconsciously you fear that he would forget what you two shared. This does not mean that you're still in love with him though.
2007-03-18 03:59:54 · answer #7 · answered by Selena C 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
to me its normal cause i still have feelings for my ex and we used to talk even if im with some one else and considered him my soul mate this ex was just some one who came into my life first and showed me the whole world
2007-03-18 03:34:43 · answer #8 · answered by martina s 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's normal.. Why not me!! that will be your imaginative statement.. Go ahead with your life.. Leave the past behind - not easy though - but try real hard.
2007-03-18 04:11:20 · answer #9 · answered by AdultMale 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, you need to get over it or move onto someone else. He didn't cheat, you were broke up. During the break up, you moved on, so you can't expect him not to have moved on.
2007-03-18 03:32:14 · answer #10 · answered by Mariposa 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋