I want him to care, but i push him away, why?

Question

hey, i want my guy to care about me, but when he ask me whats wrong i say nothing.. sometimes he freaks which makes me uncomfortable and not want to say anything, which makes him more mad.. i just want him to calm down say he loves me and ask nicely whats wrong... but he rarely do that because i always say nothing.. when i get really hurt i push him away and tell him to leave.. but really i want him there with me.. he trys to stay untill he cant take it no more and leaves... but 10 mins later he comes back... i dont know why im hurting over this... i think im pushing him away too much.. this is the first time he didnt come back... why?... will he get over me? someone give me advise on how i should be acting when i have a problem, and if he might leave me soon because of my behavior..

Answer 1

You remind me of my 1st wife, she did exactly the same thing. I put up with it for 8 years and finally just got fed up. Although we tried counseling for 3 years of that 8 nothing seemed to work with her. I finally had to call it quits. Because it gets to a point where a person who is doing what you do can cause so much frustration in a relationship simply because of the way your behavior changes.
If i were you the next time he asks what is wrong you better open up and tell him what's on your mind. Because, answering with "Nothing" tends to get old very quickly and while i was persistent and supportive for 8 years most people won't put up with this type of behavior for very long. Open up and speak to your man about what it is that's bothering you. Otherwise he's going to take a hike and leave you.
One more thing, my now ex that did this exact same thing, eventually opened up to her Psychiatrist/Counselor and admitted that she did this type of thing as a form of getting back at a person who abused her when she was younger. While she thought it was funny, the person that experienced it (me) never found it a bit amusing.

Answer 2

you think if u push you will seem stonger but u need to let him know how u feel i mean if he likes u enough to stay around even though u push he still cares enough to ask he jest doesnt want to get on your nerves


im kinda going threw the same thing with the girl i like she pushes but i dont know if should not come back or jest give her space sometimes

you should let him know how u feel

Answer 3

If you push someone away enough times they feel you don't care for them and will look for a girl that does. And maybe deep down you want to look for another because your tired of your boyfriend but want admit it to yourself.