The thing is, i had been a good friend to them. We are a group. We are 4 people. Here in the four of us, 2 people: Zuleika and Charlene Denise are quite solid!!! They always left us out. Now, once the brought Kathleen with them and so I was left out. Then there was this time that Kathleen and I talked. And I found out that they are so backstabbing me!! Then they are acting so nice to me, but the truth is... The are just acting!! They have anger in me!! What to do?? I really wanted to end our friendship coz they are always hurting me and ruining me. But i just can't. WHAT THE HELL SHOULD I DO???
2007-03-17 23:22:04 · 5 answers · asked by cute10 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
Of COURSE you can end a friendship like this. What do you mean: you "just can't" ? You like finding out that your friends are NOT your friends ? You like finding daggers in your back ? You like being a doormat ? You like having people act like they like you when in fact they do not ? I'm a little confused here and, it seems, so are you ? What holds you back from taking yourself out of such a damaging picture ? That you don't have any OTHER friends waiting for you ? If there are other people out there who could/would be your friends, (and yes, there are) they probably don't want to be around the people who are hurting you!!! Are you afraid of the transition between being part of this group and becoming part of another ?
I would tell you - DON'T BE. Yes, it's hard, but - boy, - is it worth it. Handle this like the better person that you are. Don't make a scene - don't lower yourself to have to have an argument or accusations - (they will just use that against you) - just stop. Don't be available; don't go where they are going; don't talk about them; don't be with them - find a new life, new places, new friends. If they demand an answer as to why you have dropped them as friends, then tell them that you found it wasn't healthy for you to be with them. No more explanation needed. (Besides, if you don't lower yourself to their level, it will FRUSTRATE THE HELL out of them. What fun.)
And it will make other people more attracted to you. If you want good friends who care about you and will not back-stab, then BE that kind of person.
2007-03-17 23:39:54 · answer #1 · answered by two 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i feel u man...been there...get other friends dude...can't stand backstabing...me personally i have just 2 close friends...who are very loyal....and the rest a lot of pals and nothin more...change groups constantly till u found ur match...u can be close to many groups but still keep a certain distance so u don't feel that bad somethin happens in a group...be independent and leave those who don't deserve u, be strong, cold sometimes..and concentrate on u and not the group, good luck
2007-03-17 23:37:54 · answer #2 · answered by da man 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should talk to them and tell what you discovered about them. Also tell them what are the feelings you have for them. It is possible that you have misunderstand them and only a franc discussion will help you out. If they are really backstabbing you, then they are not your friends! (hmm am enjoying an ice-cream). Don't be like them. Tell them that you don't like their attitude towards you. Talk about your expecttions from them, and if they can't meet your expectations, find new true friends and make them jealous.
2007-03-17 23:36:54 · answer #3 · answered by Goldenheart 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honey even two girls are two much they will backstab at some point even to their thoughts if not to someone else... what were you expecting from four girls? Ignore the bit*hes and move on...
2007-03-17 23:33:26 · answer #4 · answered by Pearl 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Forget your friends, and try to find another that is faithful to you and will value you, your friendship.
2007-03-17 23:28:41 · answer #5 · answered by shekinah_78 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋