im really good friends with this guy at college and we hang out and have a really strong attraction to each other. we also just connect on so many things and talk about really personal things. the thing is he met his girlfriend who lives in a different country a couple of weeks before he met me and he doesnt want to cheat on her. a couple of days ago we got high together and ended up in bed, we didnt have full sex but we did get really physical. now he's being a bit distant. we talked and he said he needed a few days to get over what happened which i can understand. now i find it really hard to act normally around him because we have had to chage the kind of friendship we have. i feel really withdrawn from him. he tries to make conversation with me but i find it difficult. do you think i should carry on being friends with him, half of me feel like he took advantage of my feelings and led me on even though i know i was to blame as well.
2007-03-18 01:53:45 · 11 answers · asked by poppettes 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
it sounds like he does not feel he can trust himself around you anymore and he truly does not want to cheat ---- he does regret what has happened and i suspect would want to get the relationship back the way it was --- it has opened a can of worms for he as he does care for you as well ---- let him know you understand and see if you can rebuild some of the relationship (maybe just dont get alone somewhere private) --- best wishes to all three of you
2007-03-18 02:01:33 · answer #1 · answered by Waterdragon 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
my views and opinions...
it seems you both took the same course of action.
he has already "cheated" and feels guilty.
you both need some space.
give it to him and yourself.
it's called giving the gift of missing you...friend or not..friend or or more...
you may still be firends on some level bc you didn't go all the way..that would have been the biggest mistake of all, but it sure feels uncomfortable on some levels bc of the attraction and the gf this is "normal" to most to feel this uncomfortableness...
when he does talk to you again maybe he may want to talk about what happened or maybe not..it would be best to talk a little
Just tell him, it's ok, I understand and lets put it behind us..we were high... and be prepared to go do something fun with him if he wants or by yourself(w/friends)
time will take care of the rest one way or another
2007-03-18 09:05:25 · answer #2 · answered by Gary G 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
relationships,feelings,friendships are all serious matters one has to deal with on a daily bases-your's was certainly clouded when you decided to get "high" with each other-being open with one another is always the best way,sometimes it may not be what either person wants to hear but think if you never said anything at all-let life deal what it may and accept that run with it and if turns out to be love hold it tight for it is rare to find and harder to hold-believe me i know
2007-03-18 09:09:06 · answer #3 · answered by robert h 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hey, he did take advantage of you. Why in the world would you put up with a jerk like that. I would suggest you move on as there are alot of really great guys out here in the world.
2007-03-18 08:57:36 · answer #4 · answered by michael_trussell 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Obviously the sex wasn't that great. You knew he had a girlfriend and you still went to bed with him. You made this problem, so only you can clear it up.
2007-03-18 08:58:28 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
well, sometimes friends is much cooler than lovers.
remember that friend is different from bf.
don't give him up, still love him, talk to him.
communication that's all it takes.
if you feel like guilty for his girl then stop it, just follow your heart and it will be alright.
2007-03-18 08:59:47 · answer #6 · answered by igel manalo 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
if you really like him then you should stay friends because it may just take him some time to realize that you two should be together
2007-03-18 08:58:40 · answer #7 · answered by sheets0681 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He obviously feels more for his girlfriend than you, and now feels guilty about what happened.
2007-03-18 09:03:28 · answer #8 · answered by MUSHMAN 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you have heard the old saying" it takes two to tango" or "when you play with fire, you will get burned"
2007-03-18 08:59:26 · answer #9 · answered by wongfiehung2003 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2007-03-18 08:57:50 · answer #10 · answered by mast_kumar2007 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋