im 17 and i live at home. my mum and dad wont let me sleep at my boyfriends hiuse. if i go outto his they will pick me u at like 2am just so i dont sleep over its horrible, why are they doing this and how can i make them stop?
2007-03-18 00:56:37 · 29 answers · asked by wiseyellowplum 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
It may not sound like it to you, but they are doing this because they care, your reputation, not getting pregnant, it is a big enough worry having a teenager, you are still young to be sleeping at your boyfriends, you have years ahead of you, don't rush things.
2007-03-18 01:00:55 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 2⤋
They are thinking of you and your welfare. I suppose they think that you stay at your boyfriends that you will sleep together. You don't say whether he lives with his parents or not and if so what their attitude to your being there would be. Why do you want to stop over> Do you want,or already have sex with your boyfriend? Your parents are worried for a few reasons. How long will the relation with your boyfriend last, is there any appreciable age difference between you , are you likely to become pregnant at an early age. Don't forget your parents have probably done all that you have or want to do in their younger days and they can now look back and see where they may have made mistakes and don't want you to do the same. I am sure all of this is because they love you and you are still their little girl.
2007-03-18 08:08:48 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
When you become 'of age' you can do as you please!
Then its all down to you!
They pick you up at 2am, just so you don't sleep over? That must be a bit rough? Why don't you just move in altogether with your boyfriend?
Your parents will no doubt pick up all the pieces when the shi* hits the fan? Then you can move back home and start afresh???
Grow up!!!!
2007-03-18 08:10:21 · answer #3 · answered by budding author 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
While you are living under their roof, you should respect their rules, no matter how annoying they may seem. As you state that you are only 17, then by law, you are not an adult, therefore your parents have some say in what you do. Have you ever thought they may be doing this to you in the hope that you don't become another single mother living on welfare?
2007-03-18 08:02:47 · answer #4 · answered by Shantelle G 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
If you do not like this, move out and be on your own.
This is not a matter of trust, it is a matter of common sense. You are being immature or even childish if you do not see anything wrong with you sleeping at you boyfriends house (and you being only 17 years old).
Depending upon what state you live in and the age of your bf, it might even be a felony for you to sleep overnight at your boyfriend's house. Just because you want to or because all of your friends do it, does not make it right or legal.
You parents are acting out of concern for you. You cannot make them stop. You need to examine you selfish behavior.
2007-03-18 08:09:00 · answer #5 · answered by Richard 7 · 8⤊ 0⤋
you can't.
When you turn 18 then you can make them stop.
your parents will never see you as a 17, 18, 21, or even 30 year old person. I know, it's a real pain in the ***.
the reason they do what they do is because they feel like they have to protect you from the world and from yourself.
you will never, ever, convince them that they are wrong so don't even try it. When you turn 18, you can do what you want.
2007-03-18 08:07:13 · answer #6 · answered by Thrill K 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I wouldn't either. You trying to become a **** at 17? No disrespect intended, but that is what it sounds like. No self respecting girl YOUR age would sleep with a guy. I'm surprised they let you stay that late. Remember this when YOU are a parent(which won't be long if you continue this behavior.) YES, I am lecturing, but some day you will think about what is said here and agree we are right. Just takes time to grow up and realize you don't know it all.
2007-03-18 08:02:10 · answer #7 · answered by Deb 5 · 1⤊ 2⤋
it's just a parent's job to look after you.. think about it, you have a daughter who is 17 and isn't legally an adult yet... you don't want her getting pregnant or anything like that yet, and you know if you have any common sense that she only wants to "sleep" over at her boyfriends for one reason. Are you going to let your daughter "sleep" at her boyfriends before 18? think hard on that one- i wouldn't want to be made a grandmother before my own child had become a legal adult.
2007-03-18 08:05:01 · answer #8 · answered by sexykaeley 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You should not be allowed to sleep at your boyfriends house. You should understand your parents, trust me when you are grown and have children you will understand. And, you should not be at a boys hopuse at 2 am either, I would never let my kids stay out at the opposite sexs house that late or at all. so, I will have to say your parents are somewhat easy on you to let you stay there that late.
2007-03-18 12:00:12 · answer #9 · answered by Heather 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
They are protecting you, dummy!!! They don't want you bringing home a grandbaby right now! They are doing their job!!! They deserve a gold metal!!!
Stop acting like a slutty spoiled brat and accept your parents rules while you are living in their home, eating their food, and being clothed by them.
When you move out...you do what you want. In the meantime, sleep in your bed at home and give it a rest. Godloveya.
2007-03-18 10:14:05 · answer #10 · answered by Sassy OLD Broad 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe when you are 18 and old enough to make some of your own decisions. Are you working and paying any of the household bills yet??? Maybe you should find a job, that would take care of some of your spare time.
2007-03-18 09:29:00 · answer #11 · answered by winona e 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋