2007-03-18 03:27:25 · 20 answers · asked by RoundMidknight 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
you might adopt again but you can never "replace" the other child..
2007-03-18 03:35:28 · answer #1 · answered by Donna 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow.
Well, I'm a Teacher, and although you can never replace a child--I think its a marvelous idea to adopt a child, especially after the loss of one child. I saw a news segment where some couple lost her son in Iraq--and they adopted a small 5 year old child recently, and is working out great. They say the loss of a child is the greatest pain one can experince on earth--so I think if someone can get a new child into the home it can help heal the wounds. It will give the family something to focus on now that there is a new life.
As far as how soon--only the Mother can decide--in her Heart--when its time. Whenever her Heart speaks and tells her it is time--then it is time.
2007-03-18 11:54:49 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can't replace a child. I can't believe you put it that way. If you want to adopt then that's fine, but you can't ever "replace" ur daughter. She will always be a part of you and ur life even if she's not there with you. If you loved her she will always matter to you and you wont replace her, you will just have another child added on to the one who just happens to be in a better place with God. When you do adopt you should feel that it is right in ur heart. However, I'm not sure it would be right to adopt a child just to get over ur other girl. You need to love and nurture ur new child, not greeve onto her and make her feel like she's doing something wrong. Your new child should be ur everything not something to get ur mind off of the other child that you lost. I'm so sorry to hear about ur daughter. I hope everything works out for you in the end.
2007-03-18 11:12:25 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your question wasn't well thought out. In a bad taste way it sounds more like you are saying that my daughter died!
Anyway you can read that there are a lot of people who agree about the "replace her" part. I REALLY hope that you are just testing all the people here to see if you can get more answers then anyone else. That would be sadder then if you really lost your child.
You should never adopt a child for replacement!!!
2007-03-18 11:37:37 · answer #4 · answered by bmjhyatt2000 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It's too soon if you are looking at it as replacement. Give yourself the time you need to get through your greiving process. You want to keep the memories of your daughter alive and look at the adoption as another separate child in your life. Don't expect them to be the replacement. If you look at it that way, you'll expect them to behave the same etc. You can't do that to a child. Especially one in the adoption system (I was adopted). You must let them be who they are, and love them for that.
2007-03-18 10:31:52 · answer #5 · answered by debrenee211 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
NEVER you should never try to replace your daughter you should always carry on her memory if you where to adopt it would dishonor her for the matter that you are trying to replace her and dishonor your love for the new child on the matter that you probably wont be adopting her because you love her but because you think she is like you deceased daughter. Trust me you will NEVER be able to replace her.
2007-03-18 10:32:46 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
i wouldnt use the word replace it makes the situation seem wrong...theres nothing wrong with wanting to adopt a child if its for the right reasons...theres no grace period to this, no one is going to ever take the place of ur daughter or be able to make up for her not being here nomore...my advice is to make sure ur doing this for the right reasons before you start this
2007-03-18 10:34:26 · answer #7 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i wouldnt use the word replace it makes the situation seem wrong...theres nothing wrong with wanting to adopt a child if its for the right reasons...theres no grace period to this, no one is going to ever take the place of ur daughter or be able to make up for her not being here nemore...my advice is to make sure ur doing this for the right reasons before you start this
2007-03-18 10:31:10 · answer #8 · answered by serialshopper 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As soon as you feel you want to. Don't feel guilty about it. the adoption process takes a long time. So start now if that is what you want to do. Looking foward to a new child will take your pain away for you loss. Go to it, and be happy about it.
2007-03-18 10:32:44 · answer #9 · answered by michelebaruch 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
it takes as long as you want it to take but you shouldn't think about replacing the one true daughter you really love because nothing could ever replace her and her love
2007-03-18 11:16:43 · answer #10 · answered by Jay Jay 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋