I want to hold a surprise renewal ceremony for my parents..... how?

Question

My parents are coming up to their 40th wedding anniversary, well in a year or so and to thank them for all the wonderful things they have done for me over the years I want to throw them a renewal wedding party, however never being married before myself I have no idea how to go about it can anyone help me please!

BTW my mum is religious kind of and my dad isn't they were married in a catholic church should i incorporate that or just have an outdoors kind of thing?

Answer 1

It's not really good to do that sort of thing as a surprise, though the idea is nice. You would have to talk to them, so they are in on the planning.

Answer 2

Baby doll, what a awesome daughter you are! I think this is a wonderful idea, and it's going to make their special day even more special. There is several ways to go about this, and depending up your parent's likes and dislikes....and unfortunately budget too! Money is always the damper, but you can put on a beautiful celebration for them with just a couple of hundred dollars. So, get to saving and recuriting people to help you.

My parent's 25 is when I done their's. Ended up telling Daddy because of trying to get the couch potato to the church. lol Mom was so surprised. This is what I did, I had them a wedding anniversary reception, I didn't Daddy would go through the whole cermoney again. So, we did party if a wedding cake and toasts. We serve finger foods, and everyone had a great time.

Be sure to remind everyone it is a SURPRISE. By the time the actual day rolls around you will be so tried of trying to keep it a secret, but when you see the expressions on your parent's face, it will be worth it.

Decide exactly what kind of renewal party you want. Church or at someone house in the outdoors under the blue sky. You wouldn't have the cost of the church and clean-up this way, and since they did the church thing the first time, this maybe the way to go. You could have the priest renew their vows under a decorated arch.

Family and close friends could bring a dish instead of a gift. You could assign dishes, or do a pot luck kind of thing, with you providing the drinks. Have them a small wedding cake made, and they can cut the cake again.

Honey, a outdoor event would be lovely, and practical money wise. You could decorate the yard and the tables. Choose things in your Mother's favorite colors. Get your shopping shoes on and get yourself a notebook and get busy planning.

Mainly, what I am trying to say is this--you do something small or you could have a blow out. It's up to you. You can do a whole complete wedding with flower girls(granddaughters) and bridesmaids or you could serve as your Mother's attendent and have a simple but elegant renewal of their vows. You know your parents more than anyone, so pick things you think they would enjoy.

Also, speaking from my mother's heart, anything that you do, is going to be special. Because you took the time and effort to do it. So, it could be a special time with just a few close friends or invite the whole town. You can do this, and it's going to be fun. Remember lots of film, because you are going to want to remember this forever.

God bless us all.............

Answer 3

well get to know some of moms& dads friends get family in on it 40th weddings are red and white typicly but can do it any color find a nice hotel vfw an have a renewal there along with a nice dinner an send them a mock invite for a party an make them show up an hr late then the rest of the guests an suprise them that way.. ask a local minister in the area to do a renewal there rent or buy a arch way for them to get married under kinda plan a wedding where the groom an bride do not even know they are going to get married

Answer 4

If You are talking about having your parents renew their wedding vows, I would ask them first if they felt comfortable with that. If you are suggesting an anniversary party, no vows, then by all means plan a party at their favorite restaurant and have all your guest's that are invited to be their ahead of time, you will have to make reservations for everyone attending and pay for their dinners, many restaurants have a menu that has selected dinner suggestions to choose from, and most places will let you bring in your own cake and help you serve it. You must include a tip when paying your bill if you had good service, if not do not be afraid to talk to the restaurant manager, if you have any kind of problem they will adjust the bill accordingly. Don't forget to say a little speech before dinner honoring your parents, speak from the heart that's the best, if you have any siblings please include them someway in your plans. No gift is necessary as the party will be considered your gift from you.You could suggest a donation to your parents favorite charity in lieu of presents in the invitation.You sound like a very thoughtful daughter, your parents must be very proud to have such a caring daughter. Have fun and good luck with your plans.

Answer 5

What a lovely idea to throw a celebration for them. However I really don't think you should surprise them with a renewal. They may not want to say their vows again - i.e they think once is all they need etc. I know you want to surprise them but something like that is better to be asked. Sorry to burst your bubble.
But you can still have a lovely celebration and make a speech saying how much you love them and appreciate everything they have done for you.
Good luck:-)

Answer 6

That's not the kind of thing that should be a surprise. Renewing their vows should be somthing they're doing because they want to, not because it's something you think would be nice. It's kind of like a shot gun wedding, except they're already married. You should tell them.