i get on so much better with my sister than my brother?

Question

hi, i have a sis & a bruva. i get on sooo much better with my sister & i feel really bad about it. i live in the same house as my bruva & most days we dont speak. its not like i hate him or anything i just dont particularly like him. when my sisters home im really happy, and our mum says dont leave your brother out. i cant help it but i just dont like him, his personality & i dont feel like we can be friends. i feel like when i leave home or he does we will loose contact because would never ring or or want to meet up. feel soo bad i feel this way, but cant help it. any advice? just to clarify we are not little immature kids, who argue all the time. we are just indifferent to each other, he has finished uni.

i didnt say i was grown up,i sed i wasnt immature, im 17. we r not horrible to each other! just dont speak much

Answer 1

I'm 53; have VERY different relationships with my brothers and sisters. i'm the eldest of five, and our relationships chnaged over the years. My best relationships with my youngest brother; he's 11 years younger than me; and my youngest sister, she's 14 years younger than me. The other brother is only 2 yrs younger, and we have always been suspicious of each other - too close in age , I guess. The other sister is 7 yrs my junior, and impossible; and always was impossible. Contrary, cranky; always stirring it for everyone....and my mother's favourite.
You don't have to like the other people in your family to be caring and protective of them; they are just people like the rest of the world. We can't choose who we get as brothers or sisters; we can just count ourselves lucky that at least ONE of the family is compatible! Don't worry too much over it - things change as you get older; you might appreciate each other more when you leave home! i though my kid sister was a pain in the butt for years; spolit, selfish and demanding; yeah, she's still all of those things, but now she has kids of her own, we find we have lots in common!

Answer 2

when people live in the same house they tend to get on each others nerves a lot.

there is a little give and take that has to come from both sides. It sounds like you and your brother just have different interests. That could be a good thing though. If you want to have a better relationship with him then try involving yourself in some of the things he likes. Put the ball in his court after you make your attempt and see if he reciprocates.

Answer 3

Even siblings can dislike each other, I have the same kind of problem but with my older sister, we had nothing in common just her being in the room annoyed me and the same for her.
We never spoke, we never did anything together. It was so bad that when she had children she told them I was dead!
Just recently we have gotten a little closer.Family is very important.Try to talk to him, ask him how he feels about you, tell him how you feel. You might be surprised. Good luck

Answer 4

You should just try to talk to him more...maybe you'll be surprised! He may be feeling that you dont want to talk to him, as you dont and so isnt even bothering to try and talk to you. You can start by asking some advice on something and get things kicked off from there....but i think it is normal that sisters get on with sisters more, i do get on with my brother but were not so close either, sometimes its just natural, anyhow Good luck! x

Answer 5

Well your just different people that all...doesn't mean you don't love him! My brother and i never use to get on at all...then when he joined the army i thought all my Xmas's had come at once!! Then i eventually started to miss him and we got chatting and now get on! People change. You don't have to be mean to each other just friendly x

Answer 6

no it sounds like ye are immature adults, if there isnt a particular reason ye should try to sort it out. Its yer Mum i feel sorry for and what are ye doing syill living at home if ye grown up.