Statistically, Mom's new boyfriend is most likely to be the molestor if the kids get molested. Conversely, innocent guys sometimes get their reputations besmirched by a kid falsely accusing him of abuse because the kid wants the boyfriend out of the picture. Plus it's hard to build a new relationship with the ex is trying to cause problems. You don't want the kids feeling neglected or slighted but, on the other hand, you can't just stay celibate until the youngest turns 18, can you? What's your viewpoint?
2007-03-18 03:27:58 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
If I wanted me time...to date or whatever...I sent the kids to grandmas...i never left them alone with someone i was dating and let very few men into the center of my life and even then did not leave them alone with my kids...they are dates not babysitters anyway.........your kids come before them...and i never let them disciline my kids...........now my kids are 16 and 17 and they aree very well developed and stable
2007-03-18 03:32:12 · answer #1 · answered by cherry 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I was a single parent for 3 years from my eldest 2 aged 2 and 1. Now THAT was hard work, but I managed, be prepared to have little or no spare time for yourself, and remember that it took 2 people to create that child and your partner should also have the chance to parent your daughter. Although you might have a well paying job, the child has to come first, so part time might be a better option. Utilise the family support network, and she will gain from having an extended family, my 2 were very close to my parents. The best advise I can give is to have a routine and stick to it listen to your own instincts and if you feel like you are drowning, ask for help.
2016-03-29 04:45:46 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Best advice I can give you is to spend as much time with your kid(s) and less time worrying about dating. Also, when you do date someone, don't bring them around your kid(s) so they don't see a revolving door of men. I have been a divorced parent for 10 years, and I think that it is easier for men to accept someone elses kid(s) than it is for women. So, in essence, if you choose your men wisely, I dont think you will have to worry about the molestor coming into your house. Wait til you bring him around your kids.
2007-03-18 03:36:30 · answer #3 · answered by savmitch1 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Basically, (without sounding to harsh - I hope), I sounds to me that you should see a therapist (to work on yourself, and dealing with some of the issues that plague you). Hopefully, she'll be able to help you deal better with the ex, and working on making sure that your children are safe and happy.
2007-03-18 03:37:29 · answer #4 · answered by All Things Zen 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
i dont understand why my mom put logic out the window and still married the f'n as&hole. he treated me like a red headed stepchild. i was forced out at 17 .
any how good luck
2007-03-18 03:37:13 · answer #5 · answered by smoothopr_2 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get to know him better. Don't introduce him to your kids until you are sure he is not a kid molester.
2007-03-18 03:30:50 · answer #6 · answered by AdultMale 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You fear is out of hand here.Be careful ,vigilant, but don't let fear take over.
2007-03-18 03:33:22 · answer #7 · answered by thresher 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh, I get it! We're pretending failed marriages are acceptable!
2007-03-18 03:33:19 · answer #8 · answered by joey k 3 · 0⤊ 3⤋
Don't know
2007-03-18 03:30:10 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋