Confused!!please help honest answers only??!!x?

Question

i was recently fingered by a boy and it hurt?!can anyone tell me why this might be?!also the next day there was strange white stuff in my pants??!i dont think its thrush because the medicine for it didnt work??also what are you meant to give a boy in return??honest answers only im old enough for the truth??!xx

Answer 1

firstly, i'll say what i always say... please don't pay much attention to what as_it_is says. he always gives the same long, slightly freaky answers to this sort of question, and a lot of what he says is bull...

it's very strange and confusing when you first start sexual behaviour - your body starts to do things that no-one has told you about before, and you get physical and emotional reactions that no-one can prepare you for, 'cos we're all different... so well done for asking :)

there are lots of reasons why being fingered might have hurt you:
the boy might have broken your hymen.
you might not have been ready - if you are not turned on enough, then your vagina can be quite dry, and having fingers (or anything else for that matter) put inside you when you are dry can be painful.
if it was your first time doing something like this, maybe you were a bit tense and the muscles of your vagina were a bit tight.
if the boy was not very experienced, maybe he was a bit rough, or put his fingers in at a funny angle, or pushed them in too far for you. (in the same way as guys have different sized penises, girls have different sized vaginas, and different sensitivity.) this can bruise the inside of your vagina.

if the white stuff on your pants was just there the day after, and has gone away again, it was probably just vaginal fluid left over from the sexual behaviour. like i said above, when you get turned on, you give out lubricating fluid from your vaginal walls. this usually dries white. you may see similar discharge at different times of the month - i get quite a lot when i'm ovulating, diffferent women have different patterns.
don't worry about discharge unless it smells funny, or is yellow or greenish in colour, or if you are sore or itchy as well. then you should go and see a doctor or go to a clinic.

finally. do whatever you want to. and only what you want to. you're not *meant* to give a boy anything. in return, or otherwise. there's no 'if he does this, i have to do that...' list to follow. and no boy should pressurise you into doing anything at all.
try to make the decision about what you want to do when you are not with the boy. because your hormones and sex drive can take you places that you are not ready to go yet... you ccan get carried away in the moment, be vulnerable to pressure, and end up doing something that you regret.
and you might make mistakes. you might do something, and then decide that it was too much, too soon. and that is JUST FINE :) just because you've done something once, doesn't mean that you have to do it again. and if your boy can't live with that, then he's not good enough for you...

Answer 2

Am not sure how old you are honey! But it might hurt if he was a little rough. People will tell you not to do these things and they only say this for your own good, there is plenty of time in life for learning about sex. Young boys will always push and try to get you to go further than you want and you may find that it only makes you feel bad.. The white stuff is called discharge and unless it smells and/or itches it is quite normal, women get this at different times in the month! Please try and save all this stuff for someone you love and trust!

Answer 3

The boy has broke the skin inside your vagina which is called the hymen this can sometimes be broken by exercise but it looks like yours was broken by the boy fingering you. The white stuff is only discharge this is probably just because of the hymen breaking. This is natural and you have nothing to worry about. And for the bit about doing things in return only do it if you are happy to but make sure it is with someone you trust and ask them what they would like back. Make sure this boy cares about you first

Answer 4

If it hurt, he wasn't doing it properly! the white stuff can be thrush, see your Doctor, sometimes you need prescription medicine. if you don't know what to do in return, then you are not ready!
Old enough for the truth is different to mature enough for the truth. Experiment touching your self, and see what you like. Then when you are in a REAL LOVING relationship, you can tell him what you like, and he can tell you. Don't feel you have to do anything, just to be equal to your friends. The only time to make love, is when you ARE in love.

Answer 5

it probably hurt because your hymen broke which is normal if its the first time you've done anything like this. the discharge you are on about could be anything, normal or abnormal. your best bet would be to go to your gp or take a visit to a sexual health clinic near you. have a look in the yellow pages. they are very friendly and nothing to be afraid of. .. lastly listen carefully, you are not MEANT to do anything in return. its your decision and your decision only as to what you want to do. if you dont want to do something you dont have too. dont feel pressured into anything and if your bf is pressurising you into anything, he doesn't love you and he's not worth it. you will find someone that is right for you with time.

Answer 6

it hurt because you are proabably tight up there & he might have broken your hymen. thin layer of skin covering the entrance to your vagina, which is perfectly normal. i wouldnt worry to much about the discharge unless it smells, or you feel itchy or the discharge is clumpy. if you are very worried go to your gp, because you cant really get stds from fingering. i can only speculate that perhaps he had some form of dirt or bacteria on his fingers and you have some sort of infection hence the extra discharge. could proabably be cleared up quickly with antibiotics.

Answer 7

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Answer 8

This could be and indication that you SHOULDNT BE LETTING YOURSELF GET FINGERED!! You are obviously young and need to focus more on your homework than your sexual experimentation. But scolding aside, it could be any number of things (coming from a certified CNA). Yeast infection maybe?? Something chemical from his fingers?? Allergic reaction to a cologne or lotion he wears? Does he work with chemicals? Is your skin sensitive? Time may heal this wound, but if your truly worried, its best to see your friendly neighbor ER doctor. I say ER in case you dont want mom to find out by going to your family doctor. But keep your mind on your books next time and hold his hand with your hand, not your pum pum.

Answer 9

I think this is a question you should be asking a doctor. If you do not know what to do in return then you are definitely not old enough.

Answer 10

dont ever let any fella do this to ya gain......did u know if his hands were clean....no im serious....in some situations if his hands are not clean he could cause u damage.....and imagine in a couple of years ur not able to have childre!!! this can happen....how old are u??? do not do anything with this boy again!!!!! be proud of ur self and stand up for ur self dont do thins actions just cos u "think every one else is" because they are not its all talk!!! any way ur not going to listen to some random person like me.....but seriously think about how u wud like to treat ursefl and how u wud like people to treat u!!!!!