I recently went on a sort of blind date with a guy (we were put in touch by a mutual friend). This guy's lovely, we have lots in common and we see most things the same way. We should be the perfect match. The only problem is that I don't fancy him. He's keen for us to go out again, but I'm not sure it's fair on him. I don't want to lead him on, but at the same time I wonder if I should just give it another go. We emailed each other a lot before we met and we got to know each other pretty well. I'd be happy being friends with him, but I doubt that's what he wants. I don't know what to do! Just to complicate matters, I've recently been offered a job in Spain for a year, starting in September. It's the opportunity of a lifetime, and I really want to take it. Is it worth seeing the guy again, especially if I'm thinking of going away in a few months?
2007-03-18 01:40:53 · 11 answers · asked by star_night_dream 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I would just tell him. Be up front about taking the new job, and tell him you are not looking for anything permanent, but going out as friends would be something you could do. If you do nothing, you may lose an opportunity for a friend. If you tell him, and he wants more, it is his choice, no one gets hurt. The situation may get a little tense for a minute, but it will get handled.
2007-03-18 01:46:49 · answer #1 · answered by stormzsecret 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I think you have answered your own question. He could be the nicest guy in the world but if that spark isn't there I doubt it ever will be. You seem to know what you really want, and that is to go off to Spain and work. Personally I would recommend you do that, once in a lifetime you said so go! You will know when the right man comes along and there will be no stopping you, and you will have done all the things you wanted to do beforehand. Hope this helps! x
2007-03-18 08:53:21 · answer #2 · answered by Pete R 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Give it a go! My first date with my (now) hubby was a fizzer, and I told workmates that it wont work out. Took the chance, went on a second date..... 24 years later we're still together. Engaged within 6 months, and married 16 months after our first date! As for the job, tell him, if things work out, and i'm sure you'll manage a long distance relationship. It is only for 1 year. Good luck!
2007-03-18 08:51:45 · answer #3 · answered by mamabear_45 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you answered the question for yourself. You said "I don't fancy him". Take the job in Spain. If you find that you have developed feelings for him once you're there, get him to come visit.
2007-03-18 08:50:05 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Tell him the truth. Let him know you want to friends and nothing else and that you are going to Spain to further your career. It's that simple.
2007-03-18 08:47:26 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
always go on 3 dates before making up your mind.
2007-03-18 13:11:58 · answer #6 · answered by D B 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if u dont fancy him and your gona b moving maybe not, leave him to find some1 else, jst be honest ith him x
2007-03-18 08:49:16 · answer #7 · answered by BscHons 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
you think your that special =/
maybe hes not as picky as you and pretends to like you even if youre an old munter
go spain and let the bloke find someone better than you
2007-03-18 08:49:12 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 3⤋
take the new job, iif the guy is serious, he will be waiting for you when you return
2007-03-18 08:45:38 · answer #9 · answered by wongfiehung2003 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Many modern women just sleep around.
It is acceptable.
2007-03-18 08:44:57 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋