For several weeks my wife has been saying "I must get a new scrubbing brush next time I go to the shops", but has always forgotten. This morning my ten-year old son gave her one for Mother's Day all wrapped up in nice wrapping paper. She has gone wild and will not speak to any of us. What is wrong with her?
2007-03-18 01:39:15 · 33 answers · asked by BARROWMAN 6 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
I apologise to our US members who seem to think Mother's Day is in May. Here in the mother country it is March 18 (today). Anyone who has asked a woman what she wants as a present is always answered with "I don't know what i would like" so the poor lad jas bought something she has been harping on about for weeks and he gets it thrown back at him. It might be a long time before he plucks up the courage to buy her anytjing more. Who is it that said it is the thought that counts?
2007-03-18 09:21:44 · update #1
i guess she wanted flowers.. but she should love anything that her child has given her.. that is not very nice.. i love everything my children give me.. they could wrap up a stone and i would love it.
2007-03-18 01:48:14 · answer #1 · answered by dreams 6 · 3⤊ 1⤋
Even though any gift from your child is "absolutely perfect," it sounds like she was very offended. I think she took too much from it, like the brush symbolized her rold as a maid in the home. It's the equivalent of buying a woman a vacuum cleaner for her birthday- like that's all she's worth- just a cleaning person and has no other interests except to clean the house for everyone.
It sounds like she needs some time away- a break! Talk to her about it, and see if she would like to get out of the house for the day. And then you could all eat dinner together (that you guys will make.) Also, make sure that if she doesn't talk with your son, that you do. Tell him that mommy's just frustrated and didn't mean to hurt his feelings.
Btw, I thought Mother's Day was in May.
2007-03-18 01:55:43 · answer #2 · answered by punchy333 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I can only guess what upset her but it's probably that she feels like her only role in the family is the "maid." I made a deal with my husband, long before we were married, that he would never get me cleaning products (i.e. a vacuum cleaner) as a gift for birthdays, Christmas, whatever. How would you feel if your wife got you a shovel for Christmas or a garbage can for your birthday? It's kind of the same idea.
That being said, it's a little different in that it's your son who got it for her, not you, and it really should be the thought that counts. Your son was obviously thinking about what his mom wanted since she had been saying she wanted one for awhile and I think it's sweet that he put that much thought into it! Maybe you should talk to her, explain that she's really hurting your son's feelings and that he only had her best interests at heart. Hopefully, she'll come around quickly. Good luck!
2007-03-18 01:53:00 · answer #3 · answered by NewMomma 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I am afraid to say that I actually think that your wife is suffering from a depression of some sort which could be premenstrual but might not be.
It is unusual and also significant that you wife has been speaking about this scrubbing brush but forgets it - and then goes ballistic when her son gives her what he thought she really wanted!
I would book an appointment with your GP as soon as possible if I were you - but find an excuse - if I am right, she will refuse to go if she knows the reason!
2007-03-18 02:27:07 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 2⤋
Where are you that it's Mother's Day? In the US, it's in May... well, the present proved that you and your son gave little thought on how important she is other than a cleaning servent to you two. For Mother's Day, you are to raise her up and honor her. It's the equivelent of the dad getting a tie on Father's Day. Lame. The scrubbing brush is worse than the car floor mats my friend got several years ago...and it was her birthday too! And I never thought that one would be beat!
2007-03-18 03:36:08 · answer #5 · answered by Silver B 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
A scrub brush is not something you give as a gift, no matter how thoughtful it might have seemed while picking it out. I would suggest that you find a way to explain this to her and have your son make her a card telling her how much he loves her and tell her that by buying the scrub brush was his way of telling her that he will be doing the cleaning with it today instead of her.
2007-03-18 02:54:05 · answer #6 · answered by sassyliz32 2 · 0⤊ 2⤋
If she really, really wanted a scrubbing brush that much, she'd have remembered to buy one.
Could be that domestic goddess status isn't that important to her and she wants a life away from the house. Maybe she feels a bit bad at not being a super-clean, supermum, but would really rather be out climbing (virtual) mountains or something.
What you've done (or at least, what your son's done) is show an appreciation of her use in the kitchen, and little else.
No wonder she's a little sour. Sorry!
2007-03-18 01:46:02 · answer #7 · answered by stuffnstuff 3 · 1⤊ 2⤋
seems things are getting on top of her,she's stressed for some reason,if she wanted something weeks ago and forgot then your son give her one as a present, this isn't going to make her feel better as she forgot to get one herself.
i dont think she is taking it out on your son as shes not speaking to all of you so its NOT the present
try and talk to her to find out why she is stressed, i get days like this when everything just gets on my nerves and i just want to cry
make her a nice meal do a bit housework for her this may make her feel a little better,buy her some flowers and chocolates tomorrow show her you care, let her know she is not just a wife and mother that she is also a woman
and just needs a little time on her own
good luck
2007-03-18 05:03:31 · answer #8 · answered by ♥♥™Tia™♥♥ 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
a scrubbing brush is cute off her son it shows that he loves his mum an only got what he thought she most needed , maybe later tell him to go in the garden an pick a nice flower and a hug she will be fine then , tomorrow she will be using that brush believe me an she will see the funny side to it .
2007-03-18 01:53:30 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
maybe you should take your wife aside tonight and explain this to her in quiet. The 10 year old only did what he thought best . If it would have been me i would have ade a bg fuss getting this brush for Mothersday and he would have gotten many kisses for it ! Poor little thing .
Maybe your wife needs some vacation! Think about that ! maybe life has been getting to hecktick lately.....
2007-03-18 01:44:04 · answer #10 · answered by silverearth1 7 · 2⤊ 1⤋
seems like you have a very inconsiderate wife. you took the time and trouble to get her something that she had been hankering for for quite a wile, and not some passing fancy like diamonds, a new car, or some designer clothes. i wouldnt bother in future, spend the money on yourself at alapdancing bar, or 3 months subscription to a internet dating agency... hope this has been helpfull
2007-03-18 22:57:34 · answer #11 · answered by paul 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋