I am suffering with PTSD and I am receiving counselling. However I find it impossible to share what I am going through with my family and friends. I know they are there for me and I all I need to do is ask, but I just freeze up and find it too painful to do. I am in a very emotional state at the moment and my life feels like its falling apart yet I find myself too scared to let it out in front of them as I don't want to upset them.
Have you ever had this problem? Any advise on how to overcome it?
Thanks
2007-03-18 01:18:12 · 11 answers · asked by Teejay 6 in Health ➔ Mental Health
Yep. I can't talk to my family about anything. I know I can and nothing bad will happen if I do, but I just can't. I don't really understand why. I guess the best thing to do is to just jump in and do it before you can second guess yourself. I don't know. I haven't overcome that quite yet. Make sure both you and your family are in a relatively good mood if that is possible and then just say something. Maybe write them letters and that way it is less confrontational but you can still let them know what's going on.
2007-03-18 04:39:58 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
It is very difficult to talk about problems, isn't it? Especially when there are more than two people there. I find it easier to talk when I am with a friend or relative one to one. A social hour or two out for a drink ( or coffee ), and not more than about half an hour or so about problems. Try the pillow technique - put a pillow of problems in between two lots of happy things. Eg start talking about light, every day stuff for half an hour or so. Then you can mention you have been feeling a bit rough. Then go back to the lighter stuff again- like- still, it is not all bad - blessings etc . That way the other person will not go away thinking it was one long moan!
2007-03-18 08:31:02 · answer #2 · answered by R.E.M.E. 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes, I find it difficult to reach out for help alot and I just sit with all the pain. I've been through alot and sometimes my
thoughts just get all jumbled. I self-blame quite a bit and
have suicidal thoughts often. I lost my mom to Ovarian cancer 6 years ago and my dad to suicide a year ago in april. I also accidently killed a woman in a car accident in
sept '04 (no drugs\alcohol inhvolved). There have been other losses along the way to. I have PTSD and depression. I try, although life just feels like a battle sometimes.
2007-03-18 22:55:20 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think that it would be easier to confide in them when you are ready and one at a time. Or how many when you are ready to talk about it. I believe keeping things bottled up inside is never a good thing but don't keep it inside for ever. tal about when you can, even if only a portion of it at a time comes out. You will shake and be nerved up but when you are ready and who says you have to share it with everyone? You don't and in time, you will be more relaxed and talk about it. Now this also depends on when this starting happening as well. Good Luck to you and may God give you strength and the help you need to over come this.
2007-03-18 08:26:23 · answer #4 · answered by Dolly 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I must admit that I'm like that when my dad died I have only 2 split second memories of the mass the night before and at the side of the grave I walked away, anything else I seemed to have erased from my mind, my family were worried as I went onto overdrive not crying only I did when on my own after he was buried, my way of dealing with it. I lost a baby and from when I was told she was dead inside me I tried to explain after to others it was like I was standing above myself watching down, I only managed to, as I say, put her to bed in my head last year when she would have been 18. I am NOT a hard person in fact very soft and good to others, it just we all have our own way to deal with things and that is mine. I can help anyone else with a problem if they want to talk,cry or be angry and just be there for them. Sorry it's so long.
2007-03-18 08:42:29 · answer #5 · answered by Bernie c 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
they would be more upset if u didnt talk 2 them and sumthing happend 2 u but all in good time will u sort ur self out just hang in there and remeber there there 2 listen not judge.ive been there ands its better out than in it eats away at u it took me years 2 talk 2 mi famly but its worth it hang in there
2007-03-18 09:06:40 · answer #6 · answered by jojo 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I find it impossible. I always end up counselling everyone else. Wish I could accept help. Don't know why.
2007-03-18 08:25:17 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I find it very difficult to ask for help..I understand how you feel.
I'm really good at listening to others and helping with their problems though.....
2007-03-18 08:22:28 · answer #8 · answered by Amanda 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
never be afraid to ask for help. we all need to at times, its not a sign of weakness.sometimes its easier talking to a stranger, and maybe this may help you.
2007-03-19 08:51:50 · answer #9 · answered by Ramona 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I usually tell what is clearly shown but what I’m really tired about, I never do.
2007-03-18 08:27:58 · answer #10 · answered by sabrine 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋