2007-03-18 02:55:30 · 29 answers · asked by silent warrior 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
Because in love marriages there is comparison between the time they have spent before the marriage and after the marriage.
Also they have high expectations from each other as they are coaxed, promised and flattered prior to marriage and are away from the ground realities.
And after marriage they face a lot of hardships and face the ground realities.
Also by spending few hours together one does not understand the counterpart very well.
Spending few hours is different then spending whole life together.
2007-03-18 23:51:55 · answer #1 · answered by singh_kv 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
If and when love marriages fail people just don't know what love means they think it's love but it's not they have been together for 1-2 years or some months and they think they're in love and get married. When you're in love you happily put up with everything to do with your partner and the partner does the same, you have to know the person for long enough to know their whole life and when you're in love each others life and everything just revolves around the couple fights happen to but where there's love fights don't stay for long either you have to have that kind of a relationship otherwise it fails obviously. I don't think a marriage from true love can ever fail because it would never get to a point where you want to get rid of the person. True love doesn't end so marriages that are so called "love" and they fail trust me it's not love.
2007-03-21 14:36:46 · answer #2 · answered by rabz86 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What usually happens is... A couple doesn't give themselves enough TIME to really get to know each others ups and down mood swings. They don't even really know each other and yet they jump into marriage. If they would realize that there's no hurry to sign a piece of paper just to say they are married or whatever the rushed reason may be and give themselves a whole lot of time...and I can't express this enough! At least 3 years to get to know each other on many different levels then many more marriages would work and probably be wonderful! There's also so many people who act the part they think their crush wants them to be and it may work for a short period of time but eventually they have to become themselves again and it's not what they expected of each other. It was all a lie! This is the fantasy marriage! There's the tooo immature to be responsible enough to deal with the ups and downs, There's many, many other reasons marriages fail and it is sad but true! J
2016-03-29 04:44:20 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Even a love marriage has to have in place the same things that sustain any marriage. Trust, and trustworthiness, respect for each other, commitment to each others emotional well being, communication, fidelity, compatibility at some level above a mere biological compatibility.
People who feel that they've fallen in love with another person still must have the sense about them to evaluate these other factors, and decide truly if their relationship has the legs to carry it for the long run. Besides...love too is something that has to be nurtured and sustained. It is not something that can survive out on it's own. Those who have fallen in love, and fail to nurture that love are surely going to fail.
2007-03-18 06:43:45 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
those love marriages which fails r due to following reasons-
1) the love which occured was a attraction
2)lust of eyes
3) lack of understanding
4) lack of faith upon each other
5)selfish nature
before every love marriage the gf and bf go for dating
dating has led to people having the wrong notion of having sex and finding out if they are compatible with each other. Sadly, that has become the norm. Dating has today become the way to satisfy our sexual desires without having the commitment of marriage and sanctity. The Bible has a word for this: ‘fornication’. Fornication is a sin in God’s sight because God has made sex to be enjoyed within the confines of marriage.
I want to say that I do not wish to give you a list of rules that you must follow. Rather, I would like you to seek the right perspective to dating in the light of God’s word and decide for yourself whether you are on the right path or not. Remember, dating is about getting to know a person and not about using the other person’s attributes or body to satisfy our selves.
2007-03-18 04:20:46 · answer #5 · answered by ponkeyrumu 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Having been married 11 years, I have seen plently of my friends divorce. I have noticed that people divorce over money issues, cheating, lack of respect, sex, etc. what all these marriages lack is open communication.
When you are dating or first get marriage you can tell your spouse anything...like that person is your best friend...later on down the road one will withhold from the other based on disagreements..This leads to unhappiness and frustration to the person who is withholding how they feel. If you can continue to share everything like you use to the next part is easy...
The other common thing that happens is that couples forget how to date or how to do some of the simpliest things to make alone time better. For example..some couples after so many years of being married do not give romatic kisses, do not cuddle or any of the simple stuff...they just go for the sex..
Money...well that is very easy.. stress is cause by money issues. If you can both keep the issues into perspective then it will be easier for you two to make plans to fix the issues..Stress from money causes fighting and also leads to distance between you..Try to to work it out together and not burden on person with the money issue
2007-03-18 03:10:47 · answer #6 · answered by giveu2tictacs 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I don't agree with the statement "most love marriages fail".....I have seen a lot of arranged marriages failing because these marriages were "arranged" and not choice based.
2007-03-21 18:27:19 · answer #7 · answered by Nancy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Marriages end for a variety of reasons...lack of or disagreements over money, sex, trust, fideltiy, not knowing the person well enough before the marriage occured, settling and hoping it would be enough, etc.
Also, too many people throw in the towel right away instead of trying to resolve problems and issues. Our (US) society has become a fast-food/disposable world of people using something and discarding it when it's served its purpose. Instead of fixing things, it's often cheaper nowadays to buy a new one...and so it's become with relationships. Too many find it easier to toss a damaged one away and get another one, rather than putting in the work to fix what's wrong.
2007-03-18 03:01:50 · answer #8 · answered by . 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Because in Love Marriages ...the love dies once the lovers get married......but in arranged marriages....the love blooms only after marriage.....
In Love marriages the lover will show only his positive points to impress his/her beloved therefore when the real face of the lover comes into light, after marriage,no beloved will be prepared enough to face it or rather digest it.... but in arranged marriages the couple in pushed into knowing the mystery of their partner's character...whatever it might be....it would be the true and original one....
In the lives of the arranged married couple...half of their life gets over by the time they completely know about each other and they don't find difficult to live the rest together..but in love marriages the first half gets over before the marriage itslef.
2007-03-18 03:11:52 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
Marriages fail coz of lack of love!!
2007-03-18 03:05:27 · answer #10 · answered by saltnsaffron 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋