How would you feel if your spouse called you a loser all the time?

Answer 1

I'd say, "Yes, I'm a loser. I married you!".

Answer 2

Sick to my stomach as you probably feel right now. I am sure you want to do something about your situation or am I assuming wrong? You know for your physical and mental health it is best for you to take the appropriate steps, which may or not mean divorce, depending on how cooperative your spouse is. Apparently your spouse is in a lot of pain and this pain is causing him or her to lash out. The best recourse of course if to stand back away from the line of fire. That way you'll be able to keep your head clear and plan your next step.
Things will work out no matter how they turn out and you'll be fine, just believe that.

Answer 3

Are you a loser? What I mean is, do you work, set and achieve goals, try to do good...or not? If the latter, your spouse has a point.

If the former, your spouse is abusive. Counselling, and if that doesn't work, I guess it's divorce.

Answer 4

Nah he is just insecure, he wants you to believe you are loser maybe you way beyond his means - a gem. I would think he doesn't want anyone to steal you or he just has an attitude. I would ask him to quit calling me that if it bothers you at all. I know I would probably walk away by now.

To me it does not sound like a healthy relationship, that is called verbal abuse. How long do you want that nickname depends all on you.

Answer 5

I would say -"yeah, you are right, look at what I married!"
Then I would pack up and leave!

You didn't say how long you have put up with this AH***
Do you have a "safe" place to go?
Are their children involved.?

Hon, this man is a worthless human being, YOU are NOT a
loser!!!!!!!!!!!!!!There is some reason you have stayed with him. But I feel you are just putting off the inevitable.
YOU ARE strong girl!!!!!! Do you have family or friends that can be there for you?
DONT give idle threats either. Just leave.
Right off - I bet he drinks. And I bet he has been physical with you.
Get out hon!!!! Think more of yourself!!!! Everyone deserves
better that that "Sh**".
I was in an abusive relationship when I was only 16.
PLEASE, I BEG OF THE OTHER WOMEN HERE TO SHARE YOUR STORY WITH HER. IF SHE GETS OUT, SHE WILL BE OK,SHE WILL FIND HERSELF AGAIN.
THERE IS LIGHT AT THE END OF THE TUNNEL.
JUST REACH OUT -LOTS OF PEOPLE ARE HERE TO HELP YOU.
Stand strong!!!!

Answer 6

I would feel that it is his/her way of lifting up his/her view of themselves. Putting someone down is saying "i'm better than you". I wouldnt accept that from my spouse. I would tell him "If you feel i'm such a loser then go ahead and get yourself a winner, or do you feel your not worthy of a winner"?

Answer 7

Leave and show them who the loser really is. Emotional and mental abuse is just as bad as physical over time.

Answer 8

I would decide that he or she was a rude, bad tempered, boorish loser and I would tell them that it's time they left for good to find someone else more to their taste.

Answer 9

Tell them its hurtful and then ask them what they would do differently if in my shoes and evaluate how realistic their response is. Point known is a person who always criticizes others all the time is insecure with themselves

Answer 10

I'd say - "You married a loser. So How you like me NOW!"

Then I'd spike a football.

Answer 11

Wow, it would feel horrible and not tolerated for long. No one deserves to be treated that way. There is no respect there and you need respect in a good relationship. Don't put up with it.