Ive meet this lovely girl whilst attending a job ( policeman). She is absolutely gorgeous and I really can't believe my luck..She tried to get hold me at work. and finally left me an email..saying that she really enjoyed talking and to phone or text her....I don't want to try to hard and I have said that there is no pressure, she texted " dont be silly, im not making excuses! You are funny, I gave you my number remember! ; ) x...last message..take care, speak to you soon.. is she genuine!
I know to be myself,not to come on strong is a drink a good first date and what kind of signals do girls pick up on?
Jamie x
2007-03-18 03:21:48 · 18 answers · asked by Jamie79 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
yeah take her out for a quiet drink see if you both connect and then if all seems well take her out for a meal next time...
you never know she may be 'the one'...... it won't hurt to give it a go.
good luck x x
2007-03-18 03:26:47 · answer #1 · answered by emma d 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A good first date is one where you aren't obliged to be together very long, if things just aren't working well...an afternoon date of coffee or maybe lunch, would be good. If all goes well you can stretch it out longer, but if you just aren't meshing as hoped, then you aren't stuck there as during a long drawn out sit-down dinner.
Drinks are okay...but for a first date with someone you don't know well, alcohol can be iffy because it may give you a false impression of that person.
Whatever you do, make it something that could be short, just to keep either of you from being uncomfortable for hours while trying to decide when it's okay to finally end the date and not appear rude. It's easier to lengthen a short date comfortably, than to shorten what would normally be a 'long' one.
Hopefully it'll go well though...and coffee or lunch will turn into an afternoon of some fun activity and perhaps dinner. ☺
2007-03-18 03:30:11 · answer #2 · answered by . 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A drink is nice and easy and relaxed. Take her to a quiet, [expensive] bar. This says that you want to talk to her and that you are not a cheapskate.
Buy her the first drink. It shows that you are gentlemanly.
Compliment her on how she looks and tell her that you are really pleased she came. Kiss her on the cheek when she arrives.
Don't drink too much. Absolutely, under no circumstances, should you drink any kind of alcopop. This makes you look like a poof. Stick to beer or whisky.
Shave - it shows respect.
Try not to talk too much about yourself - let her be forthcoming. This makes it clear that you are interested in her.
Don't sit too close to her. Give her personal space, especially at first. Sit opposite her and not, under any circumstances, next to her.
Speak softly - don't shout and don't swear too much.
Stand up when she leaves the table. Again, this shows respect.
Good luck! These are just some general gentlemanly rules that I think you will find helpful. Have a nice time!
2007-03-18 03:32:30 · answer #3 · answered by sallybowles 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Its as good as any, but don't let the alcohol take over, maybe going for a meal would be better, then you are not focusing on it being in a pub and drinking, you are in a nice relaxed environment of a restaurant, quiet enough to talk and get to know each other, and still have a drink but not go mad - we all know where that leads and if you really like her then take it steady - she sounds genuine enough, but obviously you dont know her well yet, that will come in time. Try not to stress too much about it, or that will have an effect on your first date. Bless you, you sound like a lovely chap, just relax and chill abit, let me know how you get on Emma x
2007-03-18 03:31:11 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
The uncomfortable feeling of a first date. I'm single and in your boat. I usually go out for a drink in a nice bar on a first date. I find going out for a meal a bit more intense for some reason and prefer to just go for a few casual drinks. The things any date will pick up on is if you aren't confident and feel uncomfortable. They are in the same boat remember. So try and be confident. Girls don't like a guy to be insecure.
2007-03-18 03:28:33 · answer #5 · answered by IzzyB 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why don't you ASK her what she wants to do, then just go with whatever she say's? That show's that you are taken an interest in what she like's to do and that you are considerate. Personally, I think first dates, should involve an activity of some sort, cinema, bowling, etc then a quick drink in the pub. That way you've got something to talk about so theres no awkward silences/ drinking too quickly through nerves.
Whatever you do enjoy! It sounds like you both really fancy each other!
2007-03-18 03:46:37 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ok, um, drink, like pubbish? Well, if so, just remember to talk more than anything, and good job on taking it slow, I've never taken it slow in a relationship, lol, it's always been fatal attraction, oh well, just don't be too slow when this thing gets going!, lol, good luck. I feel something here, this could be very life changing for you.
2007-03-18 03:29:06 · answer #7 · answered by Chey 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She will know if you are in the slightest nervous or putting on a front. Be yourself, keep good eye contact and show an interest in the conversation.
Keep it light and stress free and go with the flow.. Alcohol can numb the brain and make you slur after a fashion so go without it and see what happens...
Good luck she really is genuinely interested
2007-03-18 03:27:53 · answer #8 · answered by Scatty 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
she seems as if she could be genuine. i think going out for a drink would be a good first date if you pick a nice place and don't get drunk! it would give you both a chance to get to know each other which is obviously what you want to do. be there on time (even get there a wee bit earlier and be waiting for her), compliment her on how she looks, ask her questions about what she likes and dislikes, listen to her, and tell her about yourself. remember to buy most of the drinks and a smile goes a long way!
2007-03-18 03:30:30 · answer #9 · answered by sara f 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She told you to phone and text, she gave you her number - this makes me think she is genuine!
I think a quiet drink is an appropriate first date, i really do mean the quiet part, don't go somewhere noisy where she has to be screaming at you to make herself heard.
Best of luck.
2007-03-18 06:44:56 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
jamie.. believe your luck!
she made it rather clear that she's interested in you.
that's a really good start.
you will be able to tell whether she is genuine...once you start speaking with her...also listen to what she has to say....
she might be as nervous as you...and may be feeling the same as you..where she's thinking i just met this gorgeous guy..and i can't believe my luck....
girls pick up on confidence, charm..but we really like someone with whom we can truly relate...and relax with.
take a deep breath..relax..and enjoy the fact that both of you have met!
2007-03-18 03:36:57 · answer #11 · answered by manhattanmaryanne 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋