why do people in couples tend to look down on single people?

Question

i find that people in couples often look down on singletons & try & set them up or look down on them going out & just having fun. anyone else feel this way? just feel like sometimes when sum1 has a bf they feel they are above u or better off in some way

i dont need to be set up! im only 17 & people expect me 2 b in a serious relationship already! those of you in couples who dont notice it, see how you feel if you become single again!

Answer 1

It's just smugness and perhaps jealousy. Couples have to spend their time doing the mundane things, such as who will clean the toilet, who is going to de-scale the kettle, and who will empty the septic tank. Singles rock! You should look down on them because you can do what you f**king well like and they can't!

Answer 2

I'm surprised you think this. I remember feeling a little the same way when I was in my teens and half the school were in on-off relationships, because that seemed like a confirmation of their popularity, but since then, in the real world, no, I've never thought this.

Some singles seem to make their presence felt on Saturday nights, and then there's the stereotype of the sad 50-something male swilling whisky in a down-beat New York bar (I'm in the UK, by the way, but it's that American film thing).

Also, I have a grouchy single nextdoor neighbour who seems to have certain, shall we say, frustrations, and trivialities become big issues to her (apparently we need her permission to pave our own garden, etc). In her case, I know that the single thing is an issue, since she reached the big 40. Maybe this sort of thing doesn't help with the single/couple stereotype, but it's an unnecessary dividing line because there are grouchy couples and happy singles too.

My advice? Forget about what the rest of the world is doing and thinking - it's probably not what you think it is anyway.

Answer 3

I don't think that I've ever noticed that. I'm single, and I really don't see it that way.

People are generally so busy in their own lives that I don't think they really care on way or another. Why should any one judge another persons life weather they are in a relationship or weather they are single. It doesn't really matter.

Maybe if your in grade/high school it makes you feel that way, since kids can be so much more judgmental than adults can be when it comes to things like that. As adults you don't see things like that as people have way more to do in their lives, than to sit around worrying over what others are doing. Or even who they are dating. So I'm guessing that you may be younger. If you are things will get better, not to worry. If you older and feel this way you may want to get into some counseling to get past this.

Feel better, it will all be OK!

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Answer 5

People in couples are actually scared of us singletons because we are out having fun while they sit in a boring restaurant having dinner all the time, and also they are scared in case you take their partner off them.
I know it sounds weird but its true, that's why they try to act like they are better than you and why they always try to set you up because they don't want you going after what they have.
Forget them, they are no better than us singletons!!
Be happy babe!!

Answer 6

What age group are you in?

1. They probably feel you are missing out on the joys of being in a relationship.

2. If you are older they may think you are being immature if you don't want to settle down, or worried you will miss your opportunity to start a family.

3. If you are older again (a bit too old to start a family), the first reason applies.

Answer 7

Maybe they are jealous, couples often stifle each other..
I dont look down on single people, I love my fella but some days I would happily be in your shoes!

Take no notice, tell em all your happy on your own and remember that plenty of others think your right!

Answer 8

We don't feel like that - why would we? We have loads of single friends and friends who are in couples. But just because we're a couple, doesn't mean we are not people in our right with our own likes and dislikes, just as a single person. I think this is what YOU think, not what most other people think.

Answer 9

most of the time it cos the person in a relationship sees how much fun the singleton is and wishes it was them, so they try to fix hem up so they dont have to see u happy

Answer 10

No absolutley not I am in a couple and I am a bit jealous of single people, I would love to have that kind of freedom and excitement again