well im just wondering because I know girls feel more likely to choke the "other girl" and prolly burn her alive than leaving the guy that cheated on her. Is it a defense mechanism or is it just human nature?
What's the best excuse for forgiving someone who almost ruined your life? and what is the best excuse for treating the other party who caused this?
Best case scenario is to shove it to his face that you did not lose anything, and sadly it will take him a little while to realize you meant the world to him and it will be over the moment he thinks about it.
Worst case scenario is being left alone while your future ex-boyfriend is now sharing a bed with some teenager who knows he is cheating on you with her. ***teenager grins****,
2007-03-18 00:03:48 · 15 answers · asked by phlegm1134 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
No, I am not the teenager who grinned at the last part. There is a significance though.. All I know is alot of teenagers nowadays just "dont care" if the guy they are screwing around with is in a relationship or married. Im not saying all of them. And, this is just an observation, it didnt really happen in my relationship or something. I just used the "teenager" as the other party because its very common that at this age, they seem not to value much if they are with someone who is in a relationship, or married..
2007-03-18 17:16:03 · update #1
ok what your feeling is natural. you see him as "yours" and her as the "intruder" and you want to fight for whats yours. you need to find out if she knew about you. if she didnt, then its all him. he is the one you should skin alive and burn because he did that to you and he knew it. i dont know about you, but i dont forgive cheaters. your best case is delusional at best. the only thing he would be sorry about is he got caught. do yourself a favor and find someone who would be best for you.
2007-03-18 00:28:16 · answer #1 · answered by evil Hesh 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Of course it's reasonable to be mad. You are, after all, only human and if you didn't get upset or show any kind of feelings one might think you never cared in the 1st place so what would it matter who did what? The best reaction, in my opinion, though it may take some time, is to move on and better yourself and your situation. If you seek vengeance you will be more than likely to feel like a fool by lowering yourself to the other peoples level who caused you such anguish. i am a firm believer that if you lie down with dogs you will rise up with fleas, so just know you never have to stoop to people of ill repute.
2007-03-18 07:13:59 · answer #2 · answered by sistiensmiles 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have a reason to be angry, I would say that they are a match made in heaven. If you really meant the world to him, he would never ever think of cheating on you.
You deserve better, seek and ye shall find. Don't lower your standards, set some high standards on a criteria for man and you will find. Don't settle for misery! There is no wrong or right when you make your decisions, a right decision would mean that you are #1 and will not tolerate a cheater.
2007-03-18 07:26:47 · answer #3 · answered by Emily L 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It took me a LONG time to learn about cheating but this is what I learned, "Once a cheater, always a cheater, and its thier fault." The other person might not even know about you. Sometimes they do know about you and still do it and I think thats just as bad at the cheater. I know what you mean about wanting to ring their necks! When I found out my x was cheating on me, I wanted to crush the girl... however after a few years, I realized that it wasnt her at all. It was all his fault. I told myself that if anyone ever cheated on me, then they wouldn't be with me because obviously they didnt respect me and why would I want to share my life with someone like that? There are so many "good" men.... that I would just have to keep looking and not settle for less than I deserve. So yes, be mad at both of them but if he cheats, I hope you realize sooner rather than later like me that hes just not worth the energy.
2007-03-18 07:13:52 · answer #4 · answered by jms62394 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If your partner fooled you and cheated, chances are the other person knowes nothing about You. Your mate is the con artist . The other person might well be an innocent by stander remember The guy who killed his pregnant wife? his mistress didn't have a clue he was married never mind Scott had killed his wife and unborn son
2007-03-18 07:10:31 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think you absolutely should get mad your partner for cheating as you and him had a relationship going in which trust should have been high on the list of requirements. Getting mad at the one he cheated with really serves no purpose as she didn't have any sort of relationship with you and it was your guys responsibility to act responsible and not cheat. Of course, if she was, say, your best friend, sister, mother(yuck!) then you have the right to unholy revenge on the both of them.
2007-03-18 07:09:29 · answer #6 · answered by coolred38 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
1..If he cheated in a war-environment, I'd forgive him.
2..If his wife isn't providing the love and sex at home, I'd forgive him for straying.
All other reasons are just excuses for being unable to honor the marriage vows taken. If you want to fool around, you should not be married.
ps. How can you possibly be mad at the woman when it's your man who is doing you wrong?
2007-03-18 07:08:41 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you're asking questions for no reason there! Also sounds like you've been in some weird-o 'relationships'
PS: Sorry, but I'm assuming you're telling us that you ARE the 'teenager' in the 'worst case scenario' by the fact that you ended with 'teenager grins'. If not, my apologies for what I said above.
PPS: If I were to be cheated on, I would be furious at my man, but could only be angry at the girl if she *knew* he was with me. Not her fault if she was in the dark about me!
2007-03-18 07:06:39 · answer #8 · answered by Mrs C 3 · 0⤊ 3⤋
its perfectly reasonable to be mad at both parties. I always live by the motto: don't get angry get even. Sleep with the other woman's boyfriend
2007-03-18 07:11:15 · answer #9 · answered by Rocky 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well it time to move on. He will soon cheat on the snickering teenager too. Remember "He who laughs first laughs last"
2007-03-18 07:19:01 · answer #10 · answered by majean52 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋